I mean actually hearing what they have to say and treating them as a fellow human beings rather than seeing them as just kids who know nothing
2007-12-03 22:21:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
l take it you don't have any kids?The thing that always annoys me is when l hear this kind of talk you are making kids into adults before they have had time to be kids. The point is that as kids they do know nothing of course at there age you think you think you know everything but you don't. We as parents have the job of keeping them on the right road untill such time that they are old enough to go it alone. Hopefully the morals and standards we have taught them will teach them in turn to make informed decisions. Of course we treat them as fellow human beings,LITTLE fellow human beings.Your attitude is why so many kids think its okay to do what they want because "they are not kids".I always listen to what my kids tell me by the way.
2007-12-03 22:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah C 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
yes -- my 5 year old says some of the most profound things. And he also says the normal things most 5 year olds do. We have great talks and he asks all kinds of questions - some of which I wish I didn't have to answer yet. I answer everything he asks and I do it in terms he understands. I also make sure I tell him the truth about things (other than Santa Claus)
I have no intention of unleashing an unfit adult onto society. The only way you know what is going on in that little head is to listen to what they say, observe what they do and ask questions. I'd bet a year's salary that the parents of the kids who shot up Columbine High School hadn't really listened to their kids FOR YEARS, if ever.
2007-12-04 06:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jezebel's Revenge 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course I do. However they (kids) are also pleasure seekers who will find the easy way out of things and do what feels good. With that being said I may listen to when they say, but will not necessarily agree or let them have it their way. If you give in to a child every whine they will never be able to deal with anything that brings them discomfort. I do think the older they get the more say they should have.
2007-12-04 06:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by ....... 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do listen to my son, although I find it hard to strike a balance between giving adult guidance and letting him have his say. [He's 13 years old, still a child, but starting to think more independently.]
However I think it's essential routinely to give him a hearing, because he won't tell me when something is really worrying him otherwise.
I'm not really worried about him going off the rails, as he loves being at home with me, and he is relatively conservative in his values [so far, at least!]
2007-12-04 06:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I make a point to do this b/c of my past experiences. I grew up w/ great, loving parents- don't get me wrong. But, a lot of times as a child, I remember my mom totally ignoring me when I talked to her, especially when she was busy. I know I did talk a lot, especially as a child, but looking back I think it had a negative effect on my self esteem. It really hurt my feelings at the time. I have vowed to listen and respond to my children so that they don't feel ignored. I may not agree w/ his opinions or give in to his requests but I do listen.
2007-12-04 08:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes. You have to see beyond what they're saying and read between the lines. You have to know your children well which means being around. They have their own way of communicating and a lot of it centres on behaviour so you have to look carefully. Worth doing.
2007-12-04 07:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by Boudicca 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Always, I believe that respect is somethings you should give to everyone (unless they have given you reason not to) I hate it when people demand it just because they are old or they have a position of power it doesn't matter who you are it's how you behave and treat others that's important
2007-12-04 08:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by loopy loo 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Of course I listen to them and take into account their feelings and what they have to say. However, I don't treat them as adults because they're not. I'm the parent and my decision is final.
2007-12-04 06:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by Queen of the Jungle 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, that's how we parent. I don't believe in the authoritation b/c I'm an adult and your a kid syndrome. Our kids are well mannered and adjusted and I believe it's b/c we treat them like little people
2007-12-04 09:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i do i find it quite interesting my sons 21 months and hes talking non stop most of which i cant understand but tht look he gives me hes telling me something and sometimes its quite fasinating to hear what he has to say
2007-12-05 13:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by kirst_iom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋