I aked this question last night and had some good feed back, I would like to ask it again and get more feed back from everyone.
My girlfriend and i broke up 12 days ago. We had been together for just over four years, that time had been filled with alot of fun and love, a few months back she was 100% commited to me and couldn't imagine her life without me in it, we both felt we would get married in a few years and spend the rest of our lives together. but 2 weeks ago she told me she didn't know how she felt anymore!, she wasn't shaw if she still loved me the same. We decided to break up so she could work out her feelings. She felt she may have to lose me in order to realise how she feels about me. I still love her with all my heart and want her back, im giving her space and havn't contacted her. is their anything else i could possibly do to speed things up and make her see she still loves me without pushing her further away from me?
2007-12-04 08:42:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should also add that she isn't seeing anyone else. Both her and her mother have told me that. They are both very honest people.
2007-12-04 08:48:26 · update #1
you are doing the right thing. give her space. you can't miss whats always around. if it's meant to be things will work out. my husband and i had a period for about 6 mos we seperated. once apart we realized what we meant to each other. when we got back together i told him i wanted it done right with a ring and everything. long story short we've been married for 30 years this coming june. give it some time.
2007-12-04 08:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't contact her. Giving her the space she needs might give her time to see the light. If it doesn't it wasn't meant to be. If after a while you haven't heard from her then resume your life without her. There are other woman out there who you will find common interests with. Its hard but for the best.
Good Luck
By the way wanting space to figure things out does not mean she has someone else.
2007-12-04 08:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by smile4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have done all you can. You each have to find your own way in life, and never get to the point where you can't see yourself without the other person. That is when you lose sight of yourself and who you are. Take this time and make sure that you know everything about you that you think and you haven't been playing some game for four years to keep her on the hook. Trust me, you can get so wrapped up in someone else that you will change without even knowing that you did it.
2007-12-04 08:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by No one 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be as you are, and keep your distance from her and keep giving her space, she will appreciate it so much.
The only advice I can give you is this saying: "If you love something, let it go,if it comes back to you it is yours, if it does not come back to you it never was".
Just keep doing what you are doing, and have faith in knowing that she needs to have some things worked out, and she appreciates you waiting for her, and you letting her know that you are there for her.
2007-12-04 08:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speeding things up isn't going to help. Give her the space, and hope you made the right decision. If you love someone, set them free
2007-12-04 08:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by Scott M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do to force her to hurry up and change her mind....Just give her some space....but you can't put your life on hold forever....Meaning if she still doesn't know what she wants in a month or two...then perhaps you should move on with you life and accept that she has with hers....
2007-12-04 08:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be mean but she probably has someone else in her life. You are doing the right thing by giving her space.
2007-12-04 08:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Girl Rylin 5/3/08 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
in my opinion when u trully love some1 u dont need time away from them so im not being mean and i dont want to hurt but i really think she met a guy and she probably likes him but she doesnt want to lose or cheat on u so she would rather ask for time away so she could get it out of her system trust me ive been w my bf for 3 yrs and even if we fight i would never ask for time away ...email me if u want to talk abt it!! GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-12-04 08:51:03 · answer #8 · answered by Ginger86 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The minute she gets wind that you are out dating, you will look pretty darn good again. Please dont put your life on hold. She will make up her mind when she's ready. It's HER decision.
All you can do is keep your fingers crossed.
2007-12-04 08:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't force someone to love you. Either she does or she doesn't. Sounds like she doesn't. Or wait, maybe she does. No, that's not it. Drop her dude. Find someone who wants to be there.
2007-12-04 08:53:33 · answer #10 · answered by Poppy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋