Ok i have been goin out with this guy billy for 2 weeks now and were not serious yet or anything we just like each other alot.but the problem is with his mom. She use to like me before i started dating her son, now she can't stand me. i do all i can to make her like me and she still doesn't like me. Now it's where i jsut don't even want to go to his house because of how she acts towards me i mean am i suppose to sit ther and let her be negative towards me or stay away? i don't know i jsut now that i am scared that his mom might be the end of us someday and that's not a good feeling to have after two weeks and it's not like that's what i want i want him i just don't know what to do?????
2007-12-03 20:12:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him to talk to her. If she's controlling now imagine how bad it'll be if you end up marrying him. Besides, the sooner he realizes that his mother is overbearing and overprotective, the sooner he can deal with it.
2007-12-03 20:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by Hubris252 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is problem, tell me the boy also loves u the same way or this is something u never assessed.
Now your bg's mom is being rude to u, why is she rude to u, is there any other reason or tht she already have plans for him and u are becoming hurdle in those. There must be any reason u know why doesn't like u as u said tht she liked when u were not serious so wht i can take out is tht she just simply don't want u to see her wife. Try to persuade her and mean while with the passage of time let ur bf know about his mom behaviour with u. Good Luck
2007-12-03 20:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by maki" The time begins Now 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there are many things I can say to this mostly because of the lack of complete information provided lol
my first impression is that no one is good enough for her son, even some one she liked who was just a friend, every mother goes through this and you may want to confront her about this. Tell her "I am sorry you do not approve of me dating your son, but I am I like him and would love the oprotunity to see how far things go, I care for him and the future of our relationship and we would love it if you were apart of our future too. I am not asking you to like this or me right now but I am asking for some civility and respect as another human being. I can promise you I have no intent in hurting your son, and I have no intentions in letting any one come between us either, so for the sake of harmony I ask that you are atleast polite to me infront of your son and myself."
The second thought I have is that the two of you could be still to young to be dating in her eyes, I only think this because you failed to denote both of your ages. She may fear that your relationship could interfere with his school work, if the two of you are still in school that is, or possibly with a career. The key thing to remember is that mothers only want whats best for their children and they do have that maternal desire for the protection of them (in most cases) this can also lead to some irrational thinking on their parts (sorry mothers but it is true) they may magnify the flaws they see in women to be greater then they actually are, or create flaws or seek them out desperately in order to protect the ones they love.
The important thing is to respect the mother son relationship and let her know that you do, but also let her know that you will not let her get in the way either. It can be a bit tricky but with the right touch you can restore a balance in the relationships again!
2007-12-03 20:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by the_last_knight_69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of moms dont just abruptly change...UNLESS hes blaming you for things, like coming home late, bad grades, needing to rescue you when really hes doing other things, so take a look at that, investigate. mothers dont usually invest hatred towards young girls for no reason. the are too busy worrying about, bills, work, their own marriage, other family members that may not be in the dating bracket. so look for why she MAY be acting this way. then confront him about it...its gotta be him adn his stories about u or maybe other rumors that could be correccted even if true, so if you really like this guy and are willing to put your self out there to say hey, im not a bad girl and im deservant of your sons company, then look alil deeper. or she may just be a drunken crazy person. just kidding
2007-12-03 20:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just jealous of the effect you are having on her son. Her son is probably not doing what he is supposed to be doing, using the excuse that he has to see you or do something for you. That how boys are. They don't realize the problems that they cause.
2007-12-03 20:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe his moms just worried youre gonna hurt his son or what. its also possible that his mom doesnt want him to have a GF yet. thing you should do is, follow the mom. she doesnt want you around the house? dont be. i dunno thats what i did when i courted my ex. since she already liked me alot, i focused on having her mom like me too. i folloewd whatever she wanted me to do. (except stay away from her daughter of course) if thats the case just dont tell her. good luck
2007-12-03 20:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by icriedherariver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋