My girlfriend doesnt like it if I masturbate. I think its healthy but she doesnt agree, she says "if you're fullfilled with me theres no need for porn and masturbation and that in a way its cheating in my mind"...what should I do???
2007-12-04 14:52:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your screwed. She has insecurity issues and only wants you to think of her. If she is firm on that idea then you better re-evaluate your relationship. It is more natural and normal to masturbate than to believe that watching porn and masturbating is cheating. It is her problem, not yours.
2007-12-04 14:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by Cheri >^.^< 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It isn't wrong, almost everyone does it. Even though you are in a relationship there are times when you just want an immediate release without the romance and need to satisfy someone else. Plus guys (and many girls) enjoy reading porn and it contributes to a good fantasy life that often makes you desire your SO even more. Your gf is jealous and feels threatened and insecure that you don't find her desirable or that she doesn't meet all your needs. Her feelings may not be accurate but it will be hard to convince her of that. Why not indulge with her around, let her watch etc...that may make her feel less threatened if it is out in the open. Make it playful, ask her to read porn with you, or discuss how it makes you feel and how it heightens your desire for her. All you can do is try.
2007-12-04 23:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
In a marriage relationship, the needs of the spouse come first. If the spouse's needs are not being met, then masturbation is a form of adultery. If the spouse's needs are being met, then masturbation is not wrong. Don't give to another, even yourself, what belongs to your spouse. Meet your spouse's needs first. IF your spouse follows those rules as well, then your needs too will be met.
2007-12-04 23:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her your thinking ahead. It's been proven that masturbation can prevent prostate and testicular problems in the future. Tell her that she'd be on her back 24/7 because you're so hot for her, but by masturbating, you are allowing her the break that she needs.
2007-12-04 23:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by candice b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No masturbation is not wrong. In someways it can be a relationship saver. It's the one time when you don't have to worry about the other persons sexual needs. You can be totally selfish. Tel your girlfriend that she should try it herself. It's a great stress reliever.
2007-12-04 23:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find a different girlfriend. It's not wrong. It's normal and good and unless you really think you'll never want to do it again in your life, you need a different girlfriend. You don't want to wind up having to go to marriage counseling over something that is a normal bodily function and shouldn't be an issue at all in the relationship.
2007-12-04 22:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by Jen70 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like your girlfriend has idealistic notions about relationships. It would probably be difficult to discuss these things with her because she is wrapped up in a fanstasy regarding relationships. If you still want to be with this girl, then you are probably going to have to do one of two things:
1) Fight your nature to masturbate
2) Be deceitful with her
Both things can create problems in relationships. Perhaps you should find a girl who is more understanding.
2007-12-04 22:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
realize that your girlfriend lives on prude planet...
masturbation is normal and natural... everyone does it, including animals.... and those who say they don't, are usually lying.
masturbation has nothing to do with your relationship with your girlfriend.... she might take it personally because she's immature or uneducated on the subject. perhaps she could try it?
2007-12-04 22:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
From religion point of view mastubration is cheating as u think about sexy gals and then mastubrate but scientifically it is not harmful and even healthy.simply try not to mastubrate as she is available to u.
2007-12-04 23:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by sandeep j 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perfectly healthy. Wait till your married, if your not doing that you could go months without relief.
2007-12-04 23:08:24 · answer #10 · answered by Greg S 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋