My boyfriend is an *** every other day. The other days he's perfect, and I couldn't ask for better.
I talked to a counselor that said I may have emotional needs that his type of person cannot fill.
Still we'd be on the phone, and I talked to him about how we needed to fix the problems (that I'm talking about right now), and he just wouldn't listen. I ask if he's listening and he just gets angry. He's playing on the playstation and I ask him just to give me his undivided attention for 10 minutes and he said NO. He mocks me when I'm upset, and I tell him I should have to worry about him mocking me when I'm upset and he reluctantly agrees, then 10 minutes later he's back to his *** self again. He has a horrible temper, though he's never hurt me. But emotional I get hurt everyday and sometimes he thinks about giving up because he can't stand hurting me anymore.
2007-12-04 03:44:18 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Should I ignore him and leave him alone when he's being like this, because frankly i've become less and less needy to accomodate his personality and I feel that I'm working and working on this and he doesn't give a crap about it.
I tell him that and he just doesn't seem to hear me.
But the other half of the time everything is perfect and I can't ask for better. It's when I emotionally need him that he refuses to be there.
2007-12-04 03:45:14 · update #1
that ones up to you...u know my boyfriend can be the same way..he father and his brother are like that 2...and they do the same thing to there mom...but it doesnt mean they dont love us...some people just have the patience to deal with that kind of person...if they dont change for you..they never will..no when they have a temper like that...so that choice is up to you...can you deal with that the rest of your life?
2007-12-04 03:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by lisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know your counsellor said you have needs this guy cant fill, what he meant was this guy isnt filling your legitimate needs. I'm sure he didnt mean to leave you with the impression you're too needy and its your fault and you should be the one to work on the issues! You shouldnt have to squash your affectionate feelings to cope with being hurt all the time and having to stay away from your bf when he's being an A hole just to protect yourself. Its not natural or healthy or sustainable. A Healthy Relationship should be 50% effort from each side, if you're trying to put in 100% because he just wont, and then playing catch up as he wont even be nice, you're putting in 120% to a relationship. Basically the actual "relationship" only exists in your head, you're creating it out of nothing. Why put yourself through it? Oh, and when you leave him dont you dare accept the blame he WILL try and lay on you, or believe him when he says he's changed either!
2007-12-04 04:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by Wonderwoman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is treating you so bad, then why don't you just leave him? No one deserves to be treated the way you to. Playing a video game while on the phone with you is just plain rude, and he is making it seem like that game is more important then your conversation. Especially when the two of you are talking about something important. Dump the loser and find someone that will treat you better, or just stay single for awhile and have some fun!
2007-12-04 03:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by MayMay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been with this type of guy and TRUST ME when I tell you that this is not going to change. You can find someone that respects your feelings and cares about you enough to work on things. Do you really want to be with someone that is only great half the time? It sounds like you need more than he is willing to give. There is nothing wrong with that, you are just in two different places. You need to move on, you can't make someone change, they have to want to.
2007-12-04 03:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are 3 ways to this.
either he is mature enough to handle stuff like this
he doesnt care that much for you so finds it annoying when you tell him ur problems
or im not being rude but some women go on to much about their problems and this really gets to the guy and most men like to relax and chill out.
what ever the reason what you need is something he cant give you. if your not happy leave. if you wanna stay try for a week solid not to mention any problems and see how he reacts. if he seems better you no he cant handle "girl talk" or your simply going on to much
good luck
2007-12-04 03:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by April 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he finds handling your emotional hurt feelings difficult. You are going through counselling & getting your hurt feelings out, Men sometimes don't understand Woman who continually feel hurt, let down etc...
Maybe you need some-one who is good about talking about feelings..Many people are not.
If you feel your are not supported emotionally then talk it through with your counsellor & let him/her guide you while you break away from your Boyfriend...give him the chance to find some-one who doesn't feel the need to express her feelings so strongly & you the chance to find freedom while you nuture your inner self.
I hope you find some kind of peace within yourself & eventually move on to find that special some-one who will fill the void you so deeply feel
Good luck
2007-12-04 03:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by skippy's mum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You incredibly did the wonderful situation to interrupt it off with him. you're unlikely to alter what's an necessary area of his character and he's not interested in changing for you. So , for the various reasons which you gave here, that's obtrusive that this may be a experience made in Hell incredibly than in Heaven and additionally be sure you flow your separate techniques. you probably did the wonderful situation
2016-10-19 03:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do i get the feeling that this guy is either a teen or early 20s?!!
seriously, don't even play in this emotional rollercoaster, mind game, just let the boy play his playstation in peace. go about your own life and find something more deserving of your time and energy.
2007-12-04 03:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very immature. He obviously cannot be bothered to take your relationship seriously so I do not know why you are wasting your time with him. Find someone who will give you 100% whenever they are with you and listen when you talk. Leave this little boy to his playstation.
2007-12-04 03:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My ex was like that. He got worse. He cheated and I ended it. Best thing i ever did. Now other girls get to put up with it. He can't seem to keep a girlfriend. Gee I wounder why!!! you will NEVER change him because it is his problem.
2007-12-04 05:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by openminded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋