Marijuana Use: Conflicted about what to do??

Question

Im due in January with my first child and my husband smokes Marijuana. I don't think theres anything wrong with Marijuana, but do not do it myself. Neither my husband or I drink we both have strong values against alcohol and it's affects on people and families.

I was raised where drinking and smoking anything was very very wrong so I have never done it myself. Now that im becoming a mother I am seriously worried about my husband smoking weed.

Not because of the traditional values but the fact that if he were to get caught with some on him, we could get reported and have our children taken away?? My husband is a factory worker doing hard labor for 11 hours a day, 6 days a week. Hes been nothing but good to me and he will be a good father.

Im extremely worried about what could happen if he ever got caught... with the work he does its comforting to me to know that marijuana can mellow him out at the end of the day so hes not a jerk.

Im conflicted and need some opinions?

Answer 1

Where are you from you can't be American because for one thing you don't get reported and you certainly don't have your baby taken away from you if your husband gets caught with pot. You need to stop worrying about what might happen and tell your husband just to be a little more careful now. Your husband works hard for you, and if he wants to catch a little buzz after work let him without him thinking it bothers you.

Answer 2

well i'm going to start this by saying when i was younger i did smoke marijuana. as far as your worries if you don't do it then they may not take your child but i would put certain restrictions on your husband. if he insists on smoking then i would tell him in no uncertain terms that he can not smoke around the baby. if you have a garage he should go out there. because it is a risk to the baby to be around the smoke. and unfortunately if it is going on constantly cps could make you move away from him or lose your baby. he should be willing to stop once the baby comes. but if that doesn't happen lay down the law. NO SMOKING AROUND THE BABY!!!!!

Answer 3

First of all it's an illegal drug. That alone makes it wrong. As far as him being a factory worker - smoking this and being under its affects at work could result in him getting injured. If he's injured while under the effect then the company legally does not have to pay the medical bills. That's another big problem. Next he's an adult with a child on the way. It's time he grew up and learned to deal with stress in a legal way just like normal adults.

Answer 4

As long as he doesn't do it on the job, or carry it around with him, he may be fine. Also to, as long as he doesn't have an on the job accident where the drug test him he should be fine. Also to, he should not keep any more than what he smokes after work in the home for reasons of the police. He should get him a mason jar, wash it and dry it real good, go to lows and buy a 1 foot length of 4 inch pipe and a cap to fit it. Go home, find a spot in the yard preferably out of the rain. Dig a hole, place the pip in it, place the pot in it, cap it and cover it up, set a flower pot or swing set leg or something on top. Then next day when he wants to smoke one, go out and get some.

Answer 5

I am sorry, but you lost me after the statement that your husband smokes pot......but has strong values against alcohol..........Come on.......this is hypocracy. Smoking pot on one day will stay in your system for a week. Ask any pharmacist. The truth is pot (even if you don't want to think about it as illegal) is an unnatural drug that you put into your system and your husband is addicted to it. Of course you are conflicted because you have a good head and want only good for your family. This situation is bad. Unfortunately, you really need to get your husband some help. There are many other natural ways to "mellow out" besides drugs. Best of luck.

Answer 6

The fact that he works hard doesn't give him the right to regularly break the law. No matter how people feel in favor of pot, no matter the denial people have about how destructive and damaging the stuff really is, it's illegal. That alone makes it unacceptable.

You need to lay down the law with him. Tell him that pot and any other illegal substance will not be allowed in your home or on your property. You are not willing to risk the custody of your child, losing her to the state, over a filthy and illegal habit. As long as you allow it, you're enabling him.

There shouldn't be any moral dilemma over this. It's either the pot or your child's safety and healthy. End of story. If he chooses pot, then change the locks and put his stuff on the front lawn until he gets sober. If you find pot in his clothes, flush it. Then put his stuff on the front lawn. Any person who chooses pot over their family is a deadbeat loser in any situation.

Answer 7

There are lots of way to relax at the end of the day. About a massage check and get him cable or something. So he can just sit in front of the tv and relax his body and mind. Same effect of the marijuana. Of course you might think that the massage check cost a lots, but so is marijuana after so many years.
Beside after birth you can use the massage chair to.

Answer 8

First off this shouldn't be on the Internet and you should be talking to friends and family. Second yes it is illegal. BUT some Bi-polar people need it to stay functioning in a good way. Bet advice from a Texan is as long as it is under 4oz than he is straight. CPS is different I have dealt with them they are not going to do nothing for the fact that as long as you are honest then they will make him sober for 30 days. Likely to not happen. As long as you believe in faith and Carma.You only get pulled over if they have a reason, Don't give them one.

Answer 9

If he is a laborer in a factory, he is also probably subject to drug tests. If an accident occurs he WILL be tested. So that is also a risk on his job.

And you are right, if he gets busted, he can go to jail, and cps can get involved.

If you are not concerned with the habbit itself, then I would suggest finding an alternative that is legal.

For example, salvia is legal (in most places, anyways). It is a much stronger drug, but used in small quantities can have simular effects as mj.

Or perhaps a legal rx for a benzodiazapine or something of that nature.

Answer 10

Ok I am STILL cracking up on the advice to get him hooked on pills LOL!

This really should have been discussed prior to getting pregnant.

If I were him I would be pretty irritated that you bring it up now, but ultimately it is his decision.

Either you MAKE him quit and find out he is lying behind your back to smoke it, or ACCEPT that you married and got preggers by a toker, or COMPROMISE and ask him to not have it in the home or car or anywhere near the baby. He should have friend he can go to in order to smoke after work.

In my state if you get busted you go to drug school depending on the quantity they find. Make sure he never has a large amount on him because that could be considered intent to sell. If he gets busted in anyway then you might have a case for making him change his habit then load him up with pills because you know that will just help so much....