Or is that really unromantic and too practical?
2007-12-03 16:53:09 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
aww Frogme, You're so sweet... I'm very happy for you. And not in a bitter, rejected, heartbroken, kill your pet gold fish and feed it to the cat psycho way either...
Genuinely happy......
2007-12-03 17:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by SweetElf 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, as someone who has already been in that EXACT same position, I can honestly tell you that it didn't steal ANY of the romance from my eventual proposal.
My (now) Fiance and I had been together over six years and had known since about year 1 that we would get married when the time and finances were right.
He told me all the time he'd marry me some day and it was just sort of something that we knew. I even helped pick out my ring. Although, he held on to the ring for a little while before finally giving it to me and proposed all on his own without my knowing when it was coming. .
Now, almost seven years in, our wedding date is March 22, 2008 and we had a perfectly LOVELY proposal even though I knew far ahead of time he wanted to marry me.
I hope this wasn't too long winded and I hope it helps you out some. Good luck to you!
2007-12-04 00:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by MacManders 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong if the subject of marriage is brought up and you are very sure that she is the one u wanna marry. Some hints here and there is a nice way to assure the gf. BUt do not bring it up if u wanna to plan a surprise proposal.
Official proposal is crucial too cos I am sure you wanna memorable recollections where u both can reminisce when u are old...
2007-12-04 00:58:12 · answer #3 · answered by glitzynicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. My boyfriend and I have been discussing marriage for a long time and we're not engaged. At least we have a possibility in mind. If he proposed right now, I'd still be surprised because I don't know when it's going to happen. Sometimes I think that the whole surprise proposal can set you up for a huge disappointment if the other declines. Besides, if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen. Life goes on and so will you.
2007-12-04 00:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by short 'n sweet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should say "honey, I will propose to you" or "honey, I will marry you". Instead, just drop little hints...
For example, when you're talking say "yeah, when we get married we'll do this..." or "if we got married, what kind of wedding would you want" or "i love the thought of spending forever with you"
Don't say. "I'll marry you, don't worry, the proposal's coming"
The proposal should be a MAJOR thoughtful surprise!
2007-12-04 02:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Brooks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. I don't think so. If you do promise to marry her, then surprise her with a good proposal. I know this one guy who proposed to his wife as they're walking through the mall. He said ' Let's go get a ring.' And several years later, they're still married!
2007-12-04 01:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by curious gal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is rude.
It is a huge tease, especially if the woman is in love with you. It is a 'stringing along' tactic, even if it is your true feelings you must wait until you propose. You can speak of most anything just shy of talking of marriage. Unless you intend to propose THAT day.
2007-12-04 01:26:52 · answer #7 · answered by pink 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is really nice of you to tell her. Yes, it does lose some of the surprise when you do propose but then again she does not know when you will propose. It is something she can look forward to. Good luck.
2007-12-04 00:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by Mayahime 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually a mature couple is dating long enough, around two years, so they've probably already discussed getting married.
However, the exact proposal is usually a surprise!
2007-12-04 08:18:22 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend tells me all the time that he is going to marry me. He hasnt yet proposed but he is going to in the new year.
2007-12-04 01:57:41 · answer #10 · answered by AMP 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uuuggghh dont thats horrible! like alot of other people have said so far its like saying sure someday id love to marry you... but... not now... and yes its super unromantic! but if you must maybe consider a promise ring and be like i promise to surprise you with a better one in the future... gives a hint as to what you want without you making it seem like your just trying to get in her pants
2007-12-04 01:09:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋