when my dad was younger he had to move about 9times due to his mom's decions. teen yrs he was depress,angry,& lonely.18 he left and haven't spoken to his mom since. he's now 42 has a great healthy happy family, great career that he likes, BMW, etc.
i tried to convince him to talk to her but he wouldn't and gets upset when i bring it up. i'm 17 btw.
2007-12-03 18:00:39 · 9 answers · asked by Jak 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
why is he still mad at his mom?
2007-12-03 18:01:07 · update #1
bc the absence of someone so vital for so long--even if he grew up with her but simply didnt feel she was there for him---is a very hard thing to deal with
he may have moved out bc he felt abandoned(i know how this sounds but very possible)
and if she hasnt pursued a relationship with him then i am sure that he feels this way.
2007-12-03 18:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by smittnlittlkitn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel my mom didn't talk to her whole family from the time I was 8 until I was about 26 and she still won't talk to her brothers.I don't understand it either but I don't know the whole story of why they don't talk.To many hurt feelings or bad memories.I feel like she is the one who has to live with it.If I was you I just would leave it alone because if you keep pushing him then the more he won't want to change it.Just like as a teenager when he tells you not to do something you really want to you want to do it that much more.He will not want to do it even more if you keep pushing him.Not only that you might put stress on your relationship between you and your dad.Just love him and let him make his own choices.
2007-12-04 01:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by kristalmaggard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say that your father has issues with his mother, which have caused him emotional pain during the course of his life... so it's not abnormal to become upset or irritated when the memories come back.
i have severed my relationship with my father because of my childhood, and haven't talked to him for 17 years... i'd like to keep it that way... too many bad memories of abuse and a terrible home life....
so, i can relate to your father... maybe keep the topic on your own feelings for him -- let him know you care and love him if you think he's doing a good job as a dad... and just drop the subject of his mom.... you didn't live his childhood and teen years, and there might be things he's not talked about.
some things are better left alone.
2007-12-03 18:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There may be more to the story than what he told you. Ask another relative about the facts and maybe an uncle or an aunt can either help you understand or talk to your dad for you. Good luck!
2007-12-03 18:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by Precious 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there were other issues than just moving house a lot. Leave it be.
2007-12-03 19:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by who me? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he shoyld be greatful for having any parents my were died before i was 21 and pregnant at 21.so he should think about it before it is to late. she might not be there when he wants her. i miss my parents alot i have a 13,and 10 year old now.
2007-12-03 18:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by mags 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
let it go, it is your dad's issue, and he has the right not to talk about it.. when you are out on your own, if you still what to know what the issue is, then go see your grandparent and ask her. until then leave it alone.
2007-12-03 18:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by churchonthewayseniors 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He can't let it go, and forgive.
2007-12-03 18:18:34 · answer #8 · answered by nic 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he will have his reasons so don't bug him
2007-12-03 21:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋