my best girlfriend always has excuses for not meeting me for coffee or dinner after she met this new guy 1 year ago, i really miss her but i don't know what to do? i have a boyfriend too for 3 years but i still want to see my friends
2007-12-03 18:02:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is really not much you can do. It seems this kind of friend does exsist everywhere, though you wanna be friend with her but she is not, if you've really done your best to "rescue" this friendship and the result is still the same as present, I would suggest you to just keep quiet until she calls you one day, for good or for bad. You will still be her friend right?
Some people may have think that if she introduced her boyfriend to some girls it will threaten her own relationship, that might be the main reason why... Or, his boyfriend is very controled that doesn't allow her to contact her friends anymore... there are a lot of possibilities...
2007-12-03 20:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by woodpecker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi friend,
As hard as this is, you have to accept that between a boyfriend and a best-girl-friend (which is you), you have to take a backseat. With her bf in the scene, things will not be the same anymore between you friends. The time will be much divided, with the bf getting the big chunk of it. Actually in a way, I understand her predicament. Im married and had 4 kids. Before I used to hang around with friends for dinner and coffee. But lately, I prefer to spend it with my family instead. Her not wanting to meet you for coffee or dinner isn't wrong, so is your wanting to meet her. It's simply different preferences. The last thing you should do is to put pressure on her and remind her how much she's not hanging around with you anymore. Instead, simply tell her "how much you missed her". Hey, it's not like you lost the friendship! Call her up and chat with her.
2007-12-04 02:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is moving on another path in her life and does not want so much company with you. When a man comes into the picture a lot of things change. Still be her friend but let her make the next move.
2007-12-04 02:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not plan a get together at one of your homes. That way your bf could interact with hers on a closer level (Possibly have a football game party for Sunday football). Guys usually feel comfortable and communicate more when it is something that they enjoy doing. Then both couples could start getting together more often.
2007-12-04 02:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes girls become attached at the hip to their boyfriends, and it's not that healthy, but you can't tell her that there is more to life than clinging to some guy 100% of the time.
talking to her, as someone else suggested, probably won't do any good.. why lecture someone who is on their way to adulthood? it's useless.
you can ASK her to join you when you go do things from time to time; otherwise, that's all i can think of.
take care.
2007-12-04 02:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her.. y dont you go have a coffee wit her and her bf or you guys could double date....
2007-12-04 02:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem... just invite her and her b/f on a double date.
2007-12-04 02:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by TheLostOne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got the same exact problem!!!
wait for her to get ahold of you... it'll cause problems
2007-12-04 02:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋