I am 16 of age and currently in sixth form. I am old enough to stay out with mates at nights. I am a black boy and i tend to have friends who go out every friday night, I don't get to go out with them most of the time because my mum is always worried about me going out at nights just because i am a black boy and in a foreign country, so my mum is always protective. she stops me from going out with my friends because she feels some1 might walk up to me and stab me or get shot in town. I go out sometimes and nothing happens to me. But how can i stop her from having this feeling???
2007-12-03 20:56:39 · 12 answers · asked by Ar oh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Good question, not so easy to answer. Honestly, I think that the reason why your mom is so protective is because she loves you and she cares about what happens to you. I don't think she is being mean by not wanting you to go out, it's just that she doesn't want anything to happen to you. Also, you are 16 and there isn't much that you can do except try your best to reassure her that you will be okay. have you tried investing in a cellphone to keep in contact with her so that she doens't worry as much. that's what I had to do when I turned 18 (23 now) and now I go out whenever I want. Of course, my mom worries but she knows that I'll be okay and that she can call me anytime she wants. It's a motherly instinct that your mom has and I don't blame her to a certain extent because she just wants the best for you and she doesn't wan to see anything happen to you. Besides, I'm sure that whenever you have children, you will possibly worry about them just as much as she does about you. but like i said, try to get a cellphone or ask your mom to possibly get you a cellphone that way you can stay in touch with her that way it takes some of the worry amd stress from her. I hope this helps you out and listen dude, your mom loves you and she's the only mother that you will have in this lifetime, so please cherish every moment.
2007-12-03 21:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by S A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mom is right...It might not be so safe for you out there at nights. Why not go on the computer instead or the movies, visit a friend's house, play a sport, etc., Going out and hanging around outside and so on isn't a good idea, no matter who you are. You can run into trouble.
You are so young at 16. You will have a chance to explore the nightlife when you get older.
2007-12-04 05:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by Zoe Dot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're so good to want to reassure your Mum. Just keep telling her that you are careful when you go out, and that so far this has served you well. She will eventually relax, but it takes time. Are you an only child? Mums with just the one child tend to worry about that child a lot, when if they had more than one, the worry would be shared around, if you get me .... just keep tell her you're careful and you will remain careful, and you should be alright and she will eventually be too.
2007-12-04 05:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe go a little easy on her. its not so much your safety that you should think about but more her piece of mind. and I'm a 7Th former. my mum still worries. even though she know I'll kick anyone's @$$ if they get smart to me. it doesn't matter if your white, black or candy apple red. if you care about your mum you will do this for her. avoid going out with friends too late for a while. the country is new to her too. and parents have more preconceived ideas about new countries than kids do. kids tend to be more adaptable and open to change while parents are more apprehensive. so just chill for a while. if Ur 16 that's too young to be going out anyhow, just chill out. kick back. or maybe ask your mum if your friends can come over. oh and tell her to chill out about the stabbing. if you live in Aussie i cant Say much, but if you live in NZ, you dint have to worry about people jumping out in front of you and jumping you for no reason. it rarely happens. this is one of the most uneventful places on the planet.....
peace.\/
2007-12-04 05:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by εϊзSmart Cookieεϊз 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick arround the home when you should and if you must go out at night which should be only occational the reasons must be acceptable to her. and mind you being 16 does not make you independent parental control. make a point of only being with people or friends you mum aprove of and she will have less fear for you
2007-12-04 05:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lt. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is just worried about you,and she doesn't want to see you hurt in anyway.Give it sometime she will eventually realize that you are getting old enough to do your own thing.Be greatful that you havve a caring and loving mom alot of kids have parents that just don't care.
2007-12-04 09:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by flavagirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me my mum was the same but untill your as old as me u dont understand why the bottom line is she loves you and is tryinmg to protect you you will understand one day i promise in the mean time see if you can compermise on times and stick to them that way she will no your safe .good luck
2007-12-04 05:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by hoho mery shitmas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*U cant !!!
Unless u stop going out and staying out late !!!!
& it u love yr mom,
Listen to yr mother !! She has yr welfare at heart !!!
REmember that it has not happened yet but anything can happen later on, right ? There always the first time !!!!
2007-12-04 05:01:33 · answer #8 · answered by ๏๓ รђคภtเ, รђคภtเ รђคภtเ ....... ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont hang out on the street, if she knows you are in someones house or in a youth club, she might feel better...
2007-12-04 05:00:37 · answer #9 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. It's what parents do. How bout getting a cell phone and checking in so often to assure her everything's okay?
2007-12-04 04:59:25 · answer #10 · answered by Little Foot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋