Guys does your gf make you wear a condom if you are in a commited relationship w/ her? I have been dating my gf for about 3 years now and she is going to be my future wife (soon). However she still makes me wear a condom. She is not on birth control (dont ask me why she is not, she has given me many reasons but I dont want to go into that). Also she says even if she was on birth control I would still have to wear a condom. Any advice from both guys or girls on this?
2007-12-04 12:12:33 · 10 answers · asked by bluenote12482 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sounds like she REALLY REALLY doesn't want to get pregnant right now. The pill isn't all that trustworthy...I know a LOT of people who have gotten pregnant while on the pill, and she probably does too. If she's not willing to go on birth control (sometimes it just messes with our bodies too much, gives me massive migraines) you're just going to suck it up and wear your rain hat if you still want nookie.
2007-12-06 19:11:41 · answer #1 · answered by Hamlette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my boyfriend for four years and am on birth control. During the week im off the pill, yes he has to wear a condom. Other than that we don't use one unless i skipped a pill or something. Im an not fixin to take the risk of getting pregnant not only cause I don't want kids but also cause we aren't married yet nor can we afford it. Having a kid is very serious and expensive and its forever, so if you aren't ready for the responsibility then don't take a chance. No other methods work besides condoms and birth control. Not the pull out method or only doing it a certain times of the month, a female can get pregnant at anytime and it only takes once. I would like to know why shes not on some sort of birth control.
2007-12-04 12:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by dawggurl47 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to decide if you can live with that. For many guys it's not a problem, but if it is for you, then you two may have to decide if you're compatible. For me, I expect only long-term relationships, and I would rather skip sex than have it with a condom.
When my wife divorced me, I would use condoms while dating just to make sure we're compatible before we commit to the disease risk. However, I didn't really enjoy sex with a condom, except to show off. I was just making sure I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, and we need to find out if things are going to fit right. Some women just aren't going to like having this thing bruising her cervix every day or two, and others love it to death.
I would respect a woman's decision to never have unprotected sex, but I would also realize we aren't compatible for a long term relationship. Not everybody is, and if I could make myself happy to use a condom, I would. I'd love to go around sleeping with anybody that's willing, but I'm a huge germophobe. And sex with a condom is like watching a video of myself having sex. It's a terrible combination, but that's just how it is, and I can't help it.
I'd rather date a woman who can't have sex ever (like a medical reason), than one that wants sex but insists on a condom. I just don't enjoy it, and I don't want to do it.
2015-06-08 18:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by Hard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been together for about 10 years. I always made him wear a condom. I wasn't ready to become pregnant yet. Good thing too because when we decided to go ahead and have a baby I got pregnant the FIRST time.
2007-12-04 13:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by ILoveBeingAMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, it's good that you guys are using a condom -- even if she was on birth control. Too many people have gotten HIV or other STDs because they just *KNEW* that their partner was faithful, and wouldn't use a condom. As enamored as you two might be with each other, you never know 100% if the other is messing around with someone else. I think always using condoms is the responsible thing.
And on another topic, several of my friends don't use birth control because it makes many women gain a lot of weight.
2007-12-04 12:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by kt42 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Smart girl! Even if she was on BC pills there is always a chance that the dosage is off just enough for an egg to be released and her get pregnant. Also BC pills have many more side effects then a condom will have.
I'm an aunt for exactly the opposite reason. My sister believed BC pills was enough to prevent pregnancy. Ends up that it wasn't.
2007-12-04 12:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by starfire978 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes. She's a smart lady. My advice is that you listen to her and keep doing it. She's being the smart one here. Even if she WERE on birth control (though it is unlikely), and especially if she isn't, she could end up pregnant without the use of condoms. If she is not ready to be a mother and you are not ready to be father RIGHT NOW THIS VERY MINUTE, then it would be foolish to have sex without a condom, even if you are getting married.
2007-12-04 12:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes i still make him, I am on birth control however. But i do it because although I love him and am marrying him in a few months. Neither of us are ready for a child yet, financially or emotionally and i am just paranoid and can have a better time if i know i will not have a child.
2007-12-04 12:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
no i dont...well we are having a baby(im 27wks pregnant) so the chance of getting pregnant isnt there anymore...but even before getting pregnant we never used protection and that is why we are having a baby lol...but we know we are going to get married and are going to be 2gether so it doesnt bother us. maybe after you get married things will change...maybe try to show her a differant point a view...like ask her what about when she is ready to have kids and wants you to stop wearing them but you refused?...maybe she will see things differant and get on birth control for you.
2007-12-04 12:26:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have been with my hubby for 5 years and i never,never made him wear a condom only cause i knew me and him would always be together and going strong as we are till this day and so forth
2007-12-04 12:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by My Hubby Rob&Son Dakota Robert 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋