Let's say these were your immediate family members. You bought them a gift and they threw it away, stored it away or gave it away, and then you heard through the grapevine that they called your gift cheap.
What would you response be?
a) I would ignore it. After all, you can't change who people are.
b) I would make a mental note not to buy them anything else.
c) I would confront them about it, ask for my gift back, and then make a make a mental note not to buy them anything else.
d) This is the exact reason why I don't buy gifts anymore.
I choose "b" and depending on how much I spent on the gift "c". I have also started doing "d" as of the last two years. The only gifts I buy are my mother, brother, grandmother and sometimes my father. My husband doesn't celebrate holidays so I don't have to worry about him.
2007-12-04 06:47:00 · 9 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Well, you didn't say what you bought them initially in order for them to call it cheap; however, that is beside the point! You got them something so that should be worth the sentiment. I don't think you should exclude them. But if they are ungrateful, then I certainly wouldn't spend big bucks on them for a nice gift. It sounds like they are hard to please and no matter how much you spend, they won't be happy. But you should acknowledge them in one way or another. They must like some restaurant or store where you can get them a gift certificate (yes, they may STILL call you cheap but at least you know you are being thoughtful). Not getting them anything is not in the spirit of gift-giving and I'm sure you wouldn't feel right about that. Be a bigger person and get them something, even if you don't spend a lot. Don't confront them about their giving the gift away or anything else. It will just add fuel to the fire. Obviously, you feel bad about the whole thing just by writing your question here. That shows you are compassionate and thoughtful. So get them something, nothing expensive, but they do need to be acknowledged. If they complain to others that it wasn't what they wanted or was too cheap, they will look like the ungrateful people they and people will see that!
2007-12-04 17:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by mothertrucker67 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
B and I agree that I have been doing D a lot more here lately. My mom is that way. She returns everything I get her so now I just send her a gift card. People really take the fun out of the holidays.
2007-12-04 06:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by Green Eyed Girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There`s nothing in this world as stupid as someone who would throw away a gift that I had bought for them. I put time and thought into my gifting, and if they treat it that way, they will never see another gift from me. That includes gifts in my will.
2007-12-04 06:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by jms043 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ignore it... a gift is given because i love them..if they don't like it i hope they can at least know i tried
2007-12-04 06:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by Queenie Peavey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B. Ingrates irk me. It's not like anybody has to think about them at all and then when you do take the time to think of them and they spit on you, forget it. They don't want my thoughtfulness and I don't need their drama.
2007-12-04 06:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by Sword Lily 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ignore it and don't buy nothing else in the future for that person
2007-12-04 06:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
b, spend your time and money on people who deserve and appreciate it! Merry Christmas!
2007-12-04 06:51:41 · answer #7 · answered by juggalizzle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They would get a card next year , if they're lucky!!
2007-12-04 06:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by LeighAnn D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a) i dont make people like that my problem
2007-12-04 06:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋