My husband just told me that he is going on vacation in two days.?

Question

He bought the plane ticket without telling me. Im extremely upset because he didnt tell me. Am I overeacting?

Answer 1

No, you are a team and should act as a team. Therefore, he should let you know about things like this.

Did he tell you where he was going, why he was going and how long he would be gone? Also who he would be with during this time?

I personally would have a hard time believing he was not having an affair, however, there may be some logical explanation.

Answer 2

I dont know what happened, but you should sit down and talk with him and ask why so sudden. If he bought the ticket at the same time as he told you, then there's no problem unless he knew long ago he was gonna buy the ticket. If he did buy the ticket without telling you, then you should ask him to let you know next time so that you can be aware of what's going on since you deserve to know. If he didnt tell you and this is the first time telling him you dont like it, then dont make a big deal out of it just yet. Sometimes, guys or even girls may not realize to do something that should be done, but its not intentional, its just innocent ignorance. If this continues to happen, then you have a right to be highly upset.

Answer 3

no u are not overeacting, and im with the other person about packing up the house but think things out and do things calmly, use this time wisely, see a divorce lawyer while he is gone and if there are several good ones in your area then pay the small fee if there is one, lots of the time there is no or a very small consulation fee, once you see them and tell them your story they cannot represent him and get all your ducks in a row so to speak, something is really going on when a guy pulls a stunt like this, get at least half of the money plus the cost of those tickets removed from the accounts and put in only your name, cancel all credit in your name so he cant run it up, if you have children, while he is gone get a tempory full custody order, if he is doing this you have no idea what he is doing and you propably dont want your kids around it until you know the full story, do everything that you can to protect yourself, your children, your credit and your future, oh and either file for divorce while he is gone or have all the paperwork ready to file as soon as he gets back, he may have already done this and is using his get out of town free card so you can be served, good luck

Answer 4

What? He bought a plane ticket without telling you!? That's such an uncool thing to do... unless he's planned it as a part of some kind of surprise for you, ask his intentions of leaving and to where? It sounds suspicious to me but then again, you didn't let on the reason he is taking this vacation. You have the right to know and he took you for granted. Yes, he has a right to his own space and time away but there's a way you go about these things and he didn't treat you with the courtesy and respect a wife should be treated.

Answer 5

It is not fair as you are a couple and these things should be discussed. My reaction would be to go to the airport with him and see who he is meeting up with??? and my other reaction if I wasn't going to leave him would be to buy myself a plane ticket to anywhere and make a similar announcement to him and if you have children just announce the day before you leave Oh dear you will have to look after the kids I'm off on a well earned break - See ya next week!!!! Yes I'd be looking for revenge I think. Could you maybe have a spy at the airport?? if you can't get there???

Answer 6

How do people go through life and not learn anything. You have all the married and crazy people around you and you still don't learn, you still lie to yourselves. Here are a few facts of life you obviously have not learned:

1. There is no Santa
2. Everyone lies (even to themselves)
3. Life is not fair
4. All men cheat (almost all women cheat)
5. Marriage sucks

Happy Holidays. If you want honest answers to other questions email I haven't lied for the last 3 years.

Answer 7

That depends upon where he is going and who he is going with. He should have told you ahead of time but he may be going on one of the macho type vacations with other guys or to a night club in New York with a couple of girls. you need to ask him where he is going and for how long, whether anyone else is going with him, and then decide whether to be there when he gets back or be moved out by then. You are supposed to be a couple and that means vacations together but unless there is a good explanation for where he is going and why, it is time to see the lawyer about the divorce.

Answer 8

Even though I am a married guy, I can't even take his side. I don't think you are overreacting.

I can't think of any reason for him to not tell you that he is travelling. It certainly sounds like either a gambling party to Vegas or golf trip. Unless, he is planning some surprise party in the near future??? But to not tell you, he is really brave or he doesn't mind sleeping in the doghouse.

My first thought was that he is meeting someone he doesn't want you to know about. I hope it all works out but it sounds very suspicious.

Answer 9

He is going on vacation in two days without you? I would be livid if that is the case. I would think he is going with someone else and told you at the last minute to guarantee that you could not say you were going too. Check into this.

Answer 10

oh dear, no you are most certainly not over reacting and have every right to be upset. my goodness...whats going on? are you guys not getting on?...rather you than me here 'cos I would go ballistic and cry probably....if you are not like me and have self control....he is expecing a scene and drama and you will shock the hell out of him if you remain placid. this is not normal. prepare your head here so any more shocks you are somewhat prepared for - i see more shocks coming..batton down the hatches 'cos theres a storm coming. i'm sorry to hear this and i do wish you strength and peace.