Stay with your husband if he told you he loves someone else and never loved you? Would you be able to stay in the marriage with him or kick him to the curb?
2007-12-04 13:34:47 · 20 answers · asked by PurplePeace 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would personally kick him to the curb..
2007-12-04 13:48:15 · update #1
I would not stay with him. Let him go be with her. I would want to be with someone that loved me. Life is too short to be unhappy and I would be unhappy with him knowing that his mind was somewhere else with someone else.
2007-12-04 13:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No lie... that is EXACTLY what happened to me. Problem is, it happened 4-5 times in 6 years and each time I took him back (I ask myself why each and every day...but I truly don't know why). However, one day about 2 months ago I just "woke up" and I ended it. I can't think of many ways that one person could hurt someone else more so than that. If he wanted out .... he should have the balls to say.... "I want out" and that's exactly what I told my ex when I ended it. So even though I couldn't take my own advice I will offer it to you and hope that you are braver/wiser than I was. If he doesn't love you and never has then why do you still want to be with him? You know that it will ALWAYS be that way. No matter what you do and how much you love him.... it won't change the fact that he doesn't love you. I always thought (being young and naive) that I could love him enough for the both of us, if that makes a bit of sense?! Now I know it doesn't but when I was in the situation I would tell myself anything and everything to try to give myself reasons not to leave. Now I realize that no one deserves to be treated that way.
Also, if he cheated on you.... take all of his FU**ING money! Get it documented and have as much evidence as you can get.
Mine didn't cheat he just "fell in love" with some other chick that he'd only known for about 2 months. Do yourself a huge favor and get out now.
2007-12-04 22:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose there are a lot of considerations in marriage that are more important than love, but it would probably breed resentment if someone said this to a spouse. It would make you feel defeated- that no matter what you did it would never be enough. You may constantly compare yourself to the one he says he loves and feel that you fall short in his eyes. Not a healthy situation. If he was angry when he said it, talk to him again and see if you can sort out what he meant. If it is true, you have to evaluate what you need from a relationship. For most of us, love is a prime consideration.
2007-12-04 21:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First kick him between the legs then to the curb
2007-12-05 09:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know there are a lot of variables here, are there children involved is this a first marriage, are YOU in love with HIM. everyone is different. some marriages are convenient and if there is no plan to re-marry anytime soon they stay and make it open, it saves money, you split bills, keep family plan health insurance rates, and auto discounts. It just depends on you and what you can live with personally.
2007-12-04 22:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by angela S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The garbage is already at the door! Hell no, why stay in a love-less marriage. I would be devastated, but I would want to know the truth and not pretend that my spouse loved me.
2007-12-04 21:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly??? I told my husband that same thing. He clung to me like a vine that couldn't survive without me... it made me resist even more. I have been divorced from him for 3 yrs & I haven't regretted it. Yes, I am still alone. But I'm not unhappy. I can't tell you what to do, but I can tell you that if you force him to stay your life will not be as fulfilling as it will be when you find someone who will love you with all their heart... let him go. You will survive!
2007-12-04 21:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on the situation. If there were kids involved, then I would do everything I could to stay together for them. Maybe he could have his affair with his little hussy and I could have an affair with some guy...but the two of us could maintain a civil relationship under the same roof.
2007-12-05 02:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why stay if there isn't any love to go around? I mean sure you prolly loved him but if you ain't getting any loving then why stay married? I suggest get another man that actually cares about you and won't do anything like that
2007-12-04 21:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by ***ROCKSTAR*** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
turn the questions around, why would you ever want to stay in a love-less marriage? that's the real question. only you can anwser it for yourself, but i hope you value yourself enough to know that everyone deserves to be loved.
2007-12-04 21:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by Christina 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋