of course this would apply mainly to those of you who are gay
2007-12-04 09:21:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
just so ya know...gender identity has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Who you are in your brain and who is your sexual preference are unrelated. That is what is making my transition so difficult for my family to understand. i am mtf transitioning but, though actually bi, I identify more as lesbian. I have just neva met a guy that made me feel anything inside, like, my heart!
2007-12-05 03:46:11 · update #1
Whether they were transgendered or not, the fact that they are my friend would probably make things weird. I generally just don't date my friends, because it never seems works out and then things get awkward afterwards.
I'm transgendered, by the way. =)
And please don't anyone say "I'd have respect for them, but that's just horrible. The whole switching genders is just not for me" or something like that. Of course it's not for you- you weren't born transgendered.
That's all I've got to say.
2007-12-04 09:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kinda depends on whether they "pass" as a member of the new gender, and whether you remember that person from the other gender, and what that person sees in me, as in he or she looking at me in the eyes of the new role.
At my place of work we were talking about a customer that wanted to change the name on our accounts from a male name to female. In that case, a male had urges for males, so becoming female legitimized it.
Some change to assume a specific role in life, as in a male thinking he really ought to be a she. So the question becomes does a man who previously desired women but not men now desire men but not women? If the answer is an honest yes, then that is a different picture from a man who becomes a woman and tries to join the ranks of lesbians because her urges are for women. I would probably be in this latter case if I made a change.
In my case, a friend of the opposite sex who switched, I hope, would still be a friend. As a hetero, my issue is more if a man became a woman would I, who desire women, desire that person. If it was someone I knew, I could be a friend, but not a lover. If it was someone I didn't know, she would have to be definitely and fully passable and stay fully in the role. If I went to bed with Patricia and awoke to Patrick, then there is going to be a fight.
My wife and I talked after telling her of a dream where I awoke (in the dream) as a woman. My wife said in no uncertain terms that would end it. "It is still me" I reminded, but in our hypothetical that would not be enough. So, while I could see still loving her, she could not see still loving me.
The matter then, is complicated. My "friend" in your example, might not want a relationship with me whether I did or not.
2007-12-04 09:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I used to be kind of embarrassed that I found a lesbian colleague of mine cute. Then this colleague started living as a man. I jokingly told my friends that I'd been "vindicated." I wouldn't have actually gone out with that particular individual though.
2007-12-04 21:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by raxtonite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for sure you may. a number of of my closest pals are adult men, and that i have not dated one in all them. somewhat, once you're on the fringe of someone like that, it basically about looks extraordinary up to now them. If their an particularly sturdy buddy, they many times commence to experience like brothers or sisters, and also you don't need up to now someone you want in a sibling-ish way. It honestly is a few thing that still takes position, because you fit with those that you want to spend time with, although this is somewhat avoidable. basically concentration on friendship. TL; DR: definite, basically attempt to be pals and not in any respect imagine about courting.
2016-10-25 11:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. They're my friend, I wouldn't think of them like that. But if I was bi, and I did, then maybe. But they might not feel the same way,a nd it could wreck a friendship.. so most likely, no way.
2007-12-04 09:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by ♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they could make a sex change operation to make my fag hag into a gay guy...with working bits...
no...cos she is my best friend...ok i sleep with my friends so bad example
or relationship has nothing to do with sex...its all emotional and all that deep stuff...
and any way she is too short and i like my men to be big and strong...not small and weak
not even if they could but her brain into a hot guy....
ok maybe a one night thing :p...not not a relationship
just too weird
2007-12-04 10:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just re-read your question. I didn't notice the 'opposite' gender part. No, I wouldn't. Why? Because I'm a straight, transsexual woman.
My bad for not reading your question correctly in the first place.
2007-12-04 09:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by Shayna 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No because that would be awkward and weird. And some friends to relationship things never work out like you planned. Not saying that they all don't.
2007-12-04 09:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by Senorita Bonita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats kinda weird. The whole transgendered thing is so confusing to me. I dont get it.
2007-12-04 09:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by muggle :( 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
NO, I have an extreme issue with it...
But I don't ever express my opinion to them directly, and if and when working with a trany, I am very respectful....
I believe it to be their choice, but not for me...
2007-12-04 09:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by Lupe S 3 · 0⤊ 5⤋