Should children have more freedom?

Question

Should children have more control on how their parents should raise them?

Can it bridge the communication gap between children and parents?

Can it stop children from going into rebellion?

Answer 1

In my opinion, no, children should be children and have a child hood. They do not need to be making decisions that will affect them for the rest of their lives. I do believe in giving them some freedom as they grow and mature, but is should not be an automatic thing. Some children are not as mature as others regardless of the age. I think each child is different and should be treated that way. Children are going to rebell regardless of what parents do, that is just how things go and giving them more control is certainly not the answer.

Answer 2

Yes and no. Parents should definitely be the ones in control, but parents should listen to their children and judge if what the child asks is reasonable. There has to be a tradeoff between discipline and freedom-- I've seen too much of both, and I'm not sure which is worse. If you don't give the child any freedom whatsoever, the child will just be looking for ways to rebel and gain freedom. If you give the child too much control, he will never learn that there are expectations for his behavior.

Answer 3

Children don't know how to raise children. This is why human's weren't meant to reproduce at a young age. You take time to learn from people who know more and have more experience in order to gain character, morals and responsibilities. Then, when body and mind are more prepared, is right about when all the hormones jump in and prevent a teenager from creating logical thought. This is an instinct, to prevent the logistics of what happens when you have sex, in order to trick your mind into allowing your body to reproduce at a young age.

All children rebel, regardless of decade they were raised in. Rebelliion is the first stage of independance when your child makes you understand that they are learning to think for themselves. The parents role at this stage is more to guide their children through their life than to tell them what to do, but I don't think this behavior is justified in any child until they reach their mid teens (15-16.)

As far as communication goes, that is dependant on the person. Someone who can't communicate with their own parents or spouse will probably be just as communicative and emotionally closed off with their children. Allowing a child to raise themselves with a parent like this will only create undiciplined children, or very independant children (depending on the wisdom of the soul and personality and character built in the child during such a short time.)

Answer 4

Yes, they should have more control. Yes, it can bridge the communication gap between children and parents. Yes, if parents and children have good communication it can stop children from going into rebellion.

Answer 5

communication is important and even more so is listening. Listen to what the children say and pay attention to what they don't say. Spend time with them. Get to know there friends.
Try and come up with answers that both of you can work with.
Trust is earned, and so is respect. Let them know you love them and work with them. I remember I ended up going to A concert I had know desire at all to go to but it helped me bond with my daughter. I told her she couldn't go, but after we talked about it, the answer was that we went togather. The answer is to be there for them, and that means sometimes saying no. Then other times it means
yes with other restrictions. Just take time to get to know your kids. A book called young people ask, questions that work. It helped me. It's by Jehovah's Witnesses. It has bible scriptures me and my kids read togather even after they were in there 20's

Answer 6

Um, no, they shouldn't have control over how parents raise them. Parents have the job of parenting to do.

Do you have children? Are you a child yourself?

Answer 7

self discipline is one of the most important things a parent can give their children