My 4 year old nephew has always had behavioral problems. It seems that no matter what we do he still acts?

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the same. As soon as he finds out something bothers someone, he is going to do it to them. He is violent. I seen him grab this triangle shapped toy and hit another little boy in the face with the point 3 times (like a stabbing motion) while I was yelling for him to stop and running to him. His mother told me he chased his older brother (age 6) twice now with a knife. He goes to THREE different schools during the day because not one school will agree to keep him all day. He was suspended from one school the other day because of swinging a toy around and he accidently hit another kid in the head with it, which required stitches, but the reason the school said they had to suspend him is because he showed no remorse for hurting the boy. One of the schools has a psychologist coming in and watching him and now the pediatrician is sending him to a child therapist twice a week. He NEVER relaxes. It is like he is constantly looking for something to break or someone to torment. I went

To my sister’s house the other day to get a movie that I had left over there and I sat on the floor looking through her movies and he came in there. I tried to say hello to him as he darted in front of me and started to knock all the movies off the shelf. I told him no, grabbed his arms and made him look at me and I told him no again, that we don’t do that. As soon as I let him go, he reached down, snatched my keys and took off running with them. I grabbed my movie and I was going to eat with my sister, so I opened the drawer to get a fork and he reaches in the drawer real fast and said “I’m gonna get a knife and get you!” and I told him no your not, and I grabbed his hand and got it out of the drawer. My sister had already moved all the knives anyway. One of the schools said he stabbed another kid in the hand with a fork, but it didn’t go through the skin, only put the dots on there. We are horrified at what is happening with him. One doctor has expressed his concern saying he

saying he is showing several traits of a serial killer. Has anyone else ever had to go through this? What is the best way for us to help him? We have tried time out’s, spankings, old fashioned switches (which worked for about a week), and taking his favorite things away. As I said, he is in the process of being evaluated, but any other people with similar experiences would be nice to talk with, or t hear your story. Advice please!!

Answer 1

I have four children just wonderful the last one really bad very active and saying stupid things. I thought he might have ADHD but I never tested him because I did not believe in medication. when he got to the 3rd grade I just got so tired of the school calling so I took him in and got him on meds. He is very different and well behaived. Please don't be angry with the little boy or your sister really he cannot help it at times. But he will out grow it one day.

Answer 2

The doctor that said he showed traits of a serial killer was WAY out of line.

The kid is 4, he obviously has some anger problems but they can be worked out. Obviously positive punishment is not working (many experts would say it rarely works anyway) (spankings are positive punishment) nor is negative punishment it sounds like (taking things away). It could be an over stimulation issue.

Without being able to sit down with the child I can't tell you what is wrong.. but I can make some suggestions for the future.

You are getting the child assessed, that is good. Next try to get him enrolled in a CHMS clinic or the likes (early intervention pre-school programs.. the teachers there will be learned in how to deal with children that have different problems... anything from learning disabilities to autism to downs to MS and anything in between) and have your sister (as well as yourself if you'd like) play an ACTIVE roll with the therapist. The therapist will be able to make specific recommendations for the therapies you can do at home to help this child, as well as make suggestions to changes in home life that may help.

Answer 3

I have a son that is A.S.D meaning autsitic. When he was younger prior to getting professional help he had gotten kicked out of several day cares 3 diffrent schools by grade 2. he was extremely violent quite often I would say its like having 2 different children, he can be the most loving child when he chose but the next he would be looking for a weapon.
I tried several different punishments to control his behaviours, but found the best one for him was to remove him from everyone and everything and pay no attention until he was doing the right thing ( took a lot of patience and a lot of damaged walls etc ).
I was told that paying attention to what behaviours you want him to exhibit and rewarding him for it is better than on bad ones, Some children are just attention seeking whether its for good or bad behaviour does not worry them as long as they get attention, so you need to model what behaviours you want him to show.
There are many different medications out there if you feel he needs it. I medicated my son for a short time only for the therapy his psychologist was putting in place, otherwise we would have been just going over the symptoms not the course of his problems.
It is scary to hear someone to refer to someone so young as having the trats of a serial killer.
I would definitely have the pschologist have a look there may be medical reason he acts the way he does, which until you know its hard to deal with the situation as you do question if it is something you are doing.If it turns out that there is nothing medically wrong with him they can teach you techniques on how best to deal with the behaviours especially for him as every child is different.
When you do find a consequence that you intend to use be consistant. His behaviours may esculate to start with but be strong and in the end it will be worth it.
Good luck with it, and remember you can only do your best.

Answer 4

I babysat a kid just exactly like this when I was 13, this kid was so dangerous, just like your nephew I was only 13 mind you so this scared me, so what I did and it seemed to calm him down a lot is, he loved to play business, his dad owned his own business and had a lot of old cash registers and old order forms and I just started playing business with sometimes all day, but it kept him busy and kept him from getting violent, he even got to where he could play business with other kids, but after I quit not because of him but because I had school to worry about, he stole his dad's gun and tried to take it to school and left it in the field in front of the school, another younger kid and his brother found it and sadly the youngest shot and killed his older brother, they did find out who's gun it was and found out who put it there so the family moved to Hawaii and I don't know what happened to him after that, this does have the potential of him hurting someone real bad or even killing someone, so maybe try to entertain him with something he likes, basketball, soccer something he likes even if you have to entertain him all day it's worth it. He is only 4 right now so trying everything at this point is well worth it, I don't know if he is on meds but it might be what he needs until he gets older.

Answer 5

OMG-that boy needs serious help. It does`nt seem like he`s been getting it, though. A lot of the behaviors you`ve describeed can be quite common in children with autistic spectrum disorders (IE:Aspergers` syndrome, which is a highly functioning autistic). It could be something simple that`s wrong with him (lot`s of kids with hearing problems behave "badly" because they can`t hear what`s going on)... I`d suggest your sister gets him to a Child Psychiatrist, where he should be fully assessed to find out if his difficulties are due to neurological problems (epilepsy...petit mal seizures quite often are`nt noticed)....a form of Autism, ADD, deafness, learning difficulties.
I hope he`s unaware of these "serial killer" fears of those around him. He`s a little boy who IS behaving inappropriately, but no-one`s worked out WHY. Once it`s known why, his problems will be EASIER (not easy) to deal with.
I hope it all works out...

Answer 6

kids put out what was put into them. he got that from somewhere but without more info it's hard to say where. Fixing the issue I think is going to require some serious professional help. No matter how bad it seems he's getting something out of it or he wouldn't do it. OR this could be the onset of a disorder it's WAY to early to tell what but someone has got to intervene here.

Answer 7

Kill him.

Either kill him or take him for a walk in the woods every day (with a leash) and let him break everything in his path.

Every time you see him attack another kid, knock him out. You have to actually knock him out, just punching will show him that violence is okay (because it's coming from the parent). If you knock him out, he will associate hurting people with passing out, because he will not remember being hit by you, and this will condition him to be afraid of hurting others.

Best off killing him though.

Answer 8

sounds like a pro needs to get involved!
please don't take this as a hasty remark but monkey see monkey doo!
What sort of games does he play how are his parents like!

try to meditate with him teach him how! changes will not happen over night but it may calm him down a bit after time!

Answer 9

well hes only 4 so time will tell.