This guy would ask me to come round to his a lot-we got on so well (knew each other for a year but not well) we didn't kiss or anything physical. He kept asking me am I single, and do I like anyone-but at the same time telling me he didn't like or want a relationship. We got on well & he then actually asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend & I said yes-we went out & he acted like the perfect guy, holding hands in public & cooking for me at his.
Well since then he hasn't really asked to meet up, but texts or talks on msn-so I asked him today what's going on
He said 'I know why ur confused & it's my fault. I really like you, & hanging out with u is great. It's just i've been so stressed lately & blazing (smoking things) a lot (which is true). I jus need 2 get uni out the way before I can make any commitments. Im sorry if I stressed ur feelings a bit.Speak soon xxxx
Is this an excuse or is he genuinely stressed out? he hasn't had a proper relationship befor
2007-12-03 19:53:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a college senior in a similar situation I can tell you that the stress is real and he is confused about how to handle the relationship. You should tell him to stop blazing (it's killing his dick even if he doesn't know it) and spend more time with you. He can study after he leaves your place, or vice-versa, but can't study after blazing.
2007-12-03 19:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by Hubris252 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I strongly believe that this one's an excuse. Do you know Greg Behrendt? Have you read any of his books? "Men are just never too busy to have what they want..." I mean, if this guy was truly into you, no amount of stress or his busy schedule would never get in the way of him wanting to be with you and making it happen. In fact, if he cared enough for you to wanna be with you, his being stressed out would even be something that should certainly draw him closer to you.. you would be the highlight of his day.. the reward at the end of each hectic day.. Sadly though, men can also come up with a million excuses when they are not so into something or somebody. So I guess what you have to do now is relax and quit over-analyzing this idiot and move on to the next fish... there surely are better men out there waiting for you to notice them. Smile! :)
2007-12-03 20:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by Pinay Backpacker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing him its hard to judge what he means but either way someone who continues to smoke what he smokes when feeling stressed is no good for you it causes all sorts of relationship problems and messes with your head.
Move on from him he is not giving you the right signals and find someone who can cope with the demands of life without getting so stressed.
2007-12-03 20:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave this one well alone.
Definitely a wide berth Zone. He probably likes you (and wants to have s*x with you) but knows he can't commit so doesn't want to hurt you.
Just forget it and find someone slightly more mature with their emotions.
And yes, it is an excuse.
If you go there, you will regret it.
2007-12-03 20:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds a bit like he is stressed out because at the end of the day it is uni+girl=stress.
just take it easy you will have more time..
2007-12-03 20:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by the bright side of life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the while what are you to each other? When he ask u to be his girlfriend; what are you to him b/4 then. Don,t waste your time, find someone who's more serious.
2007-12-03 21:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by ibrahimjumary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going thru hard times right now and don't want to be bother by it. What you can do is wait or find another guy. It is really up to you. Do you want to waste time waiting for a guy that you don't know would want you?
2007-12-03 19:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by cheng 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
may be he will come back to u and say surprize...
I think he wants to become too good infront of u
anyways , when there are more choices available, why do u want to struck to a stress
2007-12-04 02:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by model_1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say without knowing the person, its very hard to make an opinionated thought about that statement without knowing the person and his character.
It could be honest, then again it may not.
2007-12-03 19:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave him be and see what he comes up with after the exams.
2007-12-03 22:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋