My husband tell me to tell our 2 year old son to do what ever? And he get mad when he is bad.?

Question

I am controlling with my 2 yearold son. But he do'nt take me seurice only more cause he does, what ever he wants. I tell my husband that it's wrong what he is doing because when we go out he want me to tak care of with.

Answer 1

Have a word with your husband. You both need to be on the same wavelength when dealing with your son. This way your son will know the score and won't play up by receiving mixed messages.

Answer 2

First of all, there is no "controlling" a 2 year old. As the mother of 2 girls, ages 7 & 9, I don't remember ever being able to or wanting to "control" them. You need to be firm, not controlling. I definately agree that parenting classes sound like they could help. Unless you and your husband get a firm grasp on discipline and get on the SAME wavelength, this 2 year old behavior is only going to get worse. The one thing about discipline is you have to be consistent. I would recommend talking to your pediatrician or a family counselor and have them explain the importance of consistency in parenting. This is also where parenting classes would be helpful. I tell my husband periodically that I wish kids were born with an instruction manual..parenting is VERY hard, but also very rewarding.
Were you wanting to finish your question because it's almost like you just stopped mid-thought. I don't really understand exactly what you're trying to ask other than your husband lets your son do what he wants and you are controlling.

Answer 3

Things that help are!!

1. Stay calm, if he sensed that you are frustrated and/or your losing patience (which is a normal feeling) than he will play up more fueling his fire.

2. I do a 1-2-3 your out type system. If by 2 he does not change the behavior I calmly say... on 3 you will have to go to your room for 2 Min's (1 min for each year of age). Then pick him up kicking and all to his room

...close the door if need be ....
your son will test you to see if you will do this, expect testing! After a few times in the room consistently...He'll start shaping up!
Both you and your husband have to do the same thing to drive this message.

Sometimes we just need to understand from their point of view as they cannot fully express themselves.

Useful information to understand and how to deal with such situations

Answer 4

we are in the same boat my husband is the excate same with my two year old son he lets him do whatever he want throw everything everywhere hit other people i disiple him my husband doesn't like it hre's like he doesnt understand but i knoe he does because when my husbands at work he doesn't do it he acts right and then when we go out my son act up and i too have to deal with him i think you should correct your son even if you seem like the mean one but show him love when he does right and as for the husband who knows

Answer 5

Perhaps you and your husband would benefit from some parenting classes in your community. You might be able to get some new ideas there that can help you with your son. You should be able to find them perhaps through your pediatrician or your local school district.

Answer 6

Have you ever heard of the terrible two's??
Your son is very younge and you cannot be to rough with him. First of all his attention spand is short and he memory is short as well...Be gentle with punishment and reward for good behavior!!! Can you give some examples of what your child does?? Maybe I can give you some tips and advice..

Answer 7

I am not sure just what your question is. What i am reading though, tells me that both you and hubby would benifit greatly from a parenting class. There are free ones. You want i am sure to be the best parents you can be. Try it.

Answer 8

That's some awesome English there because I have no idea what you're talking about.

Anyway, if your son doesn't behave, don't give him candy.

Answer 9

I hope you don't reprimand your child in English, because if so that child isn't understanding a word you are saying.