She was mad at me. I want to teach her that she has to find other ways to express her anger. I also want her to think twice before running away again. ideas?
2007-12-03 16:47:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well how old is your daughter? Make sure even though you're more then likely highly upset with her that you're glad that she's back. What was the issue that caused her to get upset? Has she been upset about something else? Has she withdrawn from you? Make sure you tell her no matter how much you may upset her that you love her and will always be there for her.
2007-12-03 16:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by Steven R 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First I have to ask, How old is she? And is she at an age where she is almost old enough to make her own decisions... If she is a Young teen, i would tell her you are going to take her to a correctional institute for kids and actually call and have information to give her and show her the information... The thing is, you have to put a certain amount of "FEAR" into your children, in order to get them to realize right and wrong.... You have probably given her, her way since she was a baby, and she isn't taking you seriously.... You have to let her know, some how some way that you mean business.... And don't be afraid to law down the law.... If it works, it works, if not, you can't say you didn't at least try.... I would let her know she has consequences to pay due to her irrational behavior.... Also, you can speak with her guidance counselor at school and let them be aware of your problem and ask them for help and support in trying to do what is best or your daughter.... many times embarrassment works wonders. and it would be for her own good Best Of Luck, I was once just like her and my dad literally beat me in top submission... that I wouldn't advise, but I realized how serious it all was once he did....
2007-12-04 00:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by wva_butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You gotta make it clear that running away is not an option. Ask her how she'd feel if you got fed up and ran away on her. Let her know, it's not an option. She could wind up dead. Or at the very least, Children's Services will get involved and place her in a home--not yours.
Make a deal with her that if she needs to cool off, you will provide transportation to her aunt's or grandmother's or some other trusted family member. But no more running away.
Research with her about Amber alert and children who have disappeared. Do not try to "scare" her, just educate her. The facts are scary enough....
2007-12-04 01:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by mithril 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I have a great idea for you. Go on the "Maury" show. I have seen him and his staff straighten out little girls like yours. Or find her someone to talk to that has been out there in the streets to show her that life at home is a piece of cake in comparison. Tough love. If she threatens you about it again, take her to the nearest shelter for wayward girls, and tell her to call you when she changes her mind and her attitude. If you don't put your foot down NOW things will probably get much much worse before getting better.
2007-12-04 01:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Help her develop a better relationship with her. Show her that you care about her and love her. No punshiment. A punishment is just going to want to make her do it again. Love her and care about her and tell her how worried you were about her when she ran away. Do something special with her.
2007-12-04 01:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention her age.
Kids really need to learn how to deal with their anger and frustrations and to find an outlet for them.... they also need someone around who reminds them "if you have a problem, i'm always here to listen, even if you are upset with me".
Kids need to learn to communicate their feelings in a calm way... and to find good solutions.
take care. and perhaps you can find a book at the library or major book store on expressing anger for children... good books on many life topics are written for children these days. it might be worth a look. take care
2007-12-04 03:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her about why she ran a way and what she should do when she gets mad.I think you also should try working to get closer with your daughter,if you have a good relationship with her she will be more able to talk to you about things.I am a foster parent of an 18 yr. old girl and we don't always get along but we are able to talk.It is great to have a friendship with your child.
2007-12-04 10:29:28 · answer #7 · answered by kristalmaggard 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Joes mom said it perfectly:
""beat her a** till she cant sit down for a week !!!! then take her to the sheriffs office and show her the photos of people who ran away and died or got killed looked like & what happened to them. . their are freaks & rapist out there.. make her understand its gonna be your way until she gets old enough to move out""
2007-12-04 08:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by sugarpie2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I did that when I was 14. I got my *** kicked when my parents found me for making such a bad choice! Never ran away again!
I was mad at the time, but love them for it now! Who knows what would have happened to me if I did it again, their are ALOT of crazy people out there!
2007-12-04 00:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mamma of 3 4 · 5⤊ 3⤋
beat her a** till she cant sit down for a week !!!! then take her to the sheriffs office and show her the photos of people who ran away and died or got killed looked like & what happened to them. . their are freaks & rapist out there.. make her understand its gonna be your way until she gets old enough to move out.
2007-12-04 01:05:59 · answer #10 · answered by joes_mom86 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋