My roommate is gay but he has a "girlfriend". They talk every night and it gets in the way of our relationship. I'd like to think of him as my friend, but this girl is always trashed and encourages him to be the same way. I don't care that my friend is gay, but this girl makes him drink a lot and says nasty things to me. I have only tried to help him and do not judge him. She is really bad and am I wrong for not liking her?
2007-12-03 15:54:32 · 19 answers · asked by Boomer 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your being a good friend by not judging him. However, he is being deceptive with this girl, by not telling her how he really feels. She is not good for wanting to get him drunk all the time, but he is a big boy and goes along with her. I do have to ask without jumping to assuming, are you gay yourself? Or, are you just close with this roomate and just don't want to see him hurt?
2007-12-03 16:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you're not wrong at all. Sounds like your roommate has a drinking problem and likes to hang out with his drinking buddy. It's not your fault your roomie has questionable taste when choosing his friends. Unfortunately there's really nothing you can do so don't even bother trying. Alcoholism is a disease that only the victim can cure. Outside "help" is usually interpreted as interference and usually tends to exacerbate the problem rather than ameliorate the situation. Good luck. Maybe contact Al Anon. It's a support network for friends and family of alcoholics.
2007-12-04 00:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. McGoo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely not wrong for feeling that way. It is good that you are mature enough to see this behavior and identify the problem. It may be best to speak with your roommate (as a friend) and explain how you feel about the situation, and then ask how he feels. At least it would stop you from feeling the tension bottled up inside.
Good luck!!
2007-12-03 23:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by Lauren J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure why him being gay is pertinent to this question. But as far as the girl goes, It is fine that you don't approve of her and I would advise you to point out some of the things you have noticed to you roommate. Let him know that his behavior alters in a negative way when she is around.
2007-12-03 23:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, if he's gay why does he have a gf? If he hasn't told u he's gay don't assume that he is. Second stick up for urself when she says mean stuff to u and when she tries to get him to do stuff he would be better off not doing cuz if he's gay, he will prolly take ur side since he doesn't have any real feelings towards her.
2007-12-04 00:01:44 · answer #5 · answered by Abby Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you jealous of this relationship? You need to step back and think about Why you don't like her before you approach your roommate and tell him. If what she is doing is hurting him, it is being a good friend to talk about it.
2007-12-03 23:58:12 · answer #6 · answered by vince_pballer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN!
If your friends friend is cute, bang the hell out of her and stuff her mouth. This should stop her from talking a lot of $Hi*. It's cool that your close to your roomate and just think that with all the BS thats out there, ie violent crimes, drugs, that you're lucky that this not such a big problem.
2007-12-03 23:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's no rule that says you have to like her just because she hangs out with your roommate.
2007-12-03 23:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by Richard B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. you sincerely care about your roommate and don't want to see him get hurt or hurt himself, which is exactly what it sounds like he's doing.
it sounds like it has nothing to do with him being gay.
i'd try to talk to your roommate again, and let him know that you really care about him and are worried about his actions.
2007-12-03 23:58:32 · answer #9 · answered by nDn.DiVa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she insults you and is a bad influence on your friend then you have every right not to like her. but it's none of your business who your friend hangs out with. all the same, if it bothers you, you should tell him
2007-12-03 23:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋