A little over a year ago I became quick friends with a girl at work, we just have lots in common - and after work we started going out for drinks with some other friends. Then we started hanging out just the two of us, watching TV, going to movies, things like that. In the 6 months we've been hanging out, nothing has ever happened.
Since we talk, she knows that I'm in 6 year relationship that has gone pretty bad and for about a month now she's been really different with me. It started when I found out that at work people were joking that we were secretly dating - everybody knows I live with my girlfriend and that we're hanging out a lot, but I told her it bothered me because my relationship does suck. Then she tells me in a joking way that maybe she's just waiting for me to end things with my girlfriend so we can date.
Is that the type of thing girls say to a guyfriend? I think there's always a bit of serious in every comment, but I don't know how girls work.
2007-12-03 15:13:17 · 16 answers · asked by J.Slope 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One odd thing that stands out is that she invited me to a friend's theatre show, which was a really girly-type show and I said I would go. The next day I asked her the name of the show, and she got frusterated with me and asked why I wanted to go, said I was weird for wanting to go, and that I just don't get it. I asked what I don't get, and she told me she would tell me after she had a few beers. Then that night she tells me nothing was wrong, that she made everything up. The only thing she told me was that she had dated guys that wouldn't go this show with her, and it was odd.
Then she kind of stops talking to and emailing me as much as she used to, and tells me to drop it.
I don't know exactly how I feel, sometimes I like her but I'm not sure if I'm just confused because of how bad my current relationship is, like the grass is greened. I'm not even sure if I'm thinking too much about this girl, and screwing up our friendship.
2007-12-03 15:20:05 · update #1
I too believe that there's a bit of serious in every comment. But to be fair you don't want to jump straight from one to the other.
Would you leave your live-in if there wasn't a girly on standby?Or are you making your new friendship an excuse to leave? is your new friendship part of the reason things aren't great at home?
I think you need to look more inward than to see what your new friends comment could mean. If it doesn't mean what you want are you gonna stay in your current relationship?
2007-12-03 15:16:21 · answer #1 · answered by Bronson 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know one single girl who would make that comment without meaning it truly. If it was said with a joking tone, it was only to hide the seriousness strictly to guard herself in case you just shot her down and went on a tangent about how you only see her as a friend. She would be crushed.
So the joking is a facade, and she really is hoping you will date her.
If she is being patient and not trying to push you into anything, she is obviously a great girl. And if you are unhappy in this relationship, end it and snatch this great girl up! Even if you and the new girl don't work out, it's always better to be single and happy with yourself than live day to day absolutely miserable.
Good luck!!
2007-12-03 15:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by VB 6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha, well seems to me that she does like you atleast a little bit. A lot of people, both sexs joke about things whether they like you like that or not. But I mean if your relationship is bad at the moment, maybe you should really decide if ending the relationship is the right thing to do. Decide who and what you really want. Do you want to continue that 6 year relationship what that someone, or move on? Take time to think about it. Dont jump quickly!
2007-12-03 15:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if your relationship sucks, get out of it. THEN, start thinking about this other girl.
She might just like you because she can't have you. Then again, she might genuinely have feelings for you. I think you need to communicate. First with your current girlfriend about why your relationship sucks. Secondly with this other girl and try to figure out where exactly she's going with her comments. Any respectable woman doesn't make a move on a man in a relationship.
2007-12-03 15:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Brooks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably was only half joking. She doesn't want to straight out say, "Get rid of your girlfriend." To me though it really seems like she wants this relationship to go somewhere besides the friendship road. She wouldn't spend so much one on one time with you, or make comments about getting together if that weren't true.
If she didn't want a romantic relationship I think she'd make that much clear, I know I do with my male friends.
2007-12-03 15:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.k., look dude it's like this.
#1- This girl would not spend so much time with you if she didn't really like you and enjoy spending time with you.
#2-You said yourself that your 6 year relationship sucks and it sounds like you spend more time with your co-worker than you do with your girlfriend.
#3-She wasn't joking when she said she's waiting for you to end your sucky relationship so y'all can date. Girl's don't joke about things like that. She said it in a joking way cause she was too nervous to tell you straight up.
You have a choice to make.
A- Stay with sucky girlfriend who does not make you happy...
or
B-End relationship with sucky girlfriend and add romance to a friendship that already works and obviously makes you happy.
2007-12-03 15:46:07 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 02:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she will make comments but try to pass them off as a joke just in case you don't respond so she wont look like a total fool. Unless she flirts with everyone, then I wouldn't worry about it. But, unless I want something from I guy, I don't make comments like that.
2007-12-03 15:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by In<3w/myBOO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't hang out with a guy that much unless I thought there might be something in it for me in the long run.
Ask yourself this: why do you spend so much time with her, if you already have a girlfriend? Aren't you hoping for the same thing?
2007-12-03 15:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes hinting at it yes.
She definitely is there for when your relationship ends. Which by the way should be TODAY.
Why does it suck so bad. 6 years is a LONG time man. IF it sucks now then do all three a favor and end it.
2007-12-03 15:18:34 · answer #10 · answered by truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋