basically i have made a new years resolution to get over this guy ive been miserable over for long time, i kept the misery alive by having him on my bebo and myspace and daily checking his profile also waiting on i.m to see if he will talk to me he hasn't spoke to me for 2 months. we have quite a history i was the only one there 4 him through a hard time and basically got him throught it.i love him im sure and want him, but he acts like i don't exist now, so dissinterested in me. only talks to me when he has a problem or bored i think. ive tried asking for an straight answer, never got one, tried tellin him how i feel. also i have a mate if his on my i.m do i block both of them?? coz he will find out i am actually online if i still speak to his mate....i don't know, i just want my heart and self esteem to heal and get a good nites sleep. i feel he was the one for me, but he has ruined it. do i tell himim goin or let him realise it over time....prob about a year i bet?
2007-12-04 06:46:43 · 19 answers · asked by heavyheart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i do have a full life, i get out and about wirth my friends and i do things i enjoy, im not always in front of the pc! but i still ahev these feelings over him, i gotton over lots of guys during this time who didn't want me, so its not like i can't its just him! i don't know why some people get a hold of your heart, but, they do
2007-12-04 07:37:24 · update #1
Oh girl! I think you took the right decision!! It is going to hurt but at the bottom of your heart you know that it will be the best thing for you!! I know a guy who is more or less the same!! My advise here is not to tell him!! if he is clever enough he will realise what you have done and he will have to ask himself why you have done it!! maybe he realises that you are hurt and if he is an honest person he will try to get in touch with you to apologise or ask why you did it!! Best of luck and well done!! you deserve to be happy!! Loads of kisses! :*
2007-12-04 06:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lola 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him anything if he is not willing to communicate with you, stop communicating with him. You don't have to change/ delete anything. It's going to be hard but just stop looking for him to respond to you.
When he does come to you with a problem. Tell him you are not interested in having that conversation, because " he acts like i don't exist now, so dissinterested in me. only talks to me when he has a problem or bored i think. ive tried asking for an straight answer, never got one, tried tellin him how i feel." and don't answer him when he replys.
As far as your self esteem goes, you don't have to get it back. You never lost it , you own it, it's yours. Know that you are so valuable that some guy with all these problems cannot take it away from you.
It's his loss, really.
Much luv,
A
2007-12-04 06:55:43 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I had a roommate that went through the same problem.....kinda, sorta.
First I think you are looking into this waaaaay too much. Relax.
Second, sounds to me like he just wants you around when HE wants which is selfish. Try not to ask how high when he says jump. Your feelings should come first to a degree.
You might have to cut the ties with the other dude so you can "move on" so to speak.
Do you really want to loose sleep and keep thinking "what's goin on" all the time? Doesn't sound worth it to me.
2007-12-04 07:06:22 · answer #3 · answered by Madrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 05:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by dolme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go out more. Meet some new people. Occupy your mind with other things. It's been my experience that once a guy makes up his mind that he's done with you, he's done. You'll meet somebody else soon enough. Get used to it girl, because It's an endless cycle.
2007-12-04 07:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would definitely tell him you are moving on with your life since he doesn't want to be with you the way you want to be with him..it's just to painful to go on being friends with someone you feel so strongly about..i know I'm going through the same type of thing right now...and it's gonna be hard for me to tell him too..but I'm going to when I'm ready..if he really loves you then maybe it'll work out...if not then move on with your life and stop wasting it on something that isn't even there!! you will be alright!!
2007-12-04 06:52:17 · answer #6 · answered by colleen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him that you are moving on.he has been leading you on and using you whenever he needs you.i have been there.i know that if you love him it will be hard to get over him but you need to do it.do it for yourself and not for him.if you want to still talk to his friend do,as long as its not to hard on you.but take from someone who has been there.you need to move on.and don't look back.there is a mr right out there for you and when you least expect it he will come into your life and you will know that God sent him to you.
2007-12-04 06:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop him like a rock. If he doesn't have the respect for you after you helped him through a tough time, then he is like poision for you. Don't take your time, just rip the band-aid off. It hurts more at first but it heals faster.
2007-12-04 06:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by usualchef 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I think he is giving you a very clear message so take the hint and get on with your life.
2007-12-04 06:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by Leslie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he doesn't care what you think or want so why bother telling him anything. you're not dating and seems as if he has better things to do (in his mind) then talk to you. so get rid of him in your myspace and on im. your better off with out him.
2007-12-04 06:51:05 · answer #10 · answered by overworkedtiredmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋