me and him are 22 years old ..i am done with my BA .. and he is still in college .. he wants to marry me now and my dad wants him to graduate first .. still two years to graduate so what can i do .. i love him to death .. i am afraid of losing him ...
2007-12-04 15:05:33 · 16 answers · asked by dodo s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
me and him are 22 years old ..i am done with my BA .. and he is still in college .. he wants to marry me now and my dad wants him to graduate first .. still two years to graduate so what can i do .. i love him to death .. i am afraid of losing him ...(he has two stores so he can support me fianancially)
2007-12-04 16:24:26 · update #1
you wait until he graduates.......don't be desperate....if he loves you; you won't lose him........if it's worth doing, it's worth waiting for......
2007-12-04 15:09:41 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marrying someone for the reason of not losing him is surely not a solid decision. Check again your motivation to enter into matrimony, whether it is intended to be a life time relationship or a temporary and casual one. Not just to respond to the call of your hormones, I hope.
What is your idea about the readiness and preparation to form a family ?
What is entering into a family life means to you ?
I believe these issues are, among others, the concern of your parent, and of other responsible and careful parent too.
If you can answer all those concerns and proof them that you are both serious and ready to form "a family" , then I believe that you will get their support.
If these concerns are too much or beyond comprehension for your "husband to be", then you should take a serious look into the relationship.
OK girl, please don't let your hormones control your future !
2007-12-04 15:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by aria 11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um first off you should trust that your fiance loves you enough.. I mean if you truely love each other you won't go looking for others and well you are going to get married, you will be with him the rest of your life. I think you should take the advice of your dad. I mean I'm 22, and I'm almost done with college but I've also found out that even though I didn't want to listen to my parents, they were right all the time about things even when I didn't want to hear it. You need to think about this I think, you should trust not to lose him and the fact your going out and your proposed to.. means you and your other aren't going anywhere else and will be together the rest of your lifes. just think
2007-12-04 15:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get a grip and a LIFE. whats two years. dad is right. take that time and plan and save HELLO. its not the end of the world. you should wait till he is finished with school and has SOME INCOME to help pay the bills. focus on getting you career on track and paying back some of those loans you owe. two yrs will be here before you know it. you have to honor your dad decision because he went to him and asked for his permission and dad said no not now but in two you will have may blessings. are you two pregnant or something and thats the rush. slow down and smell the roses. GodBless
2007-12-04 15:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your dad is thinking logically. If he still has two years left, he obviously is not in a financial position to help to support the two of you. He can't even support himself.
Since he is your fiance, the two of you are obviously committed. If it makes him feel more secure, set a date about two years from now. That way, he should have his education behind him and be in a position to help support you, and you will hopefully be established in whatever you are doing.
2007-12-04 15:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ummm, i am sorry i agree with your father. he needs to finish school so that he can obtain a job to support you and future children.
love can wait, if he loves you today than he would love you two years later.
and you should be smart enough to know that just by marrying someone does not guarantee that he is going to be with you forever. marriage does not keep a person in a relationship, it just make it more expensive to leave.
2007-12-04 15:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by karMA_DAME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try to live together for a while and get to know each other before marriage. Believe me, you don't want to be married so soon. This experience will test you and if is true, you will last forever, don't do things that maybe you will regret.
2007-12-04 15:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by Mar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please do not tell us the same old story we have heard for years. So, you are afraid of losing him if you do not marry him this very instant. If you are afraid of losing him what do you think marriage will make you feel like?????? The same.
You are afraid for a reason. And if you marry him for that fear you will be a fool.
2007-12-04 15:10:46 · answer #8 · answered by Babe 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You won't lose him if you WAIT to get married. If you do love him and he truly loves you, then waiting wont change anything but make you more ready for when the time is right.
Don't rush into anything. You're young still, like me. :o) Live and have fun.
2007-12-04 15:10:19 · answer #9 · answered by Blondee 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You do not need your fathers permission do you? You are an adult and if you want to marry and the two of you can support yourselves go ahead. You are an adult.
2007-12-04 16:34:36 · answer #10 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if he wants to marry you you shouldn't even be thinking that you could loose him and the only way to settle something like this is to get engaged but don't get married untill he graduates then everyone is happy
2007-12-04 15:11:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋