I am very curious about this! I always wonder, if both the husband and wife have an extremely high sex drive, that puts them into this kind of lifestyle. Or does it just take for one [husband or wife] to be extremely horny for sex all the time to enter into this type of lifestyle. Thanks guys for your honest answers.
2007-12-04 14:51:24 · 13 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It just means that both husband and wife share similar sexual fantasies and that they have a great sex life together, they are secure in themselves and in each other, and therefore they are able to explore and share these fantasies together.
At least, those that do it for the right reasons and never have any issues with it do it for these reasons.
Those that have problems afterward almost 100% of the time were doing it for the wrong reasons, such as one person was doing it just to get their spouse off their back about it; it is just one person's fantasy and they are dragging the other along with them; one person was coerced, manipulated or "convinced" into doing it against their will; etc.
My wife and I fall in the fist category and have been enjoying the company of others for about four years now and yes, we are very happy. People constantly say that my wife is the most self-confidant woman they know and I don't think anyone that knows me would ever say I lack self-esteem.
And to those that make comments about morality... self-righteousness is not morality. :-)
2007-12-05 03:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having had a relationship with ONE man for 25 years- we had both situations. You just adapt to the one with the less drive at the moment- There is always that long shower if you can't go without the release! Over 25 years sometimes we had sex every day for a month - and then NOT for a month. The hubby got some BP meds that removed his total drive. We got that corrected very fast. I think the closest we were was just after each of our sons was born- we could not have sex but we needed to be close so we got lots of cuddling. I think that was the time I felt most loved.
2016-05-28 05:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it has to do with a high sex drive. It could be something that is needed to boost a low sex drive in both people. I don't think there's any way of saying for sure which one it is. It's going to vary from couple to couple.
2007-12-04 18:37:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would think both have to agree regardless of the reasoning behind it. if both are bored, horny, adventerous, etc. if one party doesnt agree then it just shouldnt happen plain and simple. you dont want to force your partner to do anything. a good tip to heat up the sex life is to just watch a movie (not a porno..that leaves nothing to the imagination) a sexy movie where very sexy situations are implied rather than flat out shown and then start having some great sex!!!
2007-12-05 00:56:32 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a third party in my marriage - my husbands job - and it definitely doesn't add to his sex drive. His sex drive is probably less than that of a Enoch.
2007-12-11 23:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually married people who bring in a 3rd soon end up finding themselves alone. Most marriages can't stand up after a 3 some.
2007-12-04 15:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
no it means both partners, husband and wife, have extreme self esteem problems and don't really like themselves...it has nothing to do with sex or a sex drive.....
2007-12-04 14:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
from my perspective, it means the husband and wife have no self respect or dignity left, don't care about their marriage and are relatively stupid...
threesomes and swinging are a set up for a future disasterous marriage.
2007-12-04 15:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
A 3some is great, if your planing on having one dint Liston to those people who say its Emoral. its great fun
2007-12-04 15:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay since you are asking for my opinion....I think both just have low morals...how can you really love someone and know and approve of them having sex with others?????
2007-12-04 15:01:06 · answer #10 · answered by InquiringMind 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋