I took the chance and actually found an old boyfriend who is still local. I ended up calling to say hi. For some unknown reason I started thinking about him and wondered if he was still married and how he was doing. It was a spontanous moment on my part to call him.
I think we were both in shock when I actully reconized his voice and when I told him it was me, he went into shock.
We had a great conversation for about 45 minutes, he's divorced BUT he has a girlfriend of 2 years. She sat there staring at him the whole time he was on the phone except once to leave the room when he said "I have to see you" .
I told him after all these years, I was more expecting him to be married and really just wanted to see how he was doing. He treated me so good, but he asked me to marry him when I thought I was to young. I know I broke his heart, we lived together for 2 years.
He wants 2 see me this week, should I ? continued ~
2007-12-03 16:37:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After talking today, he told me he never stopped loving me. I'm scared now, because I told him, I don't want to cause any trouble w/ you & your girlfriend. He said don't worry.
I said are you happy? He said, "I don't know how to answer that". what does that mean? I guess I'm going to find out, but I need to be more prepared. I can't believe I actually have butterflies in my stomach like I was 18 again.
What should I do?
2007-12-03 16:40:58 · update #1
No, I am not dense at all. We did fall in love, he's 3 yrs. older then me when he asked me to marry him, I was18. Life was great with him, I only got scared of commiting to marriage at such an early age. I know this guy loved me, he kept in contact w/ my B.I.L. to see how I was doing when I got married. I know for a fact this guy is sincere & I have already gone over the "payback is a bear issue in my mind". I asked him if he had grey hair & he laughed and said."I don't know...I shave my head". OMG. LOL... he laughed too. Yeah, it's going to be weird, he had a great body too. I wonder if he's put on weight and such. I am actually still a size 4. I run into people from HS and they tell me I haven't changed a bit. I know different and so does my hair dresser:) I am so nervous and I know he is too because he said, hey, I am so old now. LOL...I said no you are just better..I didn't know what else to say, I'm OLDER too. OMG I am so nervous & have to get my hair colored. Whew !
2007-12-03 17:17:22 · update #2
GO GO GO . You have one chance at love again why are you asking us instead of getting ready for your date ?????Good luck and let us know what happens .
2007-12-03 16:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by knightrunner13 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this will hurt the girlfriend pretty badly - if they really aren't good together, he needs to make a decision, and it isn't your fault if you factor into that decision. Just make sure he is being sincere with you and himself before committing any time or emotional energy. Also remember that this might set a precedent, and think about whether you would want the same thing to happen to you two years down the track.
2007-12-04 00:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by gedanken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still like him enough? the only problem with things like this is ultimately there are too many hang-ups, which create pressure and often make relationships go sour later. he may have left-over resentment and while things might be smooth-sailing for a while, building trust and solid foundations take time. think it through, cuz sweetheart you aren't really 18 anymore. if it's worth it, take the plunge, for yourself, but be ready to face the consequences if any.
2007-12-04 00:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by rum_fun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's intense
i say, see him!! there are no kids involved.. and it's not like you're going to have sex.. you're just meeting up
it's a tough one though
and btw sounds like he's not happy
AND (addition) if you did get together and decide to pursue the relationship.. he could always leave the other girl. he doesn't sound like he wants to be with her anyways..
If you didn't click for some reason then you could move on and feel good about it.
2007-12-04 00:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by :Sheila: 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He hasn't seen you in 30 years, has no idea what you look like, doesn't know what your hobbies, life goals or dreams are and yet he says he loves you and this gives you butterflies? Are you really that dense?
2007-12-04 00:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This sounds like a terrible, awful, stupid idea. I get the curiosity, but if he's not bringing his girlfriend along, this will not end well.
2007-12-04 00:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by comfort eagle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go for it love rarely comes along once let alone twice in a lifetime
2007-12-04 00:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by April T 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he isn't married and doesn't have kids, you should see him and see what happens.
2007-12-04 00:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by ftz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋