When I think about my wife and I seperating, my stomach hurts. When I think about my wife and I staying together, my stomach hurts.
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2007-12-04 08:07:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If I wasn't serious why would I post the question?
2007-12-04 08:19:25 · update #1
Thanks for the compassion Art, I'm sure all of your questions validate the space used.
2007-12-04 08:20:34 · update #2
sounds like you are conflicted. are you having problems in your marriage. ask yourself how you truly feel about her. sometimes separation for a while reveals a whole lot. i don't like to see people split up but sometimes if you are truly miserable then it is for the best. maybe you should do a trial separation and during this maybe you and your wife can seek marriage counseling. good luck to you and your wife.
2007-12-04 09:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I really see you as being attention seeking - all these entries and responses you got - Why if not for attention? You come accross as being like a petulant child, sulking at your wife now that she has made an effort at your marriage.You seem to be blaming your wife for the issues and dont seem to have any weight in your own involvement.
I gave you a very good link with mood gym. you need this. your perceptions are off. You say you are tight lipped - well, what goes unsaid builds to resentment and this is what is happening - you are in what is called the three R's - resentment , resistance and revenge - your revenge is your sulking. - you were not taught open communication skills as a child and you are replaying this here with your wife.You need therapy.Discuss with your therapist what I have said to you - you will be surprised what will come out. Also, just to tell you about communication, a lot of communication is body language and tone of voice and eye contact - your young child will pick up on cues - children are inexperienced and impressionable but not stupid.
2007-12-05 01:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well bro, I have felt that feeling myself. Your stomach hurts because you care. Simple as that. Which is the better pain is the real question. Love is not enough to keep a relationship together. Think long term. Do you want to grow old with her or not. If you have children together you at least have to be friends forever. Good luck. A broken heart only heals with time
2007-12-04 08:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is simple. You love her and when you think about you not being together, your stomach hurts. However, apparently you are having problems so when you think about being with her, your stomach hurts. Splitting up with someone you have been married to is so hard to do. However, if it is the right thing to do, you will be happier in the end.
2007-12-04 08:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by dollfacedbaby1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you simply have a nervous stomach. Is it the same kind of hurt for both? One could be a negative hurt. One can be a positive hurt. I guess now you need to differentiate which it is. Speaking to a pro may be of help. However, if these thoughts are in your head, perhaps you need to speak with your wife first.
2007-12-04 08:29:27 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surely your stomach hurts for different reasons. You need to weigh up the options and make a decision once you are certain of what you want from your life.
Good luck!
2007-12-04 08:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by Cieguilla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Separating = Fear of change
Staying = Knowing that you should leave
You and your wife need to separate. I looked at your past questions and that is my advice. It is going to be rocky and hard but a year or two down the road you will both be much happier.
2007-12-04 08:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if neither choice is a happy one for you. Your screen name says you have a child. Have you tried marriage counseling to work out your problems. You don't say what the problems are. But it sounds as if you really need someone to talk to. Good luck.
2007-12-04 08:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you more concerned with the material things you will lose and the ensuing arguments of divorse, or are you concerned about losing the woman you love? Answer that honestly, and you will answer your own question
2007-12-04 08:11:47 · answer #9 · answered by doc h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a love/hate relationship with your wife-sounds bad
2007-12-04 08:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋