My 9 yr old daughter has been out of diapers since she was 3, for the past few weeks she has mentioned to me that she wants to start wearing diapers again and she wants to be treated like a baby. When i asked her why, she said it will make her feel better. I wasnt so sure about it at first, but now i am starting to get to the point where im thinking about her happiness. I dont feel it would be child abuse, she wants this. Too many parents out there dont let their kids do things, cause they are afraid of how they will look. Any advice?
2007-12-03 17:19:30 · 14 answers · asked by mom r 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
btw. I do not feel she is doing this for attention, we spend alot of time together and do alot of things together, just me and her, shopping, vacations, etc. When i asked her about what she thinks people will think of her, she said she dont care.
2007-12-03 17:24:27 · update #1
I have repeatedly asked her if there are problems at school of any kind and she has told me no repeatedly, she has always been upfront with me and honest about everything, its how i raised her. I also asked her if she had started bleeding down there (it has happened at that age) and she told me no.
2007-12-03 17:34:34 · update #2
I think she is stressed out, somewhere else in her life, probably school or with friends, so she is reverting back to a stage when she was well cared for and secure, i.e. the diaper stage. There is something going on that is making her feel insecure, that is for sure.
I do not think this should be encouraged, since it seems to be a cover up for what is really the problem. Talk to her about what other things are going on in her life. Maybe she has a caretaker she is uncomfortable with, or a teacher who neglects her studies (or who she feels neglects her during school) or she may be teased by peers.
There is an underlying problem here, and i don't think diapers are the answer.
Do you think there is any possiblity that she is suffering from PTSD from sexual abuse? this would explain why she is reverting back to a baby stage as well as asking for diapers. She may think that by wearing diapers she can be protecting her parts from anyone touching them. I'm sorry if this is upseting to mention, but if i were a mom i would look into every possibility.
Don't just stop listening to an idea because you think "that could never happen to my baby" but it happens every day. I really hope that your case, this is not what is going on. I hope i'm wrong.
2007-12-03 17:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by Malina 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
My eight year old has the same problem of wetting the bed. His problem goes deeper than laziness. He is autistic and AD-HD. He takes many medications that put him into such a deep sleep that he doesn't know that he has to go. But, the best advise I can give you is limit the amount of fluids that are taken after a certain hour. Have him go to the bathroom before bed and depending on what time you go to bed, go in by your son wake him up and tell him he needs to go and try to use the bathroom again. And if you are using the name brand of pull-ups those are really like diapers. I use the under jammers. This way if he goes to spend the night at a friends they won't hear the sound of a diaper when they are playing around. My son says they feel like real underwear and can't tell he is wearing them. As for the nine year old ask him how would he feel is the roles were reversed? How would he react if his younger brother was laughing at him for wearing a diaper? This just might change his mood as to how he acts towards his younger siblings. And as the doctor is concerned he needs to do everything possible for your son. Even if this means that you get a second opinion or even ask for a referal to see an urologist. Your son may not like some of the tests that need to be performed but, in the end you just may get some answers also. Besides, there are people that wet their beds until the are teenagers before they out grow the problem. Just have faith that everything will turn out in the end.
2016-05-28 02:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately only you can answer this question as to what to do, only you know the sincerity of your daughter and the reasoning for it.
I think most children go through this at some time or other as they grow up, usually there are younger siblings around getting all the attention and this is the reason.
That being said, it could also be that she is maturing and is curious about her body and also scared at some of the changes she may be experiencing or is about to experience and she is looking for something familiar and that was comfortable and protected her.
Diapers provide those feelings of security and stability in someone her age and even older. Wearing diapers, no matter what age, hurts no one. I see no problem that if she were my daughter, of putting her in diapers, at least for awhile. Let her see what it is like, let her be the baby and live the life of one. She may decide she really doesn't want to be a baby but still wants to wear the diapers because of the security feeling they provide.
If you let her wear them for awhile and do what she wants, if you are that close and she is as up front with you as you say she is, then after a time, you could sit down with her and ask her how she is doing with the diapers and if it has helped in making her feel better. This could open up a time of discussion that could bring out the real reason behind her wanting to wear them in the first place. Once you find that out and discuss things with her, then you will need to decide whether to allow her to continue to wear them or give them up again for the second time in her life.
You want what is best for your child, sometimes that can mean doing something that others think strange.
Good luck.
2007-12-05 14:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm only 18 so if you don't want to read my answer I'd totally understand
I work with kids at the hospital, which is where you see and hear most of this kind of stuff
going back to previous stages and wanting to be treated as a baby is normally what we see after the child has gone through something stressful
has anything changed at home or at school, with friends or family?
But, kids also go through phases
Once again, I'm only 18, so I remember desiring this same exact scenario
I beleive I was 7
But, not being a parent, i can't really say whether to allow this or not
But if you do allow it, and want her to change her mind, remember "she wants to be treated like a baby"
put her to bed earlier? This may change her mind
2007-12-03 17:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
If you are thinking of her happiness, then think of how she will be teased and called a baby and all the stuff that children do. I am sure she will thank you later when she is older if you don't let her wear diapers. Sometimes there are good reasons why we don't let are kids do things.
2007-12-03 17:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Um... i dont think thats a good idea. Is she having problems at school? Maybe she's expessing a want to be your number one focus again, and she doesnt quite know what she really wants? I think that letting her wear diapers could damage her mentally later in life, and she will probably regret it and dislike you for it. I would be very careful, and try to steer her away from the idea. But, you are her mother an its up to you. Good luck.
2007-12-03 17:26:44 · answer #6 · answered by lolitablackhearts 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should let her wear diapers when she is at home .
She probably wants to wear them because there comfortable.
When I was young I always wanted to wear diapers again , then when I was 13 I bought some diapers and enjoyed wearing them and wetting them . I wear them sometimes , it is comfortable and secure feeling to wear diapers .
You should buy her some diapers or goodnites to wear .Just don't let her wear them to school , kids would make fun of her.
Well good luck and I hope you make her happy .
If you want someone to talk about this email me ash2mk@yahoo.com .
2007-12-05 10:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by Justin Thomas 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your daughter may very well be an infantilist or maybe just curious about diapers but I think that it would be best to accept her wishes, make rules so that she won't get caught by her freinds and make her live a normal life outside of the house.
2007-12-05 15:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by Joey G 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It more than likely is just a stage but I would go through with it to show her it's not all fun and games I would treat her just like a baby. LOL I would put her to bed around 6:00p.m. I would give her baby food for dinner and milk in the bottle at night. And if she liked it then I would go see a psychiatrist
2007-12-03 17:45:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsey Brown 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
somehow I don't believe you. The fact you have just joined up is one clue. Also you have not answered any questions and Another is that you are actually saying you are thinking about it. Sane parents would never allow this. If you are serious then you need to get her help. If she won't talk to you then seek proffessional help. This is not normal
2007-12-03 20:30:09 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋