Are you willing to break your heart open again and again to finally awaken?

Question

"Break my heart. Oh, break it again, so I can love more fully."
-Rumi

Answer 1

I will until the breaking stops,
what choice do I have,
I have given my life to love,
I love with my life,
even in sadness there is beauty.
The broken heart,
spills it's blood upon the beloved,
and can look upon it's own letting,
not in pride but in sadness,
in such sadness there is love,
in sadness there is great beauty.

Answer 2

Ah, Rumi...such love, such willingness, such inspiration, such openness, such merging, such heart, such magnificence, such seeking, such teaching. Alas, my own willingness is minuscule by comparison; though when I read Rumi, I am blown open to greater possibilities. Yet, can I really comprehend the shattering that ensues from this Dark Night of the Soul with such a small mind as mine? Will it be my innocence or my ignorance that might finally tip me over the edge? Where does trust/faith enter? If I am blown to smithereens will I fall together once more, somehow/somewhere? As I write this I feel my heart quickening, urging me to blast open...yet I forestall. Fear? Of what? I've seen a friend go through horrors as he is shaken out of sleep. Am I strong enough? Am I ready? Then, again, I read Rumi, and the words transport me to an unspeakable longing. The labor must happen for the birth to occur. I am Sirius

Janjou and Ysteban, thank you more than I can say. I've watched my friend's Dark Night of the Soul and it is beyond bearable pain. The suffering is overwhelming and taken my friend to the edge. Your words "hearten" me. I am grateful for your depth and encouragement. Those who have walked the path with courage and heart are an inspiration. You have both given me "perspective." I am Sirius

Answer 3

Willingness is not necessary. Rumi is describing what will happen. The nature of the human ego creates suffering which in turn erodes the ego. Eventually the ego will be worn down and pure awareness will shine through. This is just the nature of what is. The heart will be broken again and again until there is no heart to be broken.

Answer 4

While I admire Rumi's poetry, I'm not sure humans have strength enough to get up every time they fall.

I've fallen a couple of times in my life. And I mean I fell really hard. But I'm not sure I'd be able to stand back on my feet one more time.

Weakness? Perhaps. Or maybe it's the strength - depends on how one looks at it. I'm inclined to believe it's the second because I've decided never to go back *there* again.

So my answer would be no - I'm not inclined to have it willingly broken. It would mean that I learned absolutely nothing from the experiences when it was broken (one way or another).

Cheers! :)

Answer 5

Look I'm real skeptical about crap like this , and believe me i ain't no freak that believes in spiritual ****. but some of us are given a gift . a lot of people say they have it but few really do . Its not something you can gain or learn or acquire by doing spiritual **** its just given some stronger than others . I don't know why its given. But it is. you can't fight it you need to harness it .there is obviously a purpose for all the sh+t u you go through you just need to find it. that's all i know. it probably doesn't help. but maybe you will find someone who can. Its not about god or Demons. or Jesus. Believe me moped MaMa needs more help than you do. Look i grew up in a religous family. Went to a catholic school. But come on as soon as some one has a, well what do I call it" an experience you all find it a time to preach about god and demons. I can’t tell you that it’s not demons. But I can tell you there’s more to life and this world than God and demons. Since I was little I used to wake up to a black figure standing at my door. I couldn't move or yell just lie there **** scared. I used to hear voices. Feel things I couldn't see. Feel the presence of people that weren’t there. Once I went away with my friend and his parents from church when I was about 11. We went to there friends house this day to swim in a pool. I never went in the house. I was swimming and saw a person a man upstairs I asked if it was the grounds keeper and explained the man I saw. My friend’s mother looked at me in horror. I was later told that the owner had been murdered and his wife was in an asylum. I’m now 26 I still see **** .I still feel stuff. Stuff most people would shake in there shoes, I don't know why. But I’m not demonic .I’m not possessed. I don't need church healing. But I know if I told people and they said half the stuff these people are saying and I listened, I would be in an asylum now rocking in my chair. You can have your beliefs and make from this what you want, but don't be so closed minded as others when it comes to this. Find out for yourself whats going on don't take other peoples word for it

Answer 6

Willing able and completely capable of reassembly, I know the peace in my heart.

You know, once you know it, never again can anyone break it.

People want you to be happy
Don't keep serving them your pain :-) Rumi

Rumi knew his heart,
To break it one must have no care for it. To let your heart love without care, greed, without need or want. To give it away with love and allow another to hold it, then to see them drop it. A huge crystal shatters.

Now pick up the pieces, you will learn how to mend it and know it. Discover who really loves it. Who really cares for it. Who Rumi writes about.

Answer 7

For me it's been much like this.The breaking one's heart open again and again is like crying, it's about letting go, it's about clearing up the accumulated pain of many, many, lifetimes. It's about fooling yourself, over and over and over again and in seeing your foolishness, you break down and cry again. Dark Nights of the Soul, there is not one, there are many... Yet, you want this love so bad, that you are willing to keep going, and this is what gives you the strength to carry on, this love deep inside you that want's to be expressed fully, beyond the personality, is what will drive you. It took much willingness for me to keep going on, and this is why I see they say you have free will. You are free to choose: ignoring yourself and your ways or to confront yourself. When you confront yourself, when you see yourself clear, then it hurts, but the hurt & pain is at the same time a transformation, after the crying you are lighter, you are less personality and more love, a little part of you has been healed and you are more loving. Little by little, it goes on, it's a growing process, and the more love you 'realize', the more you will want to 'be love'. Love is the strength that allows you to carry on and you get it when you 'break your heart'.

I share a little poem about it:

DEATHLY DARK

Short days of winter
retreating into myself
curled by the fire.
Hidden within dark shadows
the spark of new beginnings.

Betsy

Answer 8

I think it's backwards...
We're born (new souls anyway) as open as we can ever be in a body. We get beaten down over the years and have very little love left.
At that point, breaking your heart open is a great, graphic depiction of how it feels to open it back up.

To answer? Yes.

Answer 9

Oh, yes, yes, yes! And again, yes! Mine has been and I have welcomed it as the heart opening that it is. The term of "breaking" the heart is quite real.......the encrustations of self protection get ripped off and we become exposed to our own wonderful heart. Love is as love does. Living in love is to be open to all things, all experiences, all suffering, to become one who is open to all people, for then we know that life is impermanence. We are then open to each other in compassion: true love, and from there everyone who comes in contact with us is free, in that spaciousness we've created in our compassionate heart, and will instantly see their own nature reflected in us. A fully open, compassionate heart belongs to an enlightened being. I love this compassionate, loving, heart-breaking life.

My heart has been trampled, shattered, cut, torn, broken, abandoned, so many times.....I know that my great love shines through in wonder and in utter joy. May your heart be broken, so that you too may feel this bliss. Peace, friends.

Answer 10

Having had open heart surgery four years ago my answer is NO.;)

The problem with your quote is that people who have suffered from a "broken" heart more often tend to shy away from ever loving again.