and what if you tear? will you ever feel the same pleasure as before?
2007-12-04 11:57:52 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Yes, you will. It might even be better but it will take time. Be patient.
2007-12-04 12:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like everyone else said, sex is better after the delivery, but the reason is because your muscles work sooo much better after delivering a baby. Chances are you will tear (sorry!) but hopefully it won't be too bad, if you have an epidural and they give you a urinary catheter, there is a chance that you can tear into your urethra, that's what happenned to me. The first few weeks will be bad, but advil and tylenol will take care of it. The most important thing is to keep yourself clean, to avoid infection, they will give you a little bottle in the hospital to wash yourself off with after urinating, and you won't beleive how good that will feel!! I used mine for a good 6 weeks. You can put epsom salts in the bottle and shake it up to help with the healing. Also, a little helpful hint.....diaper rash cream helps speed up the healing time. Basically, be gentle with yourself and be very vigilant about cleanliness and you will heal well. As for the sex part, I think it was about 2 months before I felt to have intercourse, some people are ready faster, but I got an infection. The nurses said whenever you feel that you could comfortably wear a tampon. But there is a mental block thing too, because you are afraid that's it's going to be bad, just take it slow, I let my husband touch me there a little more each time ( he got his lifetime's worth of BJ's during this time!) until I felt ready. The only other thing I can advise you is that you will be surprised at how "dry" you are for the first few months, but a little KY will help with that. (I used to put it on myself before coming to bed as I felt it ruined the mood to pull out a tube.) And so finally, now sex is much better than before as I have stronger muscle tone after.
2007-12-04 16:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by Yasi's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Every woman is different. Whether you tear or not or require stitches it will feel slightly different but still pleasurable. The worst thing you can do is start having sex too early. You need that time to heal. I found that out the hard way after my first bub. Hubby was all over me 2 weeks later. And that was a little too early for me. But when ever you and your partner decide you are ready then take it nice and easy. But make sure that you are feeling ready and you will be fine.
2007-12-04 12:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kym M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. I had the worst tears possible (4th degree) where my doctor took 45 minutes to sew me up as far as she could reach. I'm the same if not better than before birth and pleasure is the same. I'm 20 weeks pregnant with my 2nd and have no desire now.
2007-12-04 12:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's better! Sex hurt me for a long time, but after giving birth (and tearing badly) it was the most pleasure I'd ever felt. And there's nothing to compare the intimacy of an ordinary couple, than a couple who have a child together. There's nothing that brings you closer.
2007-12-04 12:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by writeaway 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your under a doctor and you go to a delivery room you will be cut and sewed back up after you del. so you will not tear. Also your body can return to the same size it was and the nerves are all their just waiting to receive pleasure again.
Yes, Virginia, their is a Santa Claus, and all will be fine!
enjoy the new baby, and yes you will, and life too!
Johnny
2007-12-04 12:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by John M 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's much better after having children and really great after menopause. When all of the concern about getting pregnant is over, both can really enjoy the act. I'll be 70 in January and still enjoy sex. I just dont talk about it because I dont want to scare some people-especially my children-lol.
2007-12-04 12:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by phlada64 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes it will be the same. ive have 4 babies and sex is even better! u will heal in a few weeks. just take things slowly at first, then work ur way back to how ever u like it.
2007-12-04 12:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by PRINCESS DI 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
They will sew you back up. Sex is awesome after birth! I have two kids and there has not been a negative impact on my sex life.
2007-12-04 12:01:45 · answer #9 · answered by some girl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I tore badly after the first, healed well, no problems.
Sex is better now then before (at least I think so)
2007-12-04 12:00:15 · answer #10 · answered by Cinthia Round house kicking VT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, sex is fine....even if you tear..it heals and sex goes back to being what is was before....
2007-12-04 12:00:43 · answer #11 · answered by Nae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋