For 4 years, I worked in this department. But this past summer, I was transferred into a better department, a step up. I've realised my old coworkers are acting cold towards me, so I asked my old supervisor if there was a problem with me that I wasn't aware of. She said that she and other girls in my old department have made comments that I think I'm better than them now. They say I don't talk to them anymore, and leave them out of my life. That is not the case at all, I love them and miss them all, but don't want to be a showy person and flitter around them all the time. I'm shy. What can I do to get them to talk to me again?? I'm not a snob, but don't want to be showy. Help please!
2007-12-04 08:36:57 · 13 answers · asked by pfwqjkhk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
prove to the them that ur one of them
2007-12-04 08:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by screat admire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you've said, you haven't done anything to be showy. They think you are being showy, probably out of jealousy. Other than being nice to them, there isn't much you can to do change a person's perception about you now that you've moved on to a better position.
2007-12-04 16:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it occur to you that this is not about you, but about them?
You have moved on. . they haven't.
You need to make an effort to be friendly, and invite them to lunch once in a while. Not weekly, but maybe monthly.
When you go, don't comment about the BETTER position, but perhaps new challenges and new delights from your new job. Ask them how things are going at their job, and THEN go on to other topics, like kids,and weather, diseases.
It is possible they are jealous, it is possible you are rubbing it in a little, it is all possible.
If you want to remain friends, try to leave the competition out of it.
If you don't care to keep in contact, then continue to be aloof and wait for them to get over it. (they won't)
I can't help but hear a little superior tone in your posting.
Everyone has a right to be proud of his or her job, even the plumber, the president or the janitor.
2007-12-04 16:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all ethical standards, you old supervisor is not supposed to discuss other employees with her subordinates....
It sounds like you are working in a "hen house" and not a business-type environment, to me?
While most people tend to gossip, you don't really have to let it effect your emotions, hon... I'd tend to think there is some jealousy of you involved... you are there to work, not socialize.
take care.. i'm sure you're a good person, who loves everyone and accepts them at face value -- maybe it's time your old co-workers do the same?
2007-12-04 16:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congrats on the promotion and try not to be concerned with their jealousy. You worked hard to earn the job you got, and they shouldn't try to make you feel bad about it...you should be proud.
With that said, I would just tell them that you really miss hanging out with them and invite them out to a happy hour or something after work, or out to lunch.
2007-12-04 16:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're better off without such negative people in your life. After four years of working with you, they suddenly think that you are a snob? If they don't know you by now, they never will, and it's better for you to stay away from such uncivil people.
2007-12-04 16:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by jenesuispasunnombre 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them about it. It's much better to get information from the source, rather than via the grapevine.
2007-12-04 16:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enjoy your promotion your co-workers are going to change and so are you
keep working hard your true friends will celebrate your success
with you the others well who cares about the others
2007-12-04 16:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by markplanoac 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are just jealous. They need something and someone to talk about and you are IT right now. Pay no attention to them and do what YOU have to do.
2007-12-04 16:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently showy is what they want. So give it to 'em.
2007-12-04 16:40:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go up to them and talk to them, tell them that you didn't realize how you was acting and you feel terrible.. tell them like you just told us..
2007-12-04 16:40:11 · answer #11 · answered by sk8tergurl94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋