What are the effects of divorce on children?

Question

Sources would be great...Thank You!

Answer 1

Children will play the parents off against one another.

My one friend is the primary custodian of his 16yr old. She left drug paraphanelia in his car one night. He got angry and grounded her. Instead of getting grounded she just walked out the door and two blocks over to her mom's. Mom only had weekend rights.

Second case my wife's stepbrothers were allowed to get away with anything they wanted to in the house because they constantly threatened to move in with mom and never see dad again. These teenagers were allowed to have girls overnight at the house, drink whenever they wanted, and the one was even doing coke in the basement.

Answer 2

I wished I really knew what effects it has on my daughter. I guess the best way is to love them unconditionally which means don't use them as spys or to continue fighting with the ex.

Remember that out of all the lawyers,therapist and judges the only ones that will count in the long run will be your children. Never bad mouth your ex. Treat your kids well in your care and work as best as you can with the other parent when needed. You don't have to like your ex but hopefully you become much better co-parents when you put the kids first.

Kids do much better when they have two parents that love them.

Answer 3

My parent got divorced when
i was in second grade. When
they got divorced, my dad moved
down the street to my best friend.
They both made it easier for me
to handle it. Sure it was hard at first, but
it will pass over some time. What they also did
for me is I would alternate houses every
two days. I hope this helps.!

Answer 4

That depends on what the marriage was like. My father was physically abusive to my mother and us kids, the divorce was a huge relief to us, no more beatings and no more listening to the beatings. After the divorce I was able to concentrate on school and live a normal life, not afraid to go home every day.

Answer 5

Children need to be in a living environment with both parents present. It's not possible for a woman to teach a boy how to be a man or a man to teach a girl how to be a woman. If both parents split apart children (depending on age) would think that's how life has to be and no one ever has to stay together even if they have kids. But if its for the better so be it.

Answer 6

It depends on how the parents treat each other after the marriage is over.

Children just want to be loved by the people who matter most to them....their parents.

To show that love parents should learn how to respect themselves and each other.....especially when dealing with the children.

Answer 7

That depends.... on many things.

Joint Custody or not... does the child spend equal amounts of time with both parents?
Do the parents bad-mouth one another in front of the children? (very damaging)

Check out Dr Phil's website- he has some very good advice on parenting after divorce.

Good luck!

Answer 8

i divorced when my kids were 15 and 20. people think that older kids dont get affected by it. they do. my kids acted out in different ways, my 20 year old left and didnt speak to me for 2 years, my 15 year old just spiraled out of control. there is no easy way to prevent this, but if you are getting divorced, the kids should know. dont keep it from them. my husband now has 2 girls. they were 8 and 6 when the parents divorced. they were shuffled back and forth between 2 homes, they were left alone by the mother when she worked, yet she was always the one who claimed she left bc of their dad being a workaholic and boring, when in fact she was sleeping wth his best friend and he caught her,. dont lie to your kids, tell them the truth. as i watched my 2 step kids grow up, they have alot of issues bc of the divorce and one of the reasons is that they were lied to and dont know the right way to be in a relationship. honesty and being up front with your kids will only solidify your relationship. assure them they are loved by both, you just fell out of love for each other.
no one sets out to be divorced, let them know that true love and happiness exists out there, just have to be careful.
good luck

Answer 9

Devastation.

Answer 10

I did a paper on that on one of my classes. if u want i can send u that paper through email. I have sources for them too. email me or IM me if u are interested.