I just had my first son in August. I'm 16 years old. I found out I'm pregnant, again. My children are going to be super close in age. I understand. The father (of both of my children) is my fiance. He is 22 & he now has 2 jobs. We have our own apartment & are making it okay. We have our families to help us if we need any help.
Well, my family nor my fiances family knows were pregnant again. We're very scared to tell our families due to the fact were not really prepared to have another child & we JUST had a baby recently. We don't agree with abortion & we are NOT putting our baby up for adoption. Those are not choices. We plan on keeping our baby. I'm still in school & I still will be able to be in school once we have this baby.
How can I reveal to our families that we're pregnant once again?
2007-12-04 12:12:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Please do not judge me on being 16 & being with a 22 year old. Please don't judge me & tell me to be more careful. I love my life. If I could do it all over again, I wouldn't. I love my son & fiance.
Please don't judge me for anything at all.
2007-12-04 12:15:45 · update #1
I live in Ohio so the age of consent is 16.
2007-12-04 12:31:11 · update #2
FIRST OFF: I KNOW LINDSEY IN REAL LIFE.
Hey Sweetie.
First off, congrats on the baby. Secondly, keep your head up. You have a wonderful husband. He takes care of you & Jayden. I know for a fact he'll take care of this new baby. Just keep your head up & try not to stress to much. Just tell your parents. If you need me there for support or whatever, call me. I will take help you take care of the new baby as well. Call me & let me know what happens.
Hopefully you don't have twins (: You have twins on your family & then your fiance is a twin. That would be crazy if you had twins. Real crazy. Goodluck, babe. Call me & talk to me. I'll be home in a few hours.
2007-12-04 12:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, I'm not saying this to "judge" you, but seriously... that was a deeply DUMB thing to do! Even if he's 22 and working two jobs, that's still not a financially secure future for your little family.
However, what's done is done. Just tell your folks and get it over with. They'll hiss at first maybe, but then everything will settle down. However, you probably should get married ASAP! It'll make life easier, and will help when you are old enough to go to college. If you're married, you can file for financial aid on your own. In fact, the government will probably pay YOU to go to school, because they will give you cost of living stipends.
Anyway, just tell your parents, and get ready for life to get even more responsible. One is hard, two is trouble! ;-) After this though, seriously consider doing some family planning. Use condoms (I'm not a fan of chemical birth controls, they're a health hazzard) and time your cycles if you can. Babies are a blessing, but you want to make sure you can give them a safe and secure future. Good luck!
2007-12-04 21:58:46 · answer #2 · answered by littleJaina 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not about to judge you ("judge not, or you will be judged" right?) it sounds like you are doing everything you can to make your family's life a good one. Being young doesn't mean that you can't be a good mom or a good wife or have a good life. I got pregnant when I was 17 and my boyfriend (who is now my husband) was 20 and we have both worked very hard and our life is great-if I can do it, anyone can!
Don't tell your parents until you're ready to-cause it's not going to be an easy thing-and when you do tell them, remind them how great you are with your son and how responsible your fiance is (he has two jobs to support you) and how even though your son was a surprize (I'm assuming) it worked out well with *him*, so it'll work out with the new baby too.
Most likely they'll be upset-try to imagine if your son was in the situation you are in-but they'll get over it eventually. They did with your son, right? And I'm sure once the baby comes they'll be thrilled to have another grandchild, no matter how close together the kids are.
Congrats on your newest little one!!
2007-12-04 20:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by lovelymrsm 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
almost everyone in my family has had a baby under the age of 18 my one cousin is a single mom of 5 her 1st when she was 15 and she had another 1 1/2 yrs. later then another 1year later then twins about a year and a half after that. she is doing it all on her own and doing good so i think you will be fine especially if you have someone there to help you he sounds like a pretty good guy he is working hard for you guys. just make sure you finish school and take good care of those babies you will be fine. and tell them on the phone its easier that way if anything goes wrong you can always hang up. dont listen to people who say you are to far apart i met my husband when i was 15 and he is 6 years older than me who cares as long as you love eachother and congrats on the babies. they are a wonderful gift.
2007-12-04 20:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by kayla f 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was 19 when I had my 1st daughter. I had just graduated from school and everything and my b/f and I got married a month before our daughter was born. Anyhow, I ended up pregnant with my 2nd daughter when my 1st was only about 2 months old.. (my daughters are 11 months apart).. I am now 20 years old.
Anyhow, I told my grandma (who raised me. i didnt care what anyone else thought) that I thought I was preggy.. after I got it comfirmed I just flat out told her....i am sure your family will support you if they are already supporting you now. but there isnt really any way around it other than just telling them. my hubby told his parents over the phone about our 2nd child. if you are financially stable and still plan on gooing to school (which I will tell you now, 2 babies are hard to handle.. a lot of stress.. my youngest is 3 weeks old.. my oldest just turned 1 today)...anyhow, if you are both stable, then it shouldnt matter what others think.
2007-12-04 20:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by I ♥ my irish twins! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is quite simple: you and your fiance are out making it on your own and taking responsibility. Honestly, and it saddens me to say this, but my daughter (19) and her husband (23) still to this day cannot seem to get it together. You are living your lives and I think you two deciding on keeping your baby is really the only option you have. Oh, and if you waited until you were financially prepared to have another baby, it would never happen. Good luck and just remember honesty is the best policy and you owe no one anything if you both are supporting yourselves.
2007-12-04 20:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by snowman68 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hahaha, oh boy. I know just how you feel.....I am terrified to tell my parents something like this too.
Do you have any siblings or other relatives you are close to or more comfortable with?
I was terrified to tell my mom when I was pregnant, and even more terrified to tell her we were excited and wanted to keep it................even though I was 19 turning 20, already engaged to my long-term boyfriend before we ever found out we were pregnant and we were out on our own and everything, i was STILL terrified. I ended up calling my sister and telling her, and letting her inform our mom. I know that may seem like a complete cop out, but some people are just no good with confrontation ((me, i hate it, i wuss out so easily when it comes to confrontation)) and if you have someone you are much more comfortable with to help you tell your parents that can be a big help ----- after my sister told my mom, everything was great........and I understand that your situation is obviously a much more touchy situation, but it is a commonly known thing that women are actually more fertile after giving birth, and it is highly hihgly common for this thing to happen, even when you are using condoms it still happens from time to time because of how fertile the woman can be after giving birth.
Maybe that can be somethng your families may understand, and if you are taking care of you son now, you are sitll in school, your fiance is working overtime and you guys are out on your own already ---- that sounds like a lot to be pretty damn proud of, especially at your age, so thats gotta count for something. They have to be able to see what you've acomplished and they have to be proud of that, regardless of it being an inconvenient or not a perfect situation, they gotta be proud of what you are accomplishing and doing regardless of being a young teen mother, hopefully they will see that and be open and willing to support you guys on this.
My only advice i can give on actually telling them though is try to find a friend, sibling, other relative tha tyou are close and comfortable with to help you out a lot with it. Maybe them knowing and be able to work with you on telling them can destress the situation a bit.
Good luck to you.
--Mordi
2007-12-05 09:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mordi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you know what you want, so, as hard as it will be, you have to tell them. Honesty is the best way. Don't wait too long, because that can cause more hurt than good (my sister waited until she was 8 months along before telling us). From what you've said, it sounds like your family is very supportive. Just keep that in mind and just tell them. Good luck with everything!
2007-12-04 20:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its all different ways to tell them! you could just play it out and wait till you are bigger and then let them know! I would just make sure that you explain to them that you are still dont regret having another baby on the way but wish that you would have waited! You are older and sound like you are mature enough to just tell them! oh and i am not a teen mom but dont let any of these people who comment hurt your feelings because in the end none of us are going to be there to make the decision1 good luck sweetie
2007-12-04 21:17:28 · answer #9 · answered by lovingme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best option. You need to tell both families because they have the right to know and it'll be easier on both of you, if you don't have to hide such a big secret. After this child is born you really need to talk to your doctor about getting onto birth control and use a condom every single time.
2007-12-04 20:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by Madison 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋