I am not a fighter or troublemaker but at the age of 56, I will not give in to bullying any more and went mad at work today even swearing like a trouper, crying and shouting my bullier down. My boss agrees and is to set up a meeting with my boss, this bully and me. Should I not have an independent body to represent me. I am not nor ever have been in a union, as I can usually take care of myself. Please give me advice Iove my job but hate dooing all the dirty work and hate the favouritism to people who have their heads right up her arrrrsh.? They will not speak up.
2007-12-04 06:39:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Bullies are vile cowards and should be exposed for their devastating deeds! You are right to stand up for yourself but you also need to be protected and represented. You have a right to an independent witness at this meeting, to witness what is said etc.. Don' go it alone, if you have to put it off until proper procedures are in place and don't lose your cool. You have to be as sly as a fox and as wise as an owl to beat these vindictive people... I wish you well and hope for once the bullies don't win...
2007-12-04 13:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send the supervisor a letter stating that you have been the victim of bullying and workplace harassment, and that you demand that it cease. It is the employer's responsibility to stop harassment in the workplace. If they take any action against you, that is retaliation, and you'll have a pretty good case. But you need to put them on notice in writing. Be as specific as you can about who did it, at what times the bullying was done, what form it took (yelling, physical), and what was said. Was the person bullying you for a reason, and if so, what was it. Was it for a reason that is discriminatory (age, race, national origin, etc.). But you need to convey this so that the company has a chance to act on its obligation. But if it never knows, then you can't hold them accountable.
** Note: This is a general discussion of the subject matter of your question and not legal advice. Local laws or your particular situation may change the general rules. For a specific answer to your question you should consult legal counsel with whom you can discuss all the facts of your case. **
2007-12-04 14:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by scottclear 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much you are bullied, you need to keep your temper in check in the workplace. You can ask someone from human resources to be at the meeting to make sure that things are done correctly. There are laws against violence in the workplace and it sounds like the bully should have been terminated with cause. If nothing is done, I would suggest looking for another job with better atmosphere.
2007-12-04 14:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by Diane M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. Don't start feeling guilty about what you did (You know how we all do that sometimes once we calm down). Stay strong and stern but unemotional at the meeting. Don't whine on and on, just let them know you will not be treated this way.
I don't know about an 'independent body'. I was in a union and feel I could have represented myself better without them. They're in bed with management (more favoritism.)
Good luck.
2007-12-04 14:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by pgb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally i suggest you dont show your temper infront of everyone, i know its hard, but sometimes thats what the bullies want you to do, and once theres not enough proof that the bullie was bullying It will leave you with egg on your face,
I suggest tactics, use them to drop the bullie in it.
iv done this befor and it really gives you a good feeling.
Then again, you could always try the good old fist fight outside of work :)
2007-12-04 14:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was bullied n my last job and until i took a panic attack and started crying, only then did my boss hold a meeting only to takethe bullies side!! eventually i left the job and told HR about what had happened, only then it was too late as id left. so no, nothing happened to the bullies but instead the victim got the blame
2007-12-04 15:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by cleo the pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not allow them to get away with bullying you are allowed to take someone you trust to any meeting .there are solicitors who can give you advice for a small fee well worth it' happened to my husband he got good advice from one on workplace law and beat the bully
2007-12-04 15:02:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have fired people like that in the past and I will do it again. If you worked for me, you would not have that problem.
2007-12-04 15:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have just lost they can turn round and say it was you that was bulling them now as they have witnesses to say you did
they will always turn round and say it was not them if they have been bulling the hole office the others mite be to afraid to speak out against them hope it goes well for you
2007-12-04 15:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound like how I felt two weeks ago I agree check with citizens advive bureau your rights, you have witness etc etc, if you use yahoo messenger contact me adventure2love my yahoo id
2007-12-04 14:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋