you found out your husband has been frequenting a sex site to find other women to have sex with. And he has also posted nude pictures of himself on this site, and has been emailing women & chatting with them. I found this out by accident, but it is true & I saw it with my own eyes. Should I confront him or what shoudl I do??
2007-12-04 13:02:26 · 17 answers · asked by majortravisfan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LOL... I would totally set him up... start writing him like a girl who's interested who happens to be from a nearby town... get some pics somewhere off the net of a really hot (but attainable) lady and send them to him.. then try to set up a "meeting"
Of course, he'll be stunned when it's you... what a better way to let him know you know...
2007-12-04 13:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Yes, this needs an immediate confrontation. Posting nude pictures of himself on-line crosses a very thin line between "just looking" and being an "active participant." Print it out (make a copy to keep aside, because he might try to destroy the copy you show him), sit him down, and say, "We have a problem," and ask him to explain what's going on.
After that, it's up to you to decide what you want to have happen. If he is addicted to porn, you may want to insist that he get counseling. If he has actually engaged in sex with other women, insist that he get tested for STD (and you get tested, too, unfortunately.) And if he resists, then you have to make a decision as to whether or not this is something your marriage can survive. I don't know your situation, children, etc.
Good luck.
2007-12-04 13:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, you should confront him! Generally marriage vows include something about faithfulness, and he is not being faithful to you. Talk to him about and lovingly ask him what's up and why he's been doing this, etc. Depending on how far things have gone (but it sounds like he has gone pretty far), I would suggest talking to someone outside of yourselves-- go to a counselor, pastor, older couple you respect, whatever. I think it's something that should be dealt with though, because your sexuality should be shared... and he should understand that. I know my husband and I would have a *long* chat if I ever discovered something like that.
2007-12-04 13:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...cover your tracks by printing, forwarding to another email, or somehow SAVING ALL THE DATA YOU'VE FOUND...
Secondly, don't blow it by admitting, to your hubby, of what you've found...at least NOT until you've copied/stored all the info.
Thirdly, NO MATTER what you ultimately decide to do, {stay and forgive, divorce, or wait it out, DO NOT, EVER EVER, tell him you have copied this data}. It truthfully is none of his business, and is only protecting yourself!
If 5 years pass, and he learns to behave himself...it is still a skeleton in his closet, which truly could cause you harm: physically and mentally/emotionally. You are the victim...not he. If he gets pissed off for your efforts to take care of #1, then he is feeling guilty for not doing it himself. He is selfishly putting you at harms way. There is no shame, and it is NOT a crime, to protect yourself....even from the one person who isn't supposed to be doing this terrible stuff to you in the first place!
Think highly enough of yourself to want better, or at least what is decent...If he is unable to treat you right, hire an attorney, disclose what you have found, and file for legal action...If this is the straw that broke the camel's back (if he's done other crappy things to you), hurry in your efforts to steps 1...
Best of luck...Remember: You are not deserving of this...after all....he is YOUR husband, made those vows to you, and is truly being disrespectful and cruel by his selfish actions....Life is too short to tolerate it...
2007-12-04 14:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and deal with it. Before you listen to all the retarded answers and lies here are the facts of life:
1. There is no Santa
2. Everyone lies (even to themselves)
3. Life is not fair
4. All men cheat (almost all women cheat)
5. Marriage sucks
Happy Holidays. If you want honest answers to other questions email I haven't lied for the last 3 years.
2007-12-04 13:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree with wildflower set it off. Make him feel like the stupidest person in the world. Men are so damn stupid. I would divorce him too. Once a cheater always a cheater. Now you will always be so up tight about everything and you will have a hard time trusting him.
2007-12-04 13:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by Nae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront him and I would pack his stuff. I would not be able to stay with this man. How do you know that he has not had sex with someone already? I could not stay with a cheater and he is getting ready to cheat if he has not already. Looking for sex would be enough for me.
2007-12-04 13:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should confront him, and find out why he is doing this. You need to find out what is wrong in your marriage...maybe seek some counseling to help resolve any issues you both are having. Good luck.
2007-12-04 13:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by dresh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES... confront him immediately! Ask him what it is he is doing & why? Most generally, he is wanting to get caught, so figure out exactly how this makes you feel before you speak your mind... First see what he has to say!
2007-12-04 13:06:37 · answer #9 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would print out the ad, picture and anything else that's available, so he can't try to deny anything. Then it's time to have that talk, I would want to know why he's doing this.
If I can't get him to talk, it's time to get a lawyer.
2007-12-04 13:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋