Where can I go to get away for a few days?

Question

This is going to sound weird, but I'm trying to figure out a place to go for a couple nights to a week. The purpose is to give my husband some time away from me and to himself to do whatever he wants to do. He never has ANY time to himself, and I'm constantly around him when he's not at work. I think a little seperartion would be healthy for our marriage and would give him a chance to actually miss me for once, ya know? The problem with that is that I can't just go to a friends house or my parents house or something and try to explain everything I just explained ... that's not really normal, lol. And plus my husband doesn't really like the idea. So I need to come up with a camp.. or a retreat... or something where I can spend a few nights away for a more legitimate reason. Does anyone have any ideas of where I could go without my husband to get away??

Okay a lot of people are missunderstanding and assuming things. I didn't ask for what you thought about my marriage.. I asked for ideas of places to go. This isn't coming from a selfish modive. I want to do this for him, and the part I would get out of it is being missed. I don't need any "me time", believe me. That's ALL I have. He works all the time, and then when he comes home I'm always with him. He hasn't been alone other then work since we got married. I want him to have a little free time again where I'm not demanding his attention. He's said he wants this, he just worries about me being away from him. He wants me to be at home, but leaving him alone which is hard when our home is one room - a stuido apartment. It's easier for me to just leave somewhere rather then try to be in the same room, but leaving him alone.

I live in the greater Seattle, WA area. I need something like a ladies retreat, exactly. That's what I'm asking for. Inexpensive would be a plus.

Answer 1

take an interest course
join a gym
do volunteer work
go visit a lonely senior
go to the animal shelter and take a dog for a walk
volunteer to be a big sister
offer to babysit for someone who needs a break

Answer 2

It sounds like you want a break from the marriage not your husband. This is strange you should be happy to spend time around your husband and he with you. I think there is something deeper to this that your not saying. Your husband has time to miss you when he is at work. I'm with your husband this sounds very odd and I would not like the idea either.

Seperation is not healthy for a relationship if anything a spouse may think they can do with out you around. Why do you think couples who try the trial seperation crap never really get back together they just get a divorce.

I think if you want out of the marriage you should be talking to your husband about that not this detour.

Really if it's just a couple of nights why not go to a spa retreat for the weekend if you can swing the cost.

If he is not keen on the idea why do you think he needs time away from you it sounds to me like he is fine. You really are not making any sense.

God Bless and Best Wishes.

Answer 3

I don't have any specific ideas, but perhaps you could go some place or event that is just for ladies like a spa or retreat for ladies.

This will make it easier to explain to family or friends because they will know why he could not go because it's just for ladies.

I think it's quite normal for couples to want to spend some time away from each other once and awhile, as long as you are not doing this all of the time, which could then indicate a problem with the marriage.

If your husband does not like the idea, then you really need to find out why it bothers him. Discus it with him, and don't just up and go without having this talk. He should respect your feelings, but you should also respect his.

Happy marriage to you both.

Answer 4

If your husband doesn't like the idea ya might want to put this idea to rest. Instead of you guys taking time apart try going on a vacation someplace just the two of you.

Or when he is home maybe go out for a few hours and see a movie alone to give him some time w/o you. Send him to get a massage or something to relax him.

I find spending time apart helps some marriages but only a few hours not days. Just one day he's off kind of make yourself scarce go shopping out w/ a girlfriend something yanno give him the house to himself. :)

Answer 5

I totally understand what you mean. Even in a marriage you both need space away. That's why I think it is important to have your own set of Friends and hobbies. Girl why don't you go to a nice hotel with a spa, and Jacuzzi and have a some "you" time.

Answer 6

Although the scriptures do say that from time to time a couple may choose to spend time alone, it comes with a warning.
That warning is that you open both of you up to allow Satan the Devil to put temptation of sexually immorality before you that if you were with your spouse, you would not give a second thought to.
Is that the price both of you are willing to pay for a few hours of solitude?
Think about it.
Guilty conscience for both of you, pending divorce, children growing up without the other parents them to guide and to love them on a regular basis.
I think if you do this, you both will regret it in the near future and have a lifetime of wishing you had done things different.

Answer 7

Why don't you send him the on the get a way, it sounds more like you want a little vacation. while your bored at home your living it up

Santa will place you on the selfish list

Answer 8

Plan a girl's weekend or something...get your girlfriends together and go shopping out of town and maybe get a hotel. It is perfectly normal to get away once in a while.

Answer 9

how about a gym? the library? Why can't you just go visit Friends or family without explaining why you want to be there. you don't have to tell anyone anything you don't want to. What about a womens favorite past time SHOPPING?

Answer 10

If you are just trying to come up with an idea of how to get away without him being suspicious, let me know. WIll be glad to give you advice, good luck!