do your agree with the following concerning pain???

Question

pain inflicted by outsiders is never so terrible as suffering caused by one's own kin:

Answer 1

Yes that's very true, but pain caused by people you thought were your friends can cut pretty deep too.

Answer 2

Yes, I definately agree due to experience. I've been hurt by
several relatives. The worst was by my own mother. And she
still had the last word in her will. She didn't even mention my
name, in fact. That has cut me to the quick, and then some.
I'll go to my grave, wondering what it was I ever did to exclude
me to the extent, that I feel I was a non entity.
I'm sure my twin sisters assisted her in making her will. And
they inherited the family home and her savings accounts.
Both of their names were on the accounts to begin with for
their protection.
What also hurts, is that I was the one to come to my mothers' aid if she needed something and my sisters were
always too busy to be bothered most of the time. I learned
early that life was not fair. And my nose has been rubbed in
that fact, time and time again. Maybe that's why I'm as
strong mentally as I am, and keep bouncing back.

Answer 3

No I don't. I would depend on how close you are to the ''kin''. There are people in my family who would have much less an effect on me emotionally than some outside of my family. If it is someone in the family that you feel close to then yes I agree. There is no other person that could hurt me more than my husband or my children.

Answer 4

Mister Ed, how did you know? Two days ago my 32 yr old daughter showed up AGAIN. saying she was tired of living in a drug addicted stuppor, so we took her in . She was here two days had something to eat and is gone again. We have been going through this for a good 15 years. We wouldn't be bothered if it wasn't for her 13 yr old daughter that we are raising. It is like living on a roller coaster. I apologize for venting but to answer your question, yes, I agree. We adopted our daughter at 3 mos and always thought of her as our own. unfortunately, her birth mother was the same and died a few years back from an HIV illness.

Answer 5

The pain inflicted by one's own kin always goes to the bone. I know.

Answer 6

This question reminds me of a saying I read a long time ago.
"No thorn cuts more deeply than the one on the rose that you planted and nurtured". My oldest daughter stopped speaking to me 21 years ago and has refused to let me see her children. She has called me a witch,among other things. All I can remember of her growing up is ballet lessons and piano lessons and private school. I have 4 children and the other 3 dont seem to share her views. A therapist told me it was something she needed to do and I try every day to understand that. I guess there are some things we'll never really understand.

Answer 7

Probably.

I would say that pain inflicted by outsiders is never so terrible as 12 hours of labor pains.

Answer 8

That is a very true statement. With outsiders you can reason that they caused you pain unintentionally or that person might just be mean to everyone. If they are your kinfolks then you know they absolutely intended to cause you pain and are enjoying your suffering.

I try to forgive and forget.... but they don't get a second chance to hurt me.

Answer 9

This is probably why the song "You Always Hurt The One You Love" was so popular years ago. I think that most married couples especially, have done this at one time or another. And things spoken out of anger or disappointment to either a parent or child is a good example of verbal injury to ones soul.

Answer 10

Most of the time I'd say yes.Sometimes outsiders can be very cruel.My kin (sister) can be real mean.I've learned to just stay away from her.

Answer 11

Yes, of course. One doesn't expect pain to be inflicted by relatives/loved ones and when it occurs it cuts deep to the heart and soul.