After one month she started crying more and more.Now she is terrified and she won`t stop crying unless the teacher is one on one with her.The teacher told me that she is not ready for pre-school and she can`t give her attention all the time. I never had a full time babysitter but she stayed couple times with a sitter and she was fine.Now I can`t leave her anywhere by herself because she`s crying a lot untill I come to pick her up.I don`t know what to do-should I find a different school,wait,is she really not ready for any of this?(i signed her for dance class and the minute I left she started crying-even ,that first she was all excited).Thank You for help....
2007-12-03 14:37:12 · 8 answers · asked by aga 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
ask the teacher if you can stay for a couple days. tell your daughter you will be in the back of the room. maybe two days later wait right outside and tell her you will be outside of the room. then keep gradually move farther and farther away and viola. she is okay
2007-12-03 14:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by erin electric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not be ready. In our community, the community center, does some parent/child classes, then eases in time where the parents go off and the kids go off. While sometimes cold turkey is better (where they cry the first couple minutes then get over it) this approach sounds like it may work better for you. Id say look into other programs your community, Y, etc might have. Ive seen dance classes like this too. Plus anyone (even 3 year olds) are more confident at things they are good at. If she's in ballet or tap, practice at home, pretending youre the teacher or get a DVD. Then again - you could also play preschool.
2007-12-03 22:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by lillilou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I work in a daycare, so I can give you a teacher's perspective. It is totally normal for your daughter to have seperation anxiety! First of all you need to reassure your daughter that you care about her. See if the teacher will allow you to send in your child's favorite stuffed animal with her, or her favorite blanket. If not, try giving your daughter something of yours to remind her that you are coming back for her. For instance, take a scarf that you have and make it a belt for her so that she will have something to remind her of you. Secondly, while the teacher may not be able to give ALL her time to your daughter, she certainly should be able to spend a few minutes with her every morning to get her used to the classroom and the other children. Crying is NOT a sign that your daughter is not ready for school! If the teacher is unwilling to help your daughter out, then yes, you should look for a new school.
As far as dance class goes, try to stay until she gets used to the atmosphere! If she knows you're there if she needs you she'll relax and start to enjoy herself! It may take up some of your valuable time, but it sounds like it would be worth it in the end!
2007-12-03 22:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is similar because she is always with me but I don't work.I was a daycare provider and kids would always cry and then be fine after the parents finally left.It's a hard situation but maybe a different daycare might help if this ones not willing to provide much help to you.Maybe she needs to hold onto a favorite toy or something of yours to help calm her.Also if you could take baby steps instead of her going full-time try a couple days a week.I wouldn't push her into the dance unless she decides she wants to because it might be too much change all at once for her.Good luck:)
2007-12-03 23:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by superstar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try the dance class again and dont leave you can stay for those, if you cant find a studio that will let you stay
also get away from her more
try daycare a couple days a week or get a sitter for the same amount of time
get her out of preschool she's not ready to be away from you
you need to get her ready for that
2007-12-04 00:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by squeaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What really helped me with my oldest daughter was to do a lot of talking and reassuring her that mom will be back. I also did a lot of one on one with her to reassure her that I loved her and that I would never leave her. I would also put my perfume on the inner part of her wrist so if she started to miss me all she had to do was to smell the perfume. I also put a bit of my lipstick in the inner part of her white ankle socks so she would have a visual as well. I always told her to close her eyes and to visualize me. I would reward her also if she did well that day. It takes patience and a lot of reassuring with love and various other techniques. You have to find out what is best for you child. Use your imagination and try to get at her level so she will understand that you will return or anything that will make her more comfortable. You might also let her wear a necklace of yours anything so she can associate it with you.
2007-12-04 00:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there an another child that may be picking on her in preschool?That may be the reason she doesnt want to go.Or the teacher might have sent her to timeout and she's scared because she thinks that the teacher doesnt like her.My daughter was like that the first time she got sent to timeout at preschool cause she came home whinng that "ms. teresa doesnt like her no more she put me in timeout" so i had to explaine to her that she got put in time out because she did something wrong and that ms teresa isnt mad at her she was just showing you that you cant misbehave in class and that has she sent any other kids to time out and she told me yeah.i told her see she still likes she does it to the other kids.since then she has been fine in preschool except for today.....lol.She didn't get enough sleep last night and all she did in school today was whine and cry.anyways have you asked your daughter why shes acting like that in school?she will probley tell you why and if its because the kids are mean let her teacher know but to me 3 is really too young to be in preschool because they are still very clingy to mommy and daddy,that may be the reason she acts like that because she doesnt understand that she cant always be with mommy and daddy all the time...but thats my opionin....lol
2007-12-03 22:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by ShreekyDaStonerLette 420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geez, this thing is going to be a problem, yikes It might do something bad if it has a sibling. beware of that thing you have, experience tells me it is an attention hound
2007-12-03 22:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋