What is he playing at?

Question

So my bf of 2.5 years dumped me 6 weeks ago and three weeks ago he came to drop off my stuff and we ended up sleeping together. He then told me that he still loved me but didn't want to date me, & said he still wanted to have sex with me because he didn't want to have to wait until he found someone else. Naturally, I was not okay with this & we haven't really talked since.

A week after that, pictures of him with a new girl began to surface and last night one of our mutual friends confirmed that he is indeed seeing this girl. However, my friend also told me that she had visited my ex less than a month ago and all he did was talk about how much he missed me. Then I hear from another friend that the last time she talked to my ex (which was just over a month ago) he kept talking about how he wished things had worked out with us and how he hoped someday we'd end up together...

My ex also has some boudoir photos of me from when we were dating that I've been asking him to get rid of, as we had an agreement he would if we ever broke up. When I asked him about it yesterday, he said that he had no intention of getting rid of the photos because "they are special to [him]."

So my question is this: if he's seeing this new girl and apparently doing fine and is happy without me, why does he still want to keep those pictures? He told me that he didn't have ulterior motives for them and that they always have and will stay hidden, but I'm still confused as hell about this. My friends think it's because he's really not over me, but then why would he be seeing this new girl? I haven't even thought about dating anyone else since we broke up. All opinions are welcome.

Just to clarify, the post-breakup sex was a mistake and I do NOT plan on letting it happen again.

Answer 1

I'm trying to figure out why you'd let him come over for sex after he told you he didn't want to date you. Honey, he isn't worth a pint o' piss. Let him go, and don't keep giving him sex. He's all lip service and you can do much better.

Answer 2

It is obvious that he has been exploiting you so far and plans to do so in future too.Telling good feelings for you to your two girl friends was meant to retain you entangled emotionally with him to satisfy his needs ,if required, in future.These words were meant to mislead you in thinking that your relations still have chances to restore.He is not only selfish but also a dishonest and unreliable person too.He has no business to retain your photographs with him.He is keeping the trap open for you to fall at some future date.,when he needs you.You should prepare yourself mentally not to be blackmailed by the photos and forget him .