How to deal with an evil Mother in Law??? PLS HELP!!!?

Question

There she goes again. I have spend 8 yrs of my life trying to deal with the greatest antagonist of my life. She makes stories abt me that I have another man, coz my husband works overseas. I live in a separate house just one ride from her, she even contracted my neighbors to see if some guys visited me.

She wants to destroy my marriage maybe bcoz he wants his son to send money straight to her. She's making my life miserable. I tried to be a good daughter in law for her but she's making stories to people around me even in my own relatives that I'm the baddest girl of all.

My husband who's working years now overseas knows his mother and gives symphathy on me but can't control how his mother treats me. Sometimes I want to SEPARATE with him to get her fuc**** mother out of my life & I begin to fall out of love w/ him bcoz of his mother although he's the nicest man and seems so much inlove w/ me.

What will I do?I feel like I have to deal w/ his mom 4ever as long as I'm married.tnx.

Thnk u so much 4 ur answers, really helps me a lot. I'm sick and tired of her, I just wanted to have a peace of mind.

Answer 1

She dose this because you are a nice person and show her respect because she is your husbands mother. Her actions are not to be respected. You need to put your foot down and stop letting all walk all over you

Rather then her son giving you sympathy tell him he needs to straighten out his mother and you have taken it long enough not many woman would live with a man working over sea's he is lucky to have you. Maybe mama needs to know she is upsetting her baby boy and he will cut her off if she continues to harass you. Marriage is hard enough, him working over sea's his added stress to your marriage. There is no excuses or reason for her to ask neighbors to spy on you and for her accusations. She needs to get a life.

Answer 2

Your husband is not standing up for you, especially if she has no proof of her claims. Obviously, she doesn't want her "little boy" to grow up. Having sympathy for you is great, but he needs to man up and tell her to stuff it.

The best thing to do is move in with your husband overseas, unless he's in the Armed services. You really can do nothing about what she says, except make everything she says a lie. If she says you have men over at your house, make sure that is not true, unless the man in question is checking your fridge or fixing something in the house. If that is happening, have a friend come over and be a witness.

You have to out-think her, since she is making up stories about you. Other than that, don't stress out. She obviously has no life, and has to mess with yours to feel alive.

Answer 3

tell your stepmother what you think, maybe she would understand, but if she doesn't, try telling your husband how you feel about her and how important it is to kick her out or make her stop insulting you. Personally I would beat her up( I'm just playing with yah). Most likely your husband would do something about it, even if he has to go home from his sea job. Most men want to protect his wife, even if it means dealing with his mother, if he doesn't maybe he really isn't in love with his wife. Try having a little more confidence, you know what she says isn't true so why should you care? Your relatives and friends should also know that.

Answer 4

I'm sorry, but you pretty much do have to deal with momzilla as long as you're married to your husband. My husband's grandmother acts the same way to my mother-in-law. My mother-in-law was crushed at first, but then realized that she a crazy woman and just ignored everything she says and she doesn't go over and see her unless her husband is along. Good luck, I'm sorry you have this situation, but I'd try to ignore the ***** as best you can.

Answer 5

First you need to talk to your husband about this behavior, second you need to set un boudaries between your mother in law and you, talk to her straigth, to leave you guys alone, your husbando should back you up in order to make it work, tell her exactly how you feel. If you seperate from your husband, she will be more than happy, because that is her goal, she hasnt realized that her son has a separete life, you need to make her realize as well as your husband that she has to leave you alone, if she doesnt get it, then it would be necessary to move out further to another state frmo her

Answer 6

First of all you need to move away from her. It's not a good situation to have her in your backyard second guessing everything you do. Second you need to talk to her and let her know how what she is doing is making you feel. Third you need to tell your husband to stand up to her. He (if he truly loves you) shouldn't let his mother treat you this way. Unfortunately, you're right. You will have to deal with her as long as you stay married to her son. It sounds like you need to decide if you love your husband enough to put up with her. If you truly love him then don't let his mom get in your way.

Answer 7

Hon, listen to yourself.. you said you know you can't control her... so be content with that.

she is trying to CONTROL your emotions by making up stories and being generally miserable. some people are just not very nice. your mother in law is obviously bored with her own life, so has to stick her nose into yours... let her, she can't really hurt you.

those who know you well, know the truth.


there comes a time in our lives when we have to accept people at face value... your mother in law can't make you feel anything which you are not already prone to feeling. let it GO and move forward with your life... get her out of your mind, and do what makes YOU happy.

she should never affect your feelings for your husband... your husband and her are two, entirely different people.

Answer 8

This might sound crazy and all, but have you thought about talking to her about how she is making you feel? Its fine to talk to your huband about it, but you should go to the source. So, she may be saying these things about you, but those that really know you would know that she is just a miserable woman with nothing better to do then bad mouth you. Why care what she thinks. Your husband loves you, he is backing you, just avoid contact with her.

Answer 9

ask your husband to send her some money every month , she might stop doing all these things. u should go visit her,invite her to your house to stay with u for a week or more so that she feel comfortabl that u r not involved in anyone else. give her present so that she may feel good about you. cook meal for her on weekends just to make her happy so that she might not creat any problems for you.

Answer 10

i feel for you. i was blessed with a wonderful mother-in-law. is it possible for you to move to another town? talk to your husband and tell flat out you can't take his mother any more.ask him if it isn't within the realm of possibilities to move if not to a new town maybe just a little farther away from her and don't tell her where you moved to. if you have kids and she wants to see the kids meet her in a public place so she doesn't find out where you live. if you love your husband don't let his mom ruin your marriage fight for it.