i was involved in a casual sex situation for about a month. I wasnt looking for anything serious. I hung out with the guy 2 weekends in a row (initiated by him) and now i suddently havent heard from him. I did text him sat night just to say hi, he wrote back right away, but still....i sort of feel like i did something wrong or i guess he just lost interest. I will never do this again...i feel cheap and dirty. I think it's worse because he is a shady person, now i'm like what was i thinking i must be as shady as he is.
2007-12-04 15:36:18 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dont be a beotch, you know what my question is.
2007-12-04 15:38:57 · update #1
it was very dumb...i guess it was a wild oat i needed to sow? It's crazy...i guess i need to be more careful and not give into all of my desires.
2007-12-04 15:41:46 · update #2
i guess i should have just only had sex with him once or twice...it ended up being a bunch of times.
2007-12-04 15:47:35 · update #3
Well you live and learn then. A man is just out for one thing and it isn't love. Better luck next time love.
2007-12-04 15:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by The Chaotic Darkness 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if it was a casual sex thing, then why are you looking for more? If that's all it was, casual, it's not that he lost interest, but let me say it again - it was casual. Means no feelings, just go with the flow. You shouldn't feel cheap and dirty, you didn't do anything wrong. Did you enjoy yourself? Did he make you do anything you didn't want to? Chalk it up to an experience, and move on with your life!
addendum - comment to abc - women CAN have casual sex - women aren't always falling in love, hot and heavy meaningless sex can be fantastic, to women as well.
2007-12-04 16:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by Fluff S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is for all the women out there:
ALL men are dogs!
Dogs have 4 purposes:
1 Eat
2 Dirty the yard
3 Sleep
4 Find a beotch, and she doesn't have to be willing. (better if she is but not necessary).
These priorities are not listed in any order.
2007-12-04 15:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont really sound like u are needing to ask anything u sound like u just needed to get this off your chest and wanted some advice on what u did. If u feel cheap and dirty learn from your mistakes and dont do it again
2007-12-04 15:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by cocoa 4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad. You went with your gut feeling and for some reason it didn't work out. The guy is probably a player and you were his ticket this time around. Don't blame yourself--just learn from the experience and move on. You will get over it alot sooner than you think. If you were drinking at the time it may take a week or two longer than if you were sober. Oh well, get on with your life, Better to learn from your mistake and try not to make the same one twoice!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-04 15:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by kadkadkad 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
bodily, as long as you utilize secure practices and are in a secure environment, then casual intercourse isn't a challenge. whether, society nonetheless judges ladies who're 'basic' far greater harshly than adult males. unhappy yet authentic. So the authentic possibility in casual intercourse isn't the actual act however the undeniable fact that individuals could think of badly of you for it. And adult males who think of you're an basic lay could perhaps attempt to take benefit. adult males tell one yet another issues purely like ladies do, so your acceptance could desire to get ruined authentic speedy. as quickly as that occurs, this is no longer basic to repair. for this reason in case you DO have casual intercourse, attempt to opt for your companions intently, and do issues in deepest (no longer raging below the impression of alcohol at your buddy's pool occasion, case in point!) to maintain gossip to a minimum.
2016-10-19 05:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your emotional response proves that there is no such thing as casual sex....particularly for women. There are always consequences and emotions....even for men.
Sex is not a substitute for love. Sex is not a substitute for acceptance. Sex is not a substitute for a healthy self-image. Sex is not a weapon.
You'll just have to learn and move on.
2007-12-04 16:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jack 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he saw it as a casual thing as well and feels no obligation to keep in contact with you.
Move past this and opt to stay away from casual sex in the future. All it brings is pain.
2007-12-04 15:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay you both had the understanding this was "just casual sex" it is what it is..what more do you want? if he's replying to your text messages then that means ya'll are still cool. ya'll are more than friends but less than lovers :) just have fun with it!!
2007-12-04 15:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your defiantly not a bad person or "shady" like he is. Your feeling some regrets I think 'cause its sounds like it was your first time having casual sex (excuse me if I'm wrong). But when you have casual sex it sort of sets this thing like there won't be any serious relationship, ya know?
2007-12-04 15:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I think you did the right thing by acting on your desires. Keep that up, you'll feel better in the long run.
2007-12-04 20:48:29 · answer #11 · answered by JONES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋