2007-12-04 05:34:49 · 34 answers · asked by candy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
im 14? this is the biggest mistake of my life.
2007-12-04 05:35:30 · update #1
Let me start by assuming you mean does it hurt *you*. Rather selfish on your behalf. You should have other questions besides whether or not it is going to hurt you. That tells me that your emotional maturity is that of a 14 year old at best. Judging by this, let me advise you to talk to your parents about this. You are not mature enough to make this decision. You really need your parents to make it for you.
Side effects may occur with induced abortion, whether surgical or by pill. These include abdominal pain and cramping, nausea, vomiting, and diarrhea. Abortion also carries the risk of significant complications such as bleeding, infection, and damage to organs. Serious complications occur in less than 1 out of 100 early abortions and in about 1 out of every 50 later abortions. Complications may include:
Heavy Bleeding - Some bleeding after abortion is normal. However, if the cervix is torn or the uterus is punctured, there is a risk of severe bleeding known as hemorrhaging. When this happens, a blood transfusion may be required. Severe bleeding is also a risk with the use of RU486. One in 100 women who use RU486 require surgery to stop the bleeding.
Infection – Infection can develop from the insertion of medical instruments into the uterus, or from fetal parts that are mistakenly left inside (known as an incomplete abortion). A pelvic infection may lead to persistent fever over several days and extended hospitalization. It can also cause scarring of the pelvic organs.
Incomplete Abortion - Some fetal parts may be mistakenly left inside after the abortion. Bleeding and infection may result.
Sepsis – A number of RU486 or mifepristone users have died as a result of sepsis (total body infection).
Anesthesia – Complications from general anesthesia used during abortion surgery may result in convulsions, heart attack, and in extreme cases, death. It also increases the risk of other serious complications by two and a half times.
Damage to the Cervix - The cervix may be cut, torn, or damaged by abortion instruments. This can cause excessive bleeding that requires surgical repair.
Scarring of the Uterine Lining – Suction tubing, curettes, and other abortion instruments may cause permanent scarring of the uterine lining.
Perforation of the Uterus - The uterus may be punctured or torn by abortion instruments. The risk of this complication increases with the length of the pregnancy. If this occurs, major surgery may be required, including removal of the uterus (known as a hysterectomy).
Damage to Internal Organs - When the uterus is punctured or torn, there is also a risk that damage will occur to nearby organs such as the bowel and bladder.
Death - In extreme cases, other physical complications from abortion including excessive bleeding, infection, organ damage from a perforated uterus, and adverse reactions to anesthesia may lead to death. This complication is rare, but is real.
2007-12-04 06:05:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take care of yourself during this pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption. There are many many couples in this world that would do anything to have a baby. If you have an abortion, it may be a decision you regret the rest of your life- and once you actually get an abortion, there's no turning back. As much as I'm sure you're terrified to do, you need to talk to your family. Give them time to get over the shock/anger and then hopefully they will help you through this.
To all the people with their rude comments: I'm sure this girl realizes that she should've made better choices, but the reality is she's pregnant, and needs advice- not people bashing her! That's not helping anything!
2007-12-04 06:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by Luv2HelpYou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ah, sweetie! Don't see it as the biggest mistake of your life, but as a learning experience. And learn from it - it's a valuable lesson. Pregnancy is one thing, an STD (including HIV) is another!
Yes, an abortion is going to hurt *a little* - there will be some cramping and bleeding (like a "bad" period) but probably nothing more.
Kevin has given some great advice. I have nothing more to add.
Talk to someone before making a decision because you've been through a lot and this experience will impact your life - make the impact for the best.
Take care and good luck.
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For those of you who think abortion is more sinful than coveting thy neighbor, telling a lie, not honoring your parents, go ahead and give me all the thumbs down you want. It is our modern day society with all our technology and politics that says abortion is a great sin. Abortion has been around as long as Adam and Eve have had children (if you don't believe me, read the Bible). And in the Bible, abortion does not rank as a higher sin biblically than not honoring your parents (again, you don't believe me, go read the Bible).
I refuse to judge this poster because I don't know the circumstances surrounding her situation. And neither do you. But I care about the human being she is.
Of course I hope she keeps the baby or gives the baby up for adoption, but be realistic; it's hard at 14 years old to make this decision. Her guilt shows that she's going to learn a lesson from this.
How many of you have spent time babysitting for free for a teen mother? How many of you have adopted unwanted children? Been a foster parent? Emotionally (or financially) supported a teen mother while they continue their education? It's so easy for you to say "you should have thought about this before" (I think she realizes this!) and to spew hate and judgment upon someone else, instead of humbly looking at your own life and realizing that you too have made mistakes you have regretted and have searched a way to correct - right or wrong.
She wasn't asking you to judge her, she was asking a specific question which 80% didn't answer.
2007-12-04 05:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
The biggest mistake of your life was having unprotected sex. You can't say the child is your biggest mistake because they had no part in this.
Abortion hurts. Physically, not so much. Mentally you are going to be scarred for the rest of your life. You are going to murder your own flesh and blood. Because you were an irresponsible little girl, you are deciding you are going to end another life. That is horrible. You need to take responsibility for your actions. If you can't take care of a baby then you should have KEPT YOUR LEGS CLOSED.
Here is your chance to make a grown up decision. Have your baby and give it up for adoption. Let a better person give your child the chance at life that it deserves.
2007-12-04 05:44:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
look....when i got pregnant felt like my life was coming to an end. the dad was a drug addict, alcoholic and a gangster. but you know what i held my head high confronted the situation and now I'm married the the dad. he is fully rehabilitated and now we are happy and I'm pregnant again. due in may. things don't always go the way you plan them but this happened to you for a reason. maybe this will teach you responsibility and you will be able to mature. i would not consider abortion. abortion is murder. i would go through the pregnancy and when you have that baby in your hands and you still don't want that precious baby consider adoption. that baby has the right to a loving family. don't kill it. just think about that.
2007-12-04 06:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by I Love Jose Cristian! 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes I would imagine it does hurt, but infact it SHOULD be very painful, because to you it may hurt for a few days, but you will be killing your baby. Instead of having an abortion I strongly encourage you to look into adoption first, there are so many people out there that can't have a child, so instead of throwing yours away you should help make someone elses life better. So please before you have an abortion look into adoption theres all kinds of information on the internet and I'm sure your health department or hospital could help you find information also.
2007-12-04 05:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Having sex was a big decision,but you made it..Just like having an abortion is a BIG decision..I would deffinently take a REALLY long time to think about it first...I don't know how far along you are or what your maturity level is..but if you're far along enough to know you're pregnant than you're baby is a baby.....It's little body and nerves are taking shape.
And let me tell you,if you don't want this baby that you helped make,there are SOO many people out there who want a baby so badly but can't have one.
YES IT HURTS..It's gonna hust you more emotionally than anything once what you have done sinks in.
So please,realize that the little one inside you deserves a life......
2007-12-04 05:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by calebsmom85 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Abortion does hurt. The abortion pill is not as painful as a medical abortion, but it is still painful.
Make sure you think this through before doing it, it will not only hurt physically, but mentally and emotionally as well. Make sure you have the support you will need afterwards.
2007-12-04 05:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by Diann C 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Being 14 and pregnant is a scary thing I would talk to your mom because if my 14 yr old told me she was pregnant I would help her out your mom might be angry but she'll get over it. and yes abortions hurt not only physically but emotionally too and when you are older you'll always wonder what could have been. Maybe you learned your lesson and won't have sex after this situation is resolved.
good luck hope everything works out for you
2007-12-04 05:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by kam 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i would really rethink this... yes your 14 and you might be called names and your parents may be mad.. but if you cant keep the baby there are LOTS of familys that would love your baby and take care of it.. i thought i would never have a baby.. im now 28 weeks pregnant... most woman never get a chance to have a baby... at 4-6 weeks along your baby had a heartbeat... i belive it is a living thing... talk to a teacher or someone.. if your scared your prarents will kick you out go to the police and tell them what is going on... and you may not want a baby now but if you do have an abortion you could have scars on your utrues and you might have problems getting pregnant or carring a baby to term... so please re think this.. and if you need to talk to someone e-mail me or something... ok... just think about this 1st
2007-12-04 05:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by **Wishing For A 2010 Baby** 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋