Pretend you have been chatting with someone online for a while, possibly a few years, and you've seen them on webcam, seen pictures, talked on the phone, and you consider this person to be one of your best friends or potential lover, but you find out right before you go to meet them, that the person is in lets say, a wheelchair, or is overweight, or some other flaw that you didn't know about, would you still meet that person?
(Also, the person didn't lie to you about being overweight or any of the above...it just never came up in conversation.)
2007-12-04 11:58:28 · 16 answers · asked by Chelsea Meow 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well that's a classic moral dilemma, and it's something that could really happen. When you go and meet someone they should only ever be "potential" - I could never fall in love (or lust) without actually meeting face to face. I would carefully hide my feelings until I had actually met them, and be non-committal so as not to be embarrassed or humiliated by any revelations about them which might emerge. However, many people are not as poker-faced as me - and might end up feeling awkward or having to extract themselves gracefully from an embarrassing situation.
Personally I would meet them, but I might be play-acting to hide my true feelings.
2007-12-04 12:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 12:48:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I talked with someone for three years and something like that did not come up inconversation I would be pretty upset. Even if they said "Well you did'nt ask" is a bad excuse. That means I have to go through all possible scenarios to see if they have some weird condition or injury. They should have been up front with it from the beginning. I would still talk to them but I would be extremely disappointed in them.
2007-12-04 12:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by G Money 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't meet anyone I've met on-line. Even if they act like they're your BFF, there's that 20% chance that it's all fake.
But if I was going to, I wouldn't let the fact that they were in a wheelchair (etc.), or anything else for that matter, keep me from meeting them. If something was to ever happen, I would help them get fit, though. =D
2007-12-04 12:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we talk 2 them because we find them in some ways attractive..
and then when you actually meet someone your mind start to think the negative thoughts so..just listen 2 ur heart and ask urself why did u talk 2 da person at the 1st place..?
2007-12-04 12:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by woohoo! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOuldnt matter a bit. The over weght kills me though cause i like to stay fit and a potential lover needs to be fit for me (no offense this is my opion so sorry if i offended u, honestly)
2007-12-04 12:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by Secrets 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, unless there has been some agreement, implied or explicet, to be physically intimate, but the "flaw" is a major turn off.
2007-12-04 12:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Monkeyboi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would still meet them and see if there is something wrong. When you meet someone in person, you get to know them better compared to online.
2007-12-04 12:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by happy14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt meet them if i were u. Who knows for sure that there nice it cloud be a set up u never know. i wouldnt take the risk of getting hurt or even killed!
2007-12-04 12:03:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, 'cause in the end you want the friend or the love the person provides...nothing else (physical). All inside
2007-12-04 12:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋