my gf and i were going out for 11 months..we were fighting a bit at the end and she said she wanted to take a break..i said that's ok so we did. we are now backtogehter 1 month later..and she told me she had sex with another guy. i feel so upset by this because i didnt have sex with any other girls. what should i do? should i just get over it and know it was cos we were on break or should i be upset about this, i need advice. Just so you know we are both 18.
2007-12-03 19:42:22 · 18 answers · asked by OttawaOnt7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the human nature in you is going to be upset ..you just found out your gf slept with someone rather on a break or not .. on the same hand the two of you werent dating each other so she was technically single ... if you worked through things and are back together and you trust her ... you have to ask yourself do you love her and want this relationship bad enough to get over it ....
2007-12-03 19:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both only 18. She had sex while you were no longer 'a couple' with some else. She is back with you. Maybe she realized that she was about to loose a good thing after she was with this other guy. The grass is not always greener on the other side and she found this out while you too were apart.
Take this as a life lesson. Also it is actually not that uncommon when a couple breaks up that at least one of them finds another person quite quickly. You don't know what you have till its gone...
2007-12-03 19:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by Alea S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this same thing happened to me and my ex girlfriend like 11 months into our relationship. I really didn't know how to feel either...I think the worse part is that I felt really lied to that she didn't say something about it sooner. And she ended up turning it on me and telling me it was not any of my business because we were on a break. Also its the fact that she met a guy and hung out with him enough in the matter of a few weeks to trust him enough to have sex. She had sex with another guy in like almost half the time that we waited. So yeah I think it is pretty pathetic but if you can't see yourself without her then try to get over it. Having sex with another dude that quickly while on a break is like finding a loop hole in the system that says its okay to cheat...
2007-12-03 19:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by Derrick Q 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi....I didnt understand why these people takes your feelings so light / easy.....and I think every body misunderstood you and your feelings...that as if you have missed the chance to have sex with other girls during the break period..."...and I believe they are wrong...and actually what you are thinking is...as if you are cheated by your GF...,actually you were on a break to understand each other..., and to know / to feel the 'missing' of each other....am I correct?..during this period she should not have any sort of affair with any body (opposite sex) other than you.,that what you were doing it..,right?....and I believe she is not serious or confused...and better you should leave her to avoid future heart feelings..or give her some more time (if she want you., or if she is looking for a serious relationship with you) with certain conditions of above matters.,if she is agreeing then ok....other wise say her a BIG good bye...and look for your future.
2007-12-03 20:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by 2bros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 20 man, and I had that issue too, It's tough man, because you guys did go on a break, but yet it's weird she wanted the break to go do that. But give it to her man cuz she didnt offically cheat on u bro. So really just talk to her about it. Just make sure you guys have complete trust with each other, thats the main thing. Just talk to her man.
2007-12-03 19:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by corey b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
technically you were not together when she had sex w/another guy.... i have a feeling that you got upset because you didnt do the same thing...
unless you had an agreement that you wont do such things while you were on break, then you have no reason to get upset
2007-12-03 19:47:15 · answer #6 · answered by ms_confused 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the fact is u were on break. but i know it does eat into ur ego. i wld probably feel the same way too. the next time u go on such a break again with her or someone new then set some ground rules. otherwise consider it open season ya..
2007-12-04 14:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
their is no such think at a break in a relationship
you guys had broke up that mean she has the right to do as she please with her body
what piss you off is that you did not have sex with anyone
and I bet it was because you did not find someone
before you continue to stay piss
check out the definition on BREAK
it basically mean cut off
not taking a SABBATICAL from the person
2007-12-03 20:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you desire to label her a whore so badly? truly, what variety of earnings will that carry you? you experience that if human beings here on yahoo solutions say she is a whore, which you will bypass and trash talk her at your paintings, or at your college? as nicely, evaluate your source of innovations. Is it somewhat reliable? whether you assert your suitable pal (who you have faith) instructed you, keep in mind, his judgement is biased, and he could be attempting to stir some drama (because of the fact he never enjoyed your gf and needs you to dislike her now too, and so on and so on and so on). whether you experience the could be a jerk in the direction of her, keep in mind you atleast used to love her. you do not tutor the individuals you like, or used to love, that variety of disrespect. ok, so the courting ended. there will be different romances for the two considered one of you. no could make the placement worse with the help of lashing out, then it already must be. P.S. for the super majority of the inhabitants, in basic terms when you consider which you are the guy who did the breaking apart does not advise you're exempt from all thoughts of saddness. maximum people who do the breaking apart nevertheless experience some heartbreak later, nonetheless that's in many cases not fairly as plenty because of the fact the guy who replaced into dumped. For adult adult males, the thank you to lash out from adverse thoughts is thru aggression, so in basic terms save that in the process strategies. whether you act like a finished *** in the direction of her, what's going to that carry you, interior the top? psychological analyze tutor that venting aggression would not make the discomfort or aggression bypass away, in actuality, it heightens it. So the suitable element which you are able to do suitable now could be in basic terms spend it sluggish on my own or with friends, delight in your self, and circulate on from the courting.
2016-10-02 06:21:27 · answer #9 · answered by kanosh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Ross,......can I have Rachel's number next time u are on a break, sounds like she needs to pet the love muscle. Oh and How is Fibi?
2007-12-03 19:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by Mark P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋