My mom is paying for our wedding and honeymoon and she wants to ride in the limo (that she's paying for), along with some other people of my family, with me and my new husband while we go to the airport (45 minutes away) to go to our honeymoon. What would your thoughts be if your mom told you that's what she wanted to do? Cause my thinking is we just got married (which is a symbolization of growing up, leaving the nest, being without your parents) we would want to be alone. But she is paying for it and I don't want to be rude but I don't think going to our honeymoon is a "family event". But she thinks it would be fun. I know "do what you want to do" and all that but what would YOU do if your mom wanted to ride along?
2007-12-04 02:04:16 · 33 answers · asked by KittyKitty 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
It's not about her wanting to ride in the limo its about her wanting to share this time with us but I think this time should be shared between me and my new hubby.
2007-12-04 02:13:43 · update #1
Bellydancer- Wedding tradition has always been the bride's family pay for the wedding. The honeymoon is our wedding gift. I'm not "trying to get her to pay". geesh people are so snotty
2007-12-04 02:34:22 · update #2
Well, I personally would not want anyone but wife in the limo with me (except the driver). I understand where you are coming from, but you could rent a second limo and have them ride with you to the airport in the second one. That way they can get a ride and still see you both off.
I would just explain to her that you both are going to need some time to relax and would prefer to be alone. It's natural for anyone to be a little stressed on their wedding day, and that you were hoping to get a little time to yourselves before having to deal with the stress at the airport. And if worse comes to worse, you could always suggest that it's only fair that if so many people of your family ride along, that the same number of his family should ride with you as well and that there is not enough room in the limo for that to happen. But, be warned, that could backfire. But you're best bet would be for both you and your fiance to tell your parents that you'd prefer to be alone for that almost hour as a chance to relax and maybe take a nap.
I wish you luck.
2007-12-04 02:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by Toledo Engineer 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello Kitty,
The problem as I see it is this..... Your mom, has never ridden in a Limo, and if that is all that is standing in the way of her happiness, then recommend that she and all of the family that wants to get a ride to the Local 7-11, or Stop N Go before your trip to the Airport. The contract for the trip to the Airport is just that, once you get to the airport the trip Ends, and Mom, and who ever is with her will be stranded across town, and the Driver will be off to his next Fare.
It is a little disconcerting that Mom wants to intrude on the beginning of your new life together with your Husband, and the romance of the ride to the Airport for the Honeymoon should be a private Moment between yourself and your husband.
Tell Mom that if she insists on the ride in the Limo, then she will have to consider the trip home from the airport, as a separate trip which she will have to get another contract for, and pay a seperate fare for. This may discourage her, and ring a few bells, unless the Limo company charges for the Limo by the hour, then if this is the case ask Mom to have the Limo return to her home, after you two have been driven to the airport, and let mom ride till the time limit runs out, or she has gotten her hearts fill, which ever comes 1st. Another recommendation might be that Mom could request a second Limo, fro the trip to the airport, which she and any other member of the family could ride in , in Caravan, all that much more fun, for Mom because then she could speculate about the activity in the 1st car.
I hope this helps....... Best of Day's!
Robert
2007-12-04 02:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by rcrines 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For Pete's sake. She is paying for all this and just wants to ride in the limo for a private family and friends time before you fly off to your honeymoon. What?? Do you plan on making your new husband with a limo driver in the drivers seat? Weddings are expensive and you are blessed to have a Mom that thinks so much of you. Life is a give and take thing. She's giving and you are taking. Why don't you just give a little back? She's not asking to go on your actual honey moon. Now that would be a whole different issue.
2007-12-04 02:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...... NO. This is where you need to take a small stand. I'm sure your family had fun at the wedding and reception... This is where the "family" portion of the event needs to end (for now). You should be gracious to your family and thank them for their support but stress that this is YOUR honeymoon and that you need to begin your life as a married couple. If your mother and family are only coming along for the ride because they think it will be fun..... maybe you should rent them a limo for a couple of hours when you get back. Have fun and congratulations on your new life
2007-12-04 02:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by sloppy_p_70 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would hope my Mum wouldn't put me into the position yours has put you in. I personally think it's wrong that she wants to come - you are going off to start your new life together and it will probably be the first opportunity you and your husband get to spend with just the two of you all the day of the wedding. If you think she wants to come because she's paying, how about you pay for the limo, or go without and go to the airport in a taxi. It's a lovely thought for her to organise it, but not if she wants to come. You need to talk to her before you get really upset and it causes arguments. Be honest and truthful but tactful with her. Good luck. Don't let it spoilt the run up to your wedding.
2007-12-04 02:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you completely, going for a honeymoon is not a family thing. Even if it's just riding to the airport, I think it's something that you and your new husband should do together with nobody else.
Maybe you can sit your mom down and explain all this to her, telling her that you don't want to hurt or offend her, but you feel as though it's a strictly husband/wife thing.
Good luck and I hope you have fun on your honeymoon.
2007-12-04 02:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY... plus, because you are married, ie, joined with your husband, you become one, so your husband gets a say as well. If she wants to follow you to the airport, she can always go in a second car - plus, it IS traditional for the bride's family to pay for the nuptials. The thing is, she might have a problem letting go of her 'little girl' , but wanting to follow you in the limo, which would definitely impede any 'making out' is not cool!! I know I am being way ridiculous, but then so is she.
2007-12-04 02:12:46 · answer #7 · answered by Lance D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my mom and I have an honesty policy, I can tell her anything. Including, "mom... look, I know you're paying for it and I'm grateful, but come on. It's my HONEYMOON."
Maybe specify that you would like the time alone. Tell her what you just told us, that while you realize she's paying for it, you really don't think the honeymoon is a family event and it makes you uncomfortable. What she's doing is trying to hold on to her baby just one more second. She's paying for it, but if it makes you uncomfortable, you need to say something.
2007-12-04 02:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you pay for the limo and then there won't be that problem. Or just tell her how you feel. Its your mom, she might get mad a little, but she will understand. If you are a daddy's girl, skip mom and go to dad. Then he will do the dirty work for you! GOod luck, I'm glad my parents aren't that crazy about my wedding, but then again i'm paying for some things!
2007-12-04 02:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by loving life!!!!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They just want a ride in the Limo... get over it.. if that's the case, then you pay for the wedding and the limo.. talking about leaving the nest... but still want her to pay..
My mom has never been in a Limo, so I would let her ride in it.. but that's just me.
2007-12-04 02:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by Pirate ♥ Kitten 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋