My one best friend Justin's brother was just diagnosed with cancer. I know what he is dealing with becuase at age 10 i was diagnosed with leukimia but am in remmisson. He keeps shutting me out and i dont know what to do beacuse i really want to help because it hurts me to see him. What can i do?
2007-12-04 09:09:10 · 7 answers · asked by Hey_its_Leah 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm really sorry to hear this. This sounds like a difficult situation.It seems as though he's in shock and so needs some time and space for himself to think about things.It takes a long time for people to come to terms with something like this because obviously it's life changing . When he wants to talk to you then talk to him but at the moment he doesn't want to talk. Maybe because he finds it easier not talking. Maybe he's shutting you out because he knows that you'll talk about his cancer but doesn't want to talk about it as it may upset him more.Just let him know that you'll always be there for him when he's ready to talk.
2007-12-04 09:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by fashionwalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure, but I'll think of soemthing. For the moment I just wanted to tell you that I hope your brother's friend is okay, and everything ends well. I'll think a bit more and get back to you. Good Luck and God Bless all of you.
You need to give him his space, yet let him know that you are there for him when he needs you. I think its really as basic as that. I wish you all the best and I am sorry I couldn't help out more.
2007-12-04 17:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let Justin know that if he needs someone to talk to, you're there for him. You could write a note or call him (and if he doesn't answer, leave a message). Try to spend time with him (movies, bowling) and have fun with him. Also, try to include his brother. Or get a card or a stuffed animal or other little gift for Justin's brother.
2007-12-04 17:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by Small Fry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know you're there to help him if he wants to talk or cry or anything, then give him some space. He's got to deal with a lot of anger and sorrow right now and when he's ready to talk, he'll be glad to have someone who can understand.
2007-12-04 17:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by Debdeb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him his space if he needs it, some times we need time alone to deal with major things like this, but just let him know that when he needs u that u are there and that u care,
I hope things work out.
2007-12-04 17:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by cme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to pray for him.Ask God to help him .
You should talk with his parents about this.They can help you to get him open up.As you were also very sick, I think you will precisely know what to say to him, to make him feel good.Remember...Love, patient and humble can help a lot.
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2007-12-04 17:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by sol 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You of all people should know better than we do since you have been through this. We dont know what he is going through.. you do.
2007-12-04 17:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer K 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋