My fiance and I just had a major falling out. I smashed the car today (my car) and after explaining to him it was my fault, he felt like playing video games and said he didn't want to deal with this right now. I asked for a hug, and he didn't want to give me one. So of course, i got upset... yeh, I sound needy but I really needed a hug, after all I was so upset and angry with myself, I didn't need him to be angry at me too. I said he should be supporting me and that he is not being there for me and he got REALLY angry to that. Who is in the right here?
2007-12-04 12:58:55 · 11 answers · asked by cometthegrommit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with you. It was an accident. You wrecked the car and it was your fault and you do not need flack from him. We all screw up and make mistakes. It will not be the last one that you make. I am sure that you are mad enough as it is. You were probably upset and could have used a hug. He is being childish. Girl you need to think about this. Is this is how he is going to handle problems in your life after you are married? There will be a lot to deal with and there will be rough times. Is he going to be immature and play video games then also? If you have to deal with everything alone you do not need a spouse. I would give this some serious consideration. He was not there for you and he should have been.
2007-12-04 13:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not used to being ignored or neglected by my husband and in a situation like yours, he would've been kissing and hugging me, making sure nothing happened to me. He wouldn't have cared if it was my fault... You definitely should have gotten your fiance's undivided attention; comforting hugs and kisses were in order. I don't know what could be going through his mind to act like that when you clearly needed his attention; he didn't even show any concern. One question (from my husband): How many times have you "smashed" your car since you've been with him?
2007-12-04 21:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are kind of in the right maybe he deals with things that go wrong different than you do.And you being needy isn't good either just let him play his video games, but don't have a pity party. Just go about your business and when the time comes( and it will) tell him it's over and done with and you don't wanna talk about it .
2007-12-04 21:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by answer machine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'm running the situation in my own head and here's how it would have played out: My fiancee would have hugged me first and asked if I was okay, then got the story from me, probably tease the hell out of me for my part in the accident and the evening would have proceeded.
Dinner, a little tv, maybe a walk...but then again, that's how it's supposed to go, your fiancee sounds like his priorities are mixed up.
2007-12-04 21:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you both have valid opinions yes you deserved a hug but maybe you hubby needed time so that he can approach the situation without hurting you further and then you told him that he wasn't supporting you maybe that is why he flew off the handle you both just need to reconnect forgive each other first and then speak your minds without knocking the others opinion
2007-12-04 21:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by been there and know now 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Needy
adj., -i·er, -i·est.
1. Being in need; impoverished. See synonyms at poor.
2. Wanting or needing affection, attention, or reassurance, especially to an excessive degree.
Sound like anyone you know?
2007-12-04 21:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by stonedpigeon1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a very caring person (yes, that is definitely sarcasm). He could have at least given you hug. I'm on your side.
2007-12-04 21:05:17 · answer #7 · answered by seba2u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think He could have and should have been supportive of you. He knew you were angry at yourself. He was selfish to think of Himself and just return to his video game - that was very rude actually. good Luck !!
2007-12-04 21:38:08 · answer #8 · answered by casper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right, when you love some one whether you agree with them or not you should be there when they need you to be. He needs to apologize to you.
2007-12-04 21:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by YEAH! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right. Poor man. I will pray for him so that you don't get married and completely destroy his life.
2007-12-04 21:45:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋