24month old with NO SLEEP SCHEDULE!!! HELP!!?

Question

Hi all, my BF has a 24 month old girl. She lives with her mother and he has her Thursday thru Sunday. This little girl has not sleep schedule what so every. It just ridiculous.

Now here's the thing. She is currently in day care. We are not sure when she naps during the day there or if she evens takes a nap. But what we have realzied is that everyday between 5 and 7 she takes a NAP. Then she wakes up and is up until 3 sometimes 4/5 o'clock in the morning, then goes to sleep and wakes up around 10am. Now I've tried to tell my BF that she needs a sleep schedule and that it needs to be inforced at both house holds. Cause if he does it and his baby mama doesn't, its not going to work.

It like he really isn't serious about, but then complains when he doesn't get enough sleep cause she wakes up early.

I've told him that she needs to nap around 12:30p or 1p and sleep for about 1 to 2 hours and then get her up, that way she can go back to sleep around 7 or 8.

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I've tried to tell him also, that he doesn't need to play with her in the bed, because she thinks its a place to play. He's done that for so long. When he puts her in the bed and says night-night she plays under the seats. She thinks its a game. Not cool. But he's more into to not hurting her feelings, instead of trying to enforce sleep.

Its so frustrating. What can I do to help the situation, besides telling him that he needs to work out something with his baby mama.

See the thing with her is that she works 2:30p to 11p. So the baby gets picked up from daycare by her grandma and is with her until her mom comes home at 11. We figure that since the baby wants to go to sleep between 5 and 7, it has to do with the grandma putting her to sleep. Then shes up to whatever time with her mom and that why thing are the way the are at our house.

Please some advice on how to get this to work.

Answer 1

well that sounds like a busy schudle for her but there is hope first of all talk to the daycare ask what time her naps are a nap should be around 12-2 with a 2hour sleep peroid because at 5-7 that's to late to sleep then the child has two much energy ask if the child can be put down around 12 or so htye should be able to as for home your friend can start by doing a bed time routine my kids is (6-2yr) 4-5pm play 6-7 dinner 8bath and settle down time no more rough playing story , snack , slow things then at 9 bed and then they are fast asleep it has worked so well that even when im away from home routine is done bed at 9 they even fall asleep at 9 even if were out at nine your friend needs to stick to the process no matter what consistincy is the trick even if she goes with family for the time until shes good on the rountine it should be stuck too because then she will know i am going to grandma stay up lte but if everybody trys it will work and i agree playing in the bed will make the child think it is fun time instead show her that her room is a palce to relax he can read a story or talk about the day if his daughter begins to play try not to put much attention to it and she will think my daddy is serious hope this helps

Answer 2

>>what we have realzied is that everyday between 5 and 7 she takes a NAP.

Why are you letting her nap right before bedtime? Just think how wide awake you'd be if you got a nap this late in the day!
Why not ask her daycare about her napping schedule? If he doesn't pick her up have her mom ask.

Answer 3

I would be really clear with him that he needs to talk to the girl's mother and her grandmother, and they all need parenting classes. Then, frankly, if I were you, I would walk away from this situation, because it sounds like they are all ignorant and immature, and this is not going to get any better at all.