Should rape ever be blamed on a man......?

Question

...If he is the victim? If so, would there be any circumstances where he'd be to blame?
Could it possibly be because of the way he might be dressed or the way he might act towards other men or women for that matter?
I don't think any man would be to blame for being raped under any circumstances, so I'd like to know why apparently some people think women ask for it by the way they act or dress?

Balthasar, last time I saw, women weren't walking around and going up to men asking to be raped. So, in your little pea-brain, you probably think any woman out there is for the taking just because of your own preconceptions about what is appropriate or not with her dress or behaviour.

Vanessa, I have the right to ask a question if I like. If you don't like it, then you don't have to be here.

Panos, dangnammit lol! Stop making me laugh :P

Feminist cook f, men can be raped up the rear end you know.

Answer 1

Yes, it is a good question! And no, if a man is raped it is NOT his fault ~ he is the victim, and deserves sympathy and support.

As one in every 33 American men will be raped at some time, this is not something people can afford to ignore or pretend will happen to 'someone else'.

Unfortunately, many men do not seek help from services such as Rape Crisis because they are afraid they have been targetted because they are gay or have been 'provocative' in some way.

This is NOT true. The reasons for rape are in the twisted mind of the rapist, NOT the behaviour, lifestyle, age or appearance of the victim.

If you are a man who has been raped, please seek help and support.

I have put a link below to a site where you can find some places where your confidentiality will be respected and you will be listened to with respect and support.

Best wishes :-)

Answer 2

I don't know what the incident of rape is in Islamic societies where women have less opportunity to go out on their own or in mixed company because rape is disgraceful and the woman will be punished for it and sometimes killed because they are considered to have put themselves in the position to be raped. I don't know the incidence of rape in societies where women go naked or in nudist colonies. Female American soldiers are being raped and they aren't dressed provocatively. I don't think that provocative dressing has a lot to do with it. However, if you are going to consider date rape or leaving your drink unattended at a club where anyone could spike it or walking around either dressed conservatively or provocatively where it is dangerous for anyone to go, you are upping the chances. A very small segment of the society rape women so I think that the blame should be placed on the men who do. It is an act of power and not sex which is why 90 year old women are raped in their homes. Some people (men and women) have rape fantasies but it doesn't include a brutal attack by a stranger out to hurt them or grabbing and hurting a random woman. I don't think most men fantasize raping a woman they see because she wears very short skirts. Besides, anyone can have any fantasy. It is reality where rape occurs.

Answer 3

No one that is a victim of rape should in anyway be made to feel that they are responsible. It doesn't matter if the victim is a man or a woman. When people suggest that the victim is to blame they are basing their statements on the victims lifestyle. People tend to judge people by who they are, what kind of work that they do, where they live etc. They have the misinformation that you are more likely to get raped if you place yourself in unhealthy situations. This is incorrect. Rape has nothing to do with how you dress, act, work, or where you live. Rape is about control. The rapist needs to have control over someone as long as he feels he can gain the control over the other person nothing else plays into his decision to commit the crime. Case in point the rapist that rapes a 89 year old woman, the priest that rapes an alter boy, or the man that rapes a baby or even the woman who rapes other woman or men.

Answer 4

Just as a woman who has been raped shouldn't be blamed for what happened to her...neither should a man in the same situation. And just like with women...there would still be no circumstances where it would be justified.

Why do people blame women because of the way they act or dress? Because they are ignorant.

Answer 5

Rape should never, ever be blamed on a man . . .

who was in a different state at the time.

Seriously, I cannot conceive of blaming a victim regardless of his gender. Nor can I understand how any of the pro-rape crowd can continue to blame the woman for dressing provocatively when children and elderly women are raped. You never hear the idiots here address that.

Answer 6

You have a valid point here. In Phyllis Chessler's _Woman's Inhumanity to Woman_, Chessler reveals the results of thousands of interviews, in which the participants were asked their views on rape. Over 60% of college age males interviewed said that they would probably rape someone if they knew they wouldn't get caught. Over 75% of men interviewed also said that a woman who dresses a certain way is "asking to be raped." And, 55% of the males interviewed said that they believe that rape victims secretly "like it."

In one of the final chapters of Naomi Wolf's _The Beauty Myth_, Wolf illustrates to the reader what the world would be like if most men suffered from rape, anorexia, bulimia, etc. Wolf explains that these problems are really no longer discussed today outside of high schools and some college campuses, that the USA just sweeps it under the rug. However, if these problems were seen by society as male problems instead of female problems, the funding for research, safe houses, rehab, etc. would sky rocket.

Answer 7

The idea is just as absurd no matter who the victim is. Anyone who thinks that provocative dress or behaviour is what motivates rape is out of their minds.

Answer 8

There are people out who are very good at manipulating others and also very good at intimidating and hiding evidence. The victim is to blame because some "smart" people feel that they didn't use their instincts or common sense. Man or Woman all should go to jail.

Answer 9

No. Why would it be? What part of "victim" is so hard for people to understand? (Not you, Shivers, I know you're making a point here.)
Why can't people understand that perpetrators are completely responsible for their own actions. No one "makes" them do anything. The woman's "short skirt" didn't entice the rapist so much that he couldn't help himself. The victim's attire didn't "force" the rapist to do anything. Nor does a victim's attire, if it's revealing, make her/him "more likely" to become a victim. Statistics show that women who wear clothes that are easy to remove quickly are more likely to become victims, not women who are wearing "sexy" clothes.

Answer 10

It's NEVER the victim's fault. Man or woman, no one wants to be raped [if this were so it wouldn't be called rape..]. Man or woman, rape has the same affect and is likely to damage the victim for quite a while.