I've been dating my boyfriend for a few months. Right off the bat (after about a week) we were pretty much exclusively a couple. He took me with him out of state for Thanksgiving to meet his family and spend the week out there with him. We always tell each other that we love each other, and we are pretty affectionate together. We get along really well as a couple and as friends.
We are both divorced, he's 36 and I'm 25. He has been saying things like "what did I ever do without you" "I can't imagine being with anyone else" "you are my family" and even "I've decided we should elope to Europe and have kids". The last is kind of a joke, but do you think there is some seriousness to this? I never thought I would even consider marriage again, and yet with him I want to spends out lives together and raise children together. I don't want to bring it up right away, but we both have discussed wanting kids, and he acts more like a husband than a boyfriend anyway.
2007-12-04 09:09:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He and I have both discussed idealism and how it pertains to adult relationships. Even for some of his more romantic displays of affection/words, he is pretty stable and down to earth. He seems to know what he wants and what would be required of him to be a good father/husband. I just wonder if he isn't partially rushing into it quickly too because he *is* 36 and the clock is ticking if he wants kids soon (which he does). I've always wanted children by 27, so for me that is not an issue...
2007-12-04 09:24:17 · update #1
He could be very well feeling the way u think. It doesn't matter how long u've known the person, what matters is how u feel about that person. U have to figure he is older, he does know what he wants outta life, its not like he's some 19yr old telling u this, he's 36 take that into consideration. Sometimes when u meet or speak to someone u can have a unbelievable connection w/ this person that u never would have thought possible, he could be having it w/ u.
I hope all works out how u want it.
2007-12-04 09:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like he is thinking of spending his life with you. But since you're both divorced he may not be in a hurry to go through that process again (getting married). Give it more time, ya'll have only have been together a couple months. Good luck!
2007-12-04 09:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is scary. He sounds a little desperate. Make very damned sure about this guy. The age difference could come into play when kids come up too. Good luck.
2007-12-04 09:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Poppy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just a little too fast don't you think? Only been dating a few months.....be very careful....a guy that wants to marry this quick is probably hiding something...
2007-12-04 09:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my.
Yeah sure he is thinking it. Until the newness wears off in a few months and he is showing his true colors.
Beware of these men...they are quite dangerous and basically will tell you what they think you want to hear.
2007-12-04 09:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by kittykatsback 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh boy. I have been in your in your situation. I had been married and I was afraid to get married again. Give it a try again. I married my husband and he is 18 years older than I am and we have 3 beatiful kids.
2007-12-04 09:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by sddq_nn 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You really need to give this new relationship time to develop, hon. It takes at LEAST a year or more to really know a person... and sometimes longer.
Take your time... you are 25, and have loads of time to figure out what you'd like to do....
No rush... i hope it works out..!!
2007-12-04 09:16:14 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds pretty good to me. Don't go rushing in to buy a wedding gown just yet, be patient, but it sounds like more than just f****** around.
2007-12-04 09:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds too good to be true--and it probably is--he's trying to reel u in like a fish and you're taking the bait
2007-12-04 09:13:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait seven years then answer your own question. No rush.
2007-12-04 09:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋